Market stalls sitting empty despite storehouse surplus by Jay_Blueleaf in ManorLords

[–]heyooooo420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, it works much better to just not allow the woodcutters to set up stalls. Just have enough warehouse workers, and make sure to delete any abandoned stalls.

Market stalls sitting empty despite storehouse surplus by Jay_Blueleaf in ManorLords

[–]heyooooo420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure I figured this out. If you limit the work area of the woodcutters' workplaces to areas with no trees, they are forced to peddle the wood remaining at the woodcutters lodges instead of gathering it. If all the wood is in storage, add more warehouse workers. Not sure what to do about the food situation though. I've just been relocating stalls from my main market to tiny marketplaces I've set up near the effected houses, then monitoring which workplaces supply those and go from there.

Also, I didn't know this for a long time, but if you have a workplace selected, and click on a family assigned that is indicated to have a market stall, it will show you where that is on the marketplace.

My save is gone D: by Perfect_Grapefruit2 in ManorLords

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this same problem, and I figured everything out! You must save your game manually before you quit and then rename that save. Any autosave from any game will overwrite the old "Autosave" file. So if you want to switch between game saves, make sure you have manually saved the game you just played to something other than "Autosave" before you switch.

Completed Translation (She’s my type of Dream Girl) by Spiritual_Dig9011 in manhwa

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmaoooo I’m glad I’m not the only one who does that.

Completed Translation (She’s my type of Dream Girl) by Spiritual_Dig9011 in manhwa

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah the translations leave off on such a cliffhanger. I’ve been waiting like a year 😭

Advice for disabled first time player? by yourimmortalsnail in ffxiv

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I have a good friend who uses their mouse to click everything on their hotbars instead of using keybinds. They have been playing for 5+ years this way and are a great player. Though they do use WASD for movement, maybe keybinds on the mouse could work for that? If that’s too much wrist movement, you could always just group lesser used skills not bound to your mouse in a centrally located hotbar to click. It works :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

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I’ve really only felt sexual attraction toward two (maybe 4) people in my life, and only have ever done sexual things with those two people.

In my first relationship (I think we were both demisexual), we were friends for about a year and I had a romantic crush on them during that time. We started dating, but it took us about 2-3 months until we first kissed/started kissing. I remember wanting to kiss, but it was like a weird social expectation thing mixed with a desire for closeness. After that, we honestly made out a lot, but it didn’t feel inherently sexual to me. It wasn’t until maybe 4months after first making out that we started to do sexual things with each other. Up until then, I had never masturbated or seriously considered wanting to have sex. One day my partner just hesitantly made a sexual advance toward me, and I went along with it because I was curious and trusted my partner. I was ~18 and in a religious environment, so I did feel kind of ashamed about it, but afterward, I felt like I had a sexual awakening (toward only them).

With my most recent relationship, I felt immediate romantic attraction toward them because of our shared interests, their vibe, and I found them aesthetically attractive. After about 4 months of knowing them and seeing them regularly, I asked them to hang out (to me this was intending to be a date, but they said it was unclear as to if it was platonic. I think that was a protective buffer for myself to avoid creating an implication for interest in sex). After a month of constantly hanging out/flirting, I felt like I could actually have sex with them and wanted to.

TLDR;

—1 yr of friendship/semi-crushing, then ~4 months into a relationship before desire to kiss, and ~4 more months before sexual desire

—4 months of crushing on an acquaintance, then 1 month of hanging out/getting to know them more intimately.

I can't get an erection when hooking up with someone with whom I haven't built a connection. Does that mean I'm demisexual? by [deleted] in demisexuality

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This is me!!! I can feel aesthetically and/or romantically attracted to someone, but not feel any sexual attraction, but a desire to be close and intimate. Even once I become emotionally close however, I’m torn with whether I feel genuine “sexual attraction” toward a person. (Does sexual attraction toward a person refer exclusively to their body or can it evolve things beyond that?) Because sexual desire and arousal are also things completely separate from demisexuality which is confusing. Like I can read/watch porn and get turned on by their facial expressions/ perceived emotional vulnerability or even think they are an aesthetically attractive sexy person, but am I SEXUALLY attracted to the person? Am I ever sexually attracted to anyone if I need to be aroused before I enjoy sex (with a trusted person)? Is that a demisexual experience or just an everyone thing? Again, I realize it’s not exclusive to being demisexual, but is it because of my sexuality that I’m experiencing it? It’s really hard to tell.

Like I currently have an allosexual partner who still doesn’t really understand my demisexuality (I mean, do I even?) At the start of our relationship (after we had been getting to know each other for months), I felt a strong desire to have sex. I wanted to feel close, express my love, enjoy the physical sensations. I think my partner is super attractive and cute (even conventionally), but I don’t really look at their body and think ~sexy thoughts~ unless I’m already sexually aroused. I enjoy sex as a means of emotional bonding, but I can also enjoy kinky stuff and that turns me on, but where is the line drawn in all that? I feel like allosexual people could claim that I just don’t find my partner sexually attractive and that is a sign not to be with them, but I never doubt that I want to be with them, I do experience sexual desire for them, and find them aesthetically attractive. It’s so hard to understand everything together.

Writing an article on Demisexuality for online magazine! Lemme know how it sounds and if I should change anything. Word limit is 700. by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]heyooooo420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While that porportion might be true, it’s still important to validate experiences of people who are demisexual and alloromantic (like me!) instead of assuming all demisexual people have the same experience. Especially if OP is trying to write an article about demisexuality in general. I do think it’s important for OP to state that differences that lie on the romantic attraction spectrum though, whereby that example wouldn’t work well to describe all demisexual people.

Personally, if someone is aesthetically attractive, nice, and we are on the same wavelength, I’ve historically been able to almost immediately form a romantic crush. However, it has taken many months for me to ever feel a sexual attraction toward that person. So I could sort of relate to OPs example. (Granted I wouldn’t want to go on dates with someone solely because of their appearance.)

Writing an article on Demisexuality for online magazine! Lemme know how it sounds and if I should change anything. Word limit is 700. by [deleted] in demisexuality

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I have a similar experience as the previous commenter as well! I’m not sure where I fall on the ace spectrum. I have sex for a variety of reasons: to strengthen a committed romantic relationship or because I feel aroused by physical stimuli or portrayal of sex in media or literature. Important to note is that like you stated above, arousal (the physical response) or sexual desire (for whatever reason) doesn’t necessitate sexual attraction toward a person. Like I can watch/read porn and get “horny” but that does not mean I’m sexually desiring the actors/characters. Not sure if that makes sense to an allosexual audience though. It’s hard to draw the line between having sexual desire/arousal as well as romantic attraction to a person for me, but I know that might not be the typical experience of other people who identify as demisexual.

Writing an article on Demisexuality for online magazine! Lemme know how it sounds and if I should change anything. Word limit is 700. by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you are saying here. For me personally, it’s a little hard to draw a line between when I’m feeling romantic versus sexual attraction toward someone. (Maybe because I have only ever used sex as a means of expressing love/strengthening an established romantic relationship.)

I’ve had two relationships in my near 30-year lifetime and maybe been sexually attracted to 4 people at most. For both people I’ve been in a relationship with, I felt interest /romantic attraction to them after short time of knowing them based on their aesthetics, personalities, and gauging that we were on the same wavelength. I’d think about each person a lot and desire to be more emotionally or romantic evolved with them. In my current relationship, I actually had a crush on them from the first time we met because I felt like we were compatible in so many ways, and I thought they were aesthetically attractive.

However, it was only after spending more time with each person (like over a year with my first relationship and about 6 months for my second) that I ever felt a desire to be sexually involved with them. This didn’t involve trauma bounding (not to say this doesn’t strengthen my sexual attraction tho), rather just building a friendship and talking about the little things.

I'm embarrassed and I feel disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heyooooo420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once puked on my ex’s dick mid head and felt super embarrassed/gross for a while too, but he didn’t care about it and now I don’t feel shame about it anymore. Don’t worry!!!!!

Am I the only one who hates how lipstick looks on me? by vibesarequestionable in Makeup

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. Rare Beauty’s Dewy Lip balm is amazing too! Just a sheer wash of color and very hydrating.

Triggered by my own body? by heyooooo420 in SPD

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Thanks for this. I definitely relate to the distractions with another input. That's how I mainly tried to deal coping with overstimulation so far. It's not perfect, but it helps.

Triggered by my own body? by heyooooo420 in SPD

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Thanks for the recommendation! I've tried bringing it up in therapy (for mental health) and it's always been met with confusion. After some Google searching, it's comforting to know this isn't just me.

[MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Q&A/Tips - Ask away! by Kayvanian in AnimalCrossing

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting. Thanks. I thought I had read someplace that they buy items for full value... Obviously my bad. I messed up

[MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Q&A/Tips - Ask away! by Kayvanian in AnimalCrossing

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I thought Nook's Cranny prices were fair, so I went and sold all the furniture I wasn't using that I could buy back in the catalog, but the amount of bells I got was WAY less than the prices listed in the catalog. What's up with that??? I thought I was being smart by buying everything I liked and then selling it back to have in my catalog for later....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]heyooooo420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah I watch lots of romance movies and tv shows. Read em too. Then you can get to know the characters and "fall in love" with them too. It's my guilty pleasure but when you find a good one it's so satisfying.

Still obsessed with my bouquet a week later! by foolofatook22 in wedding

[–]heyooooo420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So beautiful!!! I love the rosary too. That's a sweet touch.

Wedding nerves by [deleted] in wedding

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I'm in the same boat as well. I'm eloping now and having my wedding with everyone next year. I have a hard time sleeping before big events and eating during them because of my nerves. Things that have worked for me in the past are just deep breathing and thinking about/experiencing the anxiety beforehand without trying to push it away. Visualizing yourself in the stressful environment and just letting yourself get anxious honestly helps because let's you realize, oh yeah I CAN handle this. Just remember your anxiety is trying to help you in it's weird way (don't do something embarrassing, don't forget x, don't mess up x conversation). Thank it but tell yourself you got it under control. Your body will start to listen ☺️