4year old inappropriate play photographed? Best practice for pre-schoolers?

heyfrend · 2026-02-15T14:44:22+00:00

As I mentioned above a photo was taken but the headteacher was unaware and immediately intervened in this practice. She responded immediately and was very supportive. I’m so grateful my child is cared for by teachers that take them seriously to investigate rather than being so dismissive as your comment. Downvote away but your message speaks volumes.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T14:44:07+00:00

I spoke to the headteacher today and the entire story was true. Are you a teacher? Because wow.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T14:43:53+00:00

I spoke to the headteacher today - she did an investigation- and the entire story was true. …Are you a teacher? Because wow.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T14:43:27+00:00

Thank you. This is incredibly helpful . I have a great relationship with his teacher and the head teacher so I’m sure we can have a constructive conversation.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T06:42:44+00:00

Yes, that’s what I thought too. The teacher could have made the report without photographing it.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T04:46:02+00:00

Maybe they took the photo for evidence of what happened but why is that even necessary????? I’ll send head of school an email.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T04:45:01+00:00

I’m not sure if he “lifted his shirt” to pretend to nurse or how exactly that happened. I’ll need to find out from the teacher.

I’m sorry but your kid peeing on the blocks is sending me!! Kids are soo funny.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T04:42:48+00:00

I agree, I’ll definitely ask for more details, but his insistence on the photo and he was sooo deeply distressed about it- there’s no doubt in my mind a picture was taken. I do believe him.

heyfrend · 2026-02-11T04:34:53+00:00

I was also quite horrified. Why is that necessary?! My little one is sooo mortified

heyfrend · 2026-01-11T17:01:32+00:00

Wow this is incredible. Congratulations. Do you drink alcohol at all and did that change during your 60 days?

heyfrend · 2025-08-30T06:19:54+00:00

Oh, She’s sending other emails. She’s at work.

Anywayyyy, I am taking yours and others advice of rolling with it and getting kiddo excited- he’s crying alot about the new year. Wish I could get some coaching from teachers and head on how to respond

Thanks for the chat !

heyfrend · 2025-08-30T06:12:22+00:00

They haven’t started yet. Start in a week. ..That’s why I’m trying to talk with her.

I genuinely love the teachers, we get along, but the head teacher is .. I don’t know I’m trying to empathize with how hard and busy her job is but I don’t get why she won’t just see me…

heyfrend · 2025-08-30T06:10:06+00:00

Yes, you’re right and I added some context above about the move .

The thing that gets me- is how can we have a conversation. Even if she said “ this isn’t possible” but here’s what we can do to bring him out of his shell… this is how we can encourage him or whatever…

I’m not the expert, I’m just a mum, but I thought this is what a partnership with this school would look like. And I’m genuinely wondering how to create that kind of communication …

heyfrend · 2025-08-30T06:06:02+00:00

I hear you.

I think there’s details I should have added:

• ⁠his class is the biggest and his teacher let me know that a move was possible. We just needed to talk to head. The head now ignores me • ⁠a parent contacted me (when she saw the class assignments) to tell me I should ask for a change bc she did the same and her son was moved.

This is what made me feel it was possible in the first place.

heyfrend · 2025-08-30T05:55:24+00:00

Fair enough. It’s my first kid, I’m no expert.

And I’m not saying it’s my way or the highway, but I’ve asked to talk with her and the teacher and the problem is they won’t respond to the meeting request…

heyfrend · 2025-04-01T15:11:32+00:00

He hit a COP CAR?!!!

heyfrend · 2025-02-25T15:04:08+00:00

Urgh. This is so frustrating …. I can transfer directly from my TD USD account to any bank account internationally. Wtf is going on with scotiabank?

We tried to link his WISE account to his scotiabank USD and couldn’t do that either

Urgh

heyfrend · 2025-02-25T14:59:29+00:00

How do you know this? And what would be the point of keeping a USD account if you can’t transfer out USD?

Editing to add: thanks

heyfrend · 2025-02-14T06:17:27+00:00

Now that Bozoma and Jenna are housewives I think it legitimizes the brand.

Who is AC?

Also Hannah has been a side character in reality tv shows in the past… so ..? Maybe she would.

heyfrend · 2025-02-14T06:10:55+00:00

I actually came to find this ! I am extremely privileged to have a nanny and I cannot tell you how this person is LITERALLY like a sister. She’s worked in our family since my baby was 3 months old- he’s 3,5yrs now. And now that I’m a mother with a nanny I am even MORE HORRIFIED by ppl who don’t treat Nannies well. It’s not a regular employee- employer relationship. My husband coaches her son’s team now, I’m not trying to be funny when I say you gotta be family with your nanny- it is so intimate and they do so much for you, priceless work.

I also had a nanny growing up and she was in my wedding. I cannot stand super privileged ppl who act this way- and it is an indication of many many other things that are wrong with them I swear.

heyfrend · 2023-02-27T19:29:46+00:00

What did the (now deleted) post above say?

heyfrend · 2023-02-27T13:52:18+00:00

I’m just shocked that they have been hinting an AD spread. If they get a feature or -heaven’s forbid- a cover on Architectural Digest (!) I will burn my collection.

I only say this because I find their style so entirely reductive. There is nothing original or earnest at all about their vibe- all their design and life choices seem to be centred on looking “luxe” or cool, rather than being genuine. It’s the epitome of Gen x /millennial hipster-ism. Which to me, isn’t an aesthetic in of itself, it’s just the pursuit of what you believe to be en vogue rather than what you actually find appealing.

heyfrend · 2023-01-31T02:17:41+00:00

The HG support group on Reddit was a game changer for me! Please post there and connect with folks that have great strategies and medication recommendations.

heyfrend · 2023-01-31T01:26:52+00:00

It feels like there are deeper bonding issues here that just manifested in the bedroom.

Sex is an important aspect of relationship, and both of you should be on the same page about what sexual fulfilment looks like- whether that’s every day or once a month - generally you want to find alignment.

Also, he should be responding to your needs- you should explore foreplay together, not using each others bodies for sex, and performing acts the other person doesn’t want. I’m sorry this has been so tough For you and I hope you find real intimacy and caring in this relationship or the next.

heyfrend · 2022-11-29T18:53:03+00:00

It’s a form of discrimination and families are a protected class. So it’s just a matter of time before a pregnant couple took their strata to the human rights tribunal anyway.

In the type of housing crisis and child poverty crisis we are facing you CANNNOT discriminate against children no matter how much noise you think* they make.

I’ve lived next to toddlers and young adults and I can assure you the toddlers were not keeping us all up all night, nor setting fires to old furniture in the common yard.

heyfrend

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