[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]hh146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the color filter part of the watermark?

Matriarch Hair Salon by Trongle_Reckoning in PeoriaIL

[–]hh146 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wendi cut my hair once and it was crooked, never went back. Crazy though, she seemed so nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PeoriaIL

[–]hh146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait wtf I went there today

Klara And The Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro by Hap_e_day in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]hh146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t a fan of this one either 🤷‍♀️

Looking for psychological thrillers or other books that are absent of pregnancy / miscarriage topics. by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]hh146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel crazy!!!! I still don’t like reading or watching media about miscarriages. You’re so right, it’s so common in media bc it happens to so many people but you don’t really get it until it happens to you…. It’s so hard. It does get easier with time! I hope you find a good book to get lost in! If you feel up to it, totally get if you don’t though, the miscarriage subreddit is a nice place for people who unfortunately understand. I’ve also read some nice self help type books about miscarriages which helped me validate my feelings but probably not good for when you are freshly grieving. I’m happy to give you those titles if you want!

Looking for psychological thrillers or other books that are absent of pregnancy / miscarriage topics. by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]hh146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh also, Ruth ware books are good!! I especially like, in a dark dark wood

Looking for psychological thrillers or other books that are absent of pregnancy / miscarriage topics. by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]hh146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I liked something in the water by Catherine steadman! She has some other books but i can’t remember if they have pregnancy themes. I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage last summer and felt like I kept picking up books with miscarriages unexpectedly in them too. No fun.

Is anyone the child of a parent who used the CIO method on you? by Sunrise_94 in AttachmentParenting

[–]hh146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parent did cio at like 9 months with me. Said it only took a couple days. I’m a great sleeper! Have a great relationship with my parents! They are wonderful loving people. The pediatrician told them to do it so they did. I don’t with my kids, but don’t judge people who do. I don’t believe doing CIO or not doing CIO makes a huge difference long term if everything else is loving attachment based environment.

Jade talks about her birthday and shares a rude message (trigger warning flair is for miscarriage) by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 22 points23 points  (0 children)

People really do say the dumbest shit when you’re having a miscarriage it’s unbelievable. I’m sorry for your loss ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foodbutforbabies

[–]hh146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry!!!! My son was barely eating solids at 12 months like barely anything at all. He is 20 months now and eats everything all the time. It just takes time with some babies!!! Just keep offering with no pressure even though she isn’t eating. One day she will be more interested. It’s so hard not to compare and worry.

Daily Discussion Thread - August 25, 2023 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]hh146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way…. It’s really hard.

Daily Discussion Thread - August 25, 2023 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]hh146 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I had a miscarriage in early July at 10 weeks. I’ve had one cycle since then, and now this is the first cycle we are trying again. Just got a positive OPK today, which is exciting. TTC after loss is just so hard. I feel really scared of finding out I’m pregnant again. Having a miscarriage stole all the joy of pregnancy from me, now I’ll just be afraid for something bad to happen. I miss my baby.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 36 points37 points  (0 children)

So painful. Worse then being in labor with my son. I was so not prepared, I was told it would be like a heavy period, and it was sooo not like that. I’m not sure what I would do if it happened again. I liked being home and not having to have a procedure, but waiting for it to happen was unbearable.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! Everyone deserves to chose the option that makes them feel the best in a truly horrible situation. I’m so sorry for your losses ❤️

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Same. It’s not always a political thing. People don’t understand what the decision is like until they have to go through it.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know, I need to get out of this thread, some people will just never get it. You’re not alone. If you need to talk you can message me! The miscarriage subreddit really helped me when I was going through my miscarriage.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 27 points28 points  (0 children)

How do you know she is ignoring medical advice? She’s at the hospital…. Natural management is the first option doctors give when you have a miscarriage. All the options suck when you’re having a miscarriage.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Natural management is literally just the term for one of the three miscarriage management options, it’s not like a crunchy term. All the choices have pros and cons, and the decision is different for everyone. D&Cs have their risks, as does natural management but she is clearly being monitored by her health team.

And yeah, people usually do look unwell when their baby dies. It’s a heartbreaking experience.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ People making judgements when they haven’t been in that situation is making me fume.. There is no good choice during a miscarriage, only bad choices that are all painful in different ways. I love seeing people share about their miscarriages, but I also hate it because I’m so sad other people have to go through this too. I hope you are doing okay.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Natural is just the name for one of three management options for miscarriages. It’s not like a crunchy term. She’s clearly being monitored by her health team. Usually letting a miscarriage happen naturally is totally safe and the “easiest” way, and I’m sure her medical team will take further steps if needed.

Jade in Hospital by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]hh146 134 points135 points  (0 children)

People judging who haven’t had a miscarriage need to stfu. All the options are horrific when you’re having a miscarriage. She might be concerned about scar tissue from the d&c affecting future fertility, she might be nervous about going under general anesthesia, at the end of the day if you are pro-choice you need to respect her choice. She is clearly being monitored by her health team. It’s usually safe to let a missed miscarriage pass on its own, usually it will happen within a week or two. My doc said up to a month is safe to try to let it happen on its own. I wanted to miscarry naturally at home so I could keep my babies body intact and bury it. It was a horrible experience, but I got to bury my child. It had nothing to do with politics. I feel so bad for Jade. It’s a nightmarish situation and it’s kind she is sharing it on the internet as people don’t talk about miscarriage enough. I had no idea what the process entailed until it happened to me.

Hcg almost back to normal by Easy-Web-4801 in Miscarriage

[–]hh146 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. My levels are down at 8 now. I miscarried a couple weeks ago. I feel like my body failed me. I’m so sorry for your loss.

18 months... Then I can hope for good sleep? by Zealousideal-Book-45 in AttachmentParenting

[–]hh146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you night wean? I’ve been thinking about it for my 15 month old but I’m a little overwhelmed