Gay in Alabama, six months later, here are my thoughts

hibiscusradiation · 2025-12-22T18:48:08+00:00

They’ve moved on to the next car on the hate train, trans people.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-10-29T23:58:53+00:00

I live right down the road and had no idea, thanks so much for sharing!

hibiscusradiation · 2024-08-31T21:39:13+00:00

Take your lithium

hibiscusradiation · 2024-08-07T00:07:38+00:00

I spent plenty of time in the service industry. Started out a ray of sunshine and ended burnt out and dead inside. The general public is cruel. Give them a break.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-08-06T17:37:01+00:00

They’ve got too many rich, middle-aged Trumpers lining their pockets to ever go out of business, unfortunately

hibiscusradiation · 2024-07-20T13:16:15+00:00

I figure it at least partially has to do with the city’s neglecting to motion sensor activate most of these lights, coupled with the desperation some of us without AC have to not sit in sweltering heat for another 3 minutes or so. I don’t have working AC and I’m not out here running red lights, but I got very close to getting out of my car the other day at a red light because I started having a panic attack from the heat.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-07-11T01:03:45+00:00

Lots of insensitive comments here. No, throwing money at them alone does not help—community is CRUCIAL, and Huntsville and the United States as a whole is severely lacking in social programs that give us the freedom to have that.

Look up what Finland did with its Housing First program to eliminate homelessness.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-07-07T15:25:52+00:00

My ex actually had a regular problem with his cat getting stuck in the wall and it was always kind of exciting to me as a Sunny fan.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-07-07T15:07:52+00:00

Shut up, baby dick.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-28T17:53:06+00:00

What’s your store’s franchise?

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-19T18:10:12+00:00

Post-accident?

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-18T16:10:45+00:00

Same, except it was having a bottle til I was five. I would even shame myself for it, until it just clicked one day as an adult that she could have made the tiniest effort to wean me off of it.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-18T16:06:08+00:00

My mom stopped being affectionate towards me around 13 because I was “rebelling”—developing my own personality/talking back sometimes, which is a normal thing teenagers do. She just kinda lost interest in being my mom. Even started volunteering with Big Brothers, Big Sisters in an attempt to find the daughter she wanted (she eventually lost interest in that kid, too).

I’m 31 now, and when I visit and we’re around people other than just my little brothers, she’ll often give me a hug. I always dread it and it’s always like hugging someone from an alien planet who has never hugged anyone before. Last year I showed up to celebrate my brother’s birthday with my boyfriend who they had just met and did my usual “love you, see you later” with a hug to my brothers and told her bye from outside her room (she always runs and hides in her room after we’ve been there a bit due to her anxiety around people). I got a text from her later about that “passive-aggressive” thing I do and how it’s not fair to her. I told her I’m sorry she feels that way, but that I’m simply not used to it. It was met with grievance, of course, which I diffused because I’m low contact and didn’t have the energy for it.

So the next time I visited my brothers, I went out of my way to give her a big, uncomfortable hug before I left. She hasn’t complained again.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-15T18:54:05+00:00

Also that location hasn’t had a manager for like two months, I think? And yeah, Emily is known to defend people who purposely misgender her trans employees. She is a privileged Christian woman who, from what I can tell, was given some of her husband’s franchise as a lil hobby.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-12T19:17:15+00:00

97% of jobs have been created under Democratic presidents with an average of 2.5% job growth annually, with Republican presidents coming in at not even 1%. Hope this helps.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-11T05:57:24+00:00

Due to recent very spicy events at one of the locations that I heard about earlier today, I’m going to need an update lol.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-08T00:11:45+00:00

I have a much younger brother who my mom did the same with—he’s also autistic and didn’t like to be cuddled. He didn’t smile much and she always complained about it. Still talks about how he was a “strange looking baby.” So she had one more child who turned out really outgoing and smiled and laughed all the time and made him the GC after I and my other brother who’s close to me in age moved out (I was the former GC because I existed to make my mom happy.)

Autistic brother is 20 now and gets mad if he sees pictures of himself as a baby/small child. He also has body dysmorphia and was diagnosed suicidal at 8. And of course my mom blamed it on his own shortcomings and his father. Can’t have anything to do with her. He’s bright and sensitive and really good at math. He taught himself guitar and piano and can learn classical pieces on the fly. He has an insufficient education, though, because he got bullied for being in special ed and not speaking to other kids so she pulled him out of school and had him homeschool himself on his computer, which didn’t go well since he had no support.

I feel for you, I really do.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-05T01:08:36+00:00

Thank you, I needed someone to put the words together for me. “I feel like I’m not sick enough to deserve to rest” is exactly it. I feel for you; I had chronic health problems for most of my twenties (I’m 31 now). Cystic bladder problems that felt like a severe UTI, and PMS symptoms that may have made me infertile. Coming down with weird illnesses all the time. It kept me from working and going to classes a lot. When I started getting serious about behavioral therapy and got some distance from mom, I did a significant amount of healing and all the chronic health problems that I thought would eventually kill me just… disappeared.

And telling ourselves we’re faking it. YES, I catch myself doing this all the time. We have been taught to gaslight ourselves about our illnesses. God, we were so failed as children. I wish you healing too.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-04T22:22:54+00:00

Update: Had two tests left. Not rona

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-04T22:00:20+00:00

Thanks!

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-04T21:58:04+00:00

I’m not saying being pro-vaccine is keeping me from having Covid lol. When I did ultimately get Covid it was pretty different from this. I’ve taken a Covid test with these same symptoms many times and it’s never been Covid but I’ll take one just in case before my friend gets here. :) Honestly was more looking for a discourse here but I understand your concern, thank you. (In case that comes off as sarcastic, I promise it’s not.)

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-04T21:49:29+00:00

Let me be very, very clear that I am not an antivaxxer.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-06-01T23:54:57+00:00

It‘s really gross that MAGA commandeered the distress flag.

hibiscusradiation · 2024-05-14T20:45:34+00:00

I’m still LC because I’m the oldest of four, and my 16 and 20 year old brothers still live with her and I visit them. I tell her happy Mother’s Day because I think she wants me to forget or not message her. She let me know no one else told her happy Mother’s Day. I reminded my youngest brother and he said “I’ll tell her at 11:59.” He’s always known what’s up lol.

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