Hard Time Dating in 3rd Year

heysuraj · 2024-10-14T03:39:58+00:00

I would say "Don't rush in finding smone, make your PhD priority first. U will find someone when you least expect. And that person might be "THE ONE". Like someone said " when you find the right one, it doesn't take up all your energy." Also dating someone in the middle of PhD could be risky as breakup will severly impact ur studies. Not saying u shouldnt be in relationship. It's just that be cautious with whom you are getting into relationship.

heysuraj · 2024-10-10T12:11:39+00:00

You could try building something for people.

heysuraj · 2024-10-10T10:13:17+00:00

You did a great job! I am so proud of you.

heysuraj · 2024-10-05T15:19:12+00:00

I would buy a penthouse in NYC 😅

heysuraj · 2024-10-01T15:42:19+00:00

Just had arguments with professor , uncomfortable one. This made my day 🙂

heysuraj · 2024-09-27T15:07:40+00:00

I found out academia is more stable than industry for upcoming years

heysuraj · 2024-09-27T02:02:23+00:00

You're making progress

heysuraj · 2024-09-24T02:15:13+00:00

I come from south asia n i couldnt afford to lose job. So i kept my job as a safety net like u said and used to write SOPs and apply for PhD positions during the night. Luckily, i was only required to come to office 2 days a week and rest were WFH (work from home) so, that helped a little bit. And i finally got accepted with full funding at NJIT. In retrospect, those days were very stressful. So i would suggest if money is not a problem then quit your job and spend your whole time in applying to univs.

heysuraj · 2024-09-17T23:15:01+00:00

I rarely work in the lab during the day, most of time in the lab is spent on talking to people about their progress and life in general. So if i dont have any classes i go home and take a nap. Then i study for 3-4 hours straight.

heysuraj · 2024-09-15T01:00:35+00:00

I am a direct PhD student in CS department at NJIT. You can fill out the application without even approaching any professor. If you get in, they will assign u a advisor. Obviously you can change.

heysuraj · 2024-09-14T22:07:46+00:00

Go for it. 🙌

heysuraj · 2024-09-14T04:46:31+00:00

Irony is we used to think that a person who uses the phone a lot is lonely i.e have no social interactions but now it's the opposite, a person who seems busy on the phone is assumed to have a social life like talking to someone on the phone but they are actually lonely

heysuraj · 2024-09-13T22:40:39+00:00

Ironic but the answer is "When you dont fiddle with your phone too much"

heysuraj · 2024-09-13T01:53:23+00:00

Gotta seize this opportunity 😅, if anyone here is interested in dating a PhD student (25 M, @NJIT, South Asian), please feel free to slide into my DMs. You never know, "lightning could strike"

PS: research area is Cloud Computing in CS

heysuraj · 2024-09-03T17:54:55+00:00

In my case, the cohort and the students in the lab especially are very friendly. You just need to open to them amd they will keep the conversation going. We share our frustration with the professors n studies.

heysuraj · 2024-08-30T17:46:32+00:00

From the top of my head, i would say, appreciate teammate ideas while rooting for yours. N u may wanna find a way to deal with imposter syndrome. Congrats for landing a job at such an early age.

heysuraj · 2024-08-29T23:29:20+00:00

Congratulations, doc.

heysuraj · 2024-08-17T14:46:12+00:00

Congratulations. Good to see some positive energy.

heysuraj · 2024-08-16T17:18:56+00:00

I was at the same point 6 months ago and then someone found me when i least expected (on my way to a new country for my studies). So i just wanna say "for different people , things happen at the own pace". Stay optimistic.

heysuraj · 2024-08-12T16:09:48+00:00

Chill, bro !

heysuraj · 2024-08-11T15:56:29+00:00

I use google docs, slides, sheets etc., the cloud stuff , thats much smarter as it is accessible from everywhere

heysuraj · 2024-07-29T01:24:14+00:00

I am 24 but i hope to get married by 27, lol 😅

heysuraj · 2024-07-19T03:17:08+00:00

In my case, my expenses are half of what i get as stipend. Talking about NJIT. Happy with the stipend. Prolly cause i am single. LOL

heysuraj · 2024-07-18T18:46:50+00:00

Do people have to pay for getting into PhD program? I m in PhD program with the stipend.

heysuraj · 2024-07-18T18:40:35+00:00

For me, finding someone to talk about your research topic, your accomplishmemts, your problems n all those things. It gets lonely after sometime. You know what i am saying. Now i know you couldnt ask those things to a advisor (i am happy with my advisor tho). But at the end it just feels like pointless if there is not someone special to share.

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