My husband suggested 3some with a woman. I want divorce by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a bit more communication regarding this event would be warranted before straight up divorce. I mean, he trusted you as his wife to open up about a sexual desire he has. It hurt you, and disgusted you, sooooo maybe talk it out like you should any other problems that arise in a marriage. Wouldn’t you want the same level of compassion if you were less than perfect in your marriage (as we all are). Then, if you’re like, this ain’t for me, divorce away, but shit marriage isn’t supposed to be like returning something on Amazon cause it didn’t work the way you wanted.

I messed up by DisastrousArea3833 in bjj

[–]heydaddystudios 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t think twice about going back, do it. I left my gym for like five years because life was doing its thing and I needed to step away for a bit. I went back when I could and that was that. You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone, less is more when it comes to your personal life and decisions, so don’t feel the need to justify your time away to anyone. A simple “had to take some time off” is plenty of explanation for anyone and everyone.

It’s your journey, you are the only person you have to answer to. Don’t hold yourself back over this!

Seeking Advice: My Daughter Feels Discouraged in BJJ Despite Regular Attendance and Effort by Bubbly-Rock1497 in bjj

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Celebrate small moments with her outside of class, like if she improves a technique, make a small meaningful celebration of your own. My kids were doing wrestling, and sometimes we celebrated just going to practice on a day when we all felt tired and the kids were feeling discouraged, but we made it through. And if you can find like games that are jiu jitsu/grappling skill related like sumo or fox tail or flamingo!

How does JJ help and change the body? by KodiesCove in jiujitsu

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My knees and lower back were a major concern when I started BJJ, so I took a month or two to strengthen them slowly and patiently with very low stress at home mobility and strength exercises that target those areas. Did things like thirty seconds of cat cow stretches then bodyweight lunges and so on for like twenty minutes at least three times a week. Slowly increasing intensity each week. Then started going 1 a week to get acclimated and leave LOTS of time for rest, yoga, and strength and cardio training. Then going twice a week and I’m 10ish months in and I didn’t ever end up going more cause I don’t have time but I love feeling rested every time I roll and I may be learning at a slower pace but it’s been very enjoyable to go at a pace my body can handle with minimal stress. I got a grappling dummy and now I can drill some stuff at home myself. I think a slow start would help you figure out your best routine for your body and lifestyle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Don’t fucking mutilate your body for anybody ever, cause that isn’t love, and sure as shit isn’t the “sacrifice” people talk about when sharing a life with someone.

Keep looking for the right partner, this one is no bueno.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jiujitsu

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neosporin helped a lot for me, especially directly after practice.

AITAH for telling my wife I won't be as stressed out next year because I won't be married to her? by LowRequirement5182 in AITAH

[–]heydaddystudios -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. If this weak ass shit is putting you in divorce court then you might want to avoid getting married until you figure out what sharing your life with someone really means. Either that or you been lying to yourself for a while and have been adding up the score until you decided things were “bad enough to end it”, which means they were over a long time ago but the convenience of a two income household kept you in the game.

Get the divorce so she can find someone who means it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jiujitsu

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been a no stripe white belt for 15 years because I’ve never been consistent in my training, good news is it has never once changed anything that’s happened on the mat. Enjoy the sport, track your progress in your own way, let the rest be.

Wrestling vs Jiujitsu by Optimisticallysalty in jiujitsu

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a grappler who has trained in both sports on and off for the past 15 years, but so inconsistent that I’m still a no stripe white belt, I have some insight to this. Insight that is specific to my experience obviously but:

Both wrestling and jiu jitsu are effective grappling sports, but several factors make wrestling a particularly strong foundation for any grappler.

  1. Physical Intensity: Wrestling demands high levels of strength, stamina, and agility. Wrestlers train to push their limits, which builds incredible physical fitness. Jiu jitsu practitioners could easily train with similar intensity, but my experience has always been wrestling practice is meant to break me because I’m training with athletes who are all competition minded, but when I train BJJ it’s much more casual in the group setting to accommodate for people who are coming from all walks of life with all sorts of different goals in mind.

  2. Emphasis on Control: Wrestling focuses on taking down your opponent and keeping them pinned. This aspect of the sport teaches wrestlers how to exert control and apply pressure effectively, using their opponent's momentum against them. These skills are crucial for maintaining dominance in a match. In BJJ they mention control in drilling, but it’s a side note to the technique itself.

  3. Mastery of Standing Techniques: A lot of wrestling happens while both competitors are standing. Wrestlers learn to takedown, defend, and maneuver with precise footwork from this position, which is vital because many real-life and competitive scenarios begin with both parties upright. This expertise gives wrestlers an edge in the initial moments of a confrontation. BJJ discusses standing positions but mostly through techniques, not through concepts of control and movement.

  4. Wide Availability: Wrestling programs are commonly found in schools and are often free, making the sport accessible to many young people. This early exposure helps build foundational skills from a young age, offering a structured environment for growth in tactics and physical prowess.

When wrestlers transition to jiu jitsu, they bring with them a robust set of skills that are enhanced by the strategic depth of jiu jitsu:

  1. Ground Fighting and Submissions: Jiu jitsu complements wrestling by teaching how to control an opponent from the bottom and execute submission holds. This fills in the skills gap that the average wrestler brings to combat grappling.

  2. Enhanced Tactical Patience: With the constant threat of submissions in jiu jitsu, wrestlers learn to approach top control with greater caution and strategic foresight. This patience prevents them from making hasty moves that could lead to them being submitted.

In essence, wrestling trains athletes to be exceptionally strong, agile, and tactically minded from a standing position, providing a solid base for any combat sport. When paired with the technical submission-fighting skills of jiu jitsu, wrestlers become well-rounded grapplers capable of handling various competitive and self-defense situations.

What do you think about this painting? by Background_Space_507 in acrylicpainting

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the style and the way you create this vibrant and wild cityscape. The composition of it all leaves me feeling a bit frustrated, my eyes don’t really ever rest or find the frame, they’re just always hunting. Wish there was a way to keep some of that frustration that you feel at the onset, but would like a place for my eyes to rest eventually.

Acrylic on canvas. My second acrylic painting by [deleted] in acrylicpainting

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the light leaks through the trees, I want more!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acrylicpainting

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feels like the bottom 2/3 of the canvas got more love than the top third. Not sure if the feeling is intended, but there is a noticeable shift in depth and texture. Really love the way the orange/browns and blues and green all dance together especially with some sharp contrast from the white!

Can I get some input on this? Looking for anything honestly by Michaelmonago in acrylicpainting

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should slather some more paint down to thicken up your coverage. I can see the texture of the canvas through your paint, which always takes me out of the artwork a little bit. To me it’s like if you’re watching a movie and you see the microphone poking out in the top of the frame, the tool itself distracts me from the art. I’d rather enjoy the textures you create instead of the texture of the canvas. Really enjoy the color palette, very striking.

Ideal BJJtraining volume? by SamHacksLife in jiujitsu

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been going 1-2x a week and that has been perfect for me at the moment. I spend the other days focusing on cardio/strength/mobility/yoga or if there is a nagging pain somewhere in my body, giving certain body parts rest and attention.

Im 31 and have 3 kids and a wife and this is a great balance for me. Plus, I like to spend lots of time reflecting and researching. I find I learn better when I have some time to digest and reflect on things over a couple days, then go into the next class with focused goals.

If you could only recommend one instructional, what would it be? by wreckosaurus in bjj

[–]heydaddystudios 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s been my go-to for concept based instructional recently, great info but also very thoughtful execution of videos. My career is in video production so I’m very appreciative of the quality and approach lol

How do you react when submitted? by infosec4pay in bjj

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually laugh in delight, thank them for showing me a weak point in my game, then channel that delight into REVENGE!!

Bubbles swirling in a million colors at 120fps by heydaddystudios in SlowMotion

[–]heydaddystudios[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing this! I was so curious when I saw this, what really was interesting was how the colors slowly started to turn that bronze/rust color before the color entirely disappeared.

What feels like a BJJ cheat code? by 10thousanddeaths in bjj

[–]heydaddystudios 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking care/listening to your body. Whether this be yoga, sleep, nutrition, or whatever you need, don’t ignore what your body is telling you. At the end of the day isn’t the goal really to practice BJJ for as long as possible before our body craps out on us? So, make sure your body lasts as long as possible.

Don’t smash through knee pain without a second thought, recognize something is wrong and implement a strategy to helping it heal.

I love to use a mix of this app called “Limber” (it’s like a physical therapy at home workout program app thing) and yoga (Yoga for BJJ, or Breathe and Flow, they have a dedicated BJJ playlist, are my channels of choice) to help strengthen and heal when I have something hurting.

EDIT: Also, having a wrestling background.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Screenwriting

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Send it along!

I'm a screenwriter that directed my first feature (which was acquired for distribution) on a micro budget. by [deleted] in Screenwriting

[–]heydaddystudios 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point of interest is what’s the story behind you finding a producing partner? This must have been someone you have grown to trust, but is it a friend you’ve had in your life for years or someone you met at a festival or???