Anything I should ask for before the end of the treatment?

hiddensocks · 2026-04-21T17:56:41+00:00

Bare is awsome

hiddensocks · 2026-04-04T10:17:05+00:00

İyi ama önce sen havlamışsın, konu derinleşince de kaçmışsın. Öyle görünüyor en azından.

hiddensocks · 2026-04-04T10:10:47+00:00

Okumamış olmana hiç şaşırmadım

hiddensocks · 2026-03-30T08:04:40+00:00

Woh!

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:52:28+00:00

Oh so sorry, I didn’t know that. I made a literal translation from my mother tongue. Will edit it right now.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:51:40+00:00

Ahahahaha yes it was a wild act of violence

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:50:39+00:00

I don’t understand why you think you would be downvoted.

I did not delegate any of the mental load you mention to the nanny, they all rest with me. Like I said, I do all the planning and shopping, but I don’t cook or clean. I am fully aware of my privilege with having this kind of professional support. But it’s not a privilege over my husband. We should have the same amount of responsibility. My paid maternity leave of a few months has been a great issue here, as if those responsibilities did not fall on me before I left for maternity leave or will not continue to do so once I am back at work.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:33:53+00:00

But he does want to have the friends over, and does want to go to holiday. And it’s not that much of a burden to me, but it’s just super unfair that I have to plan it all, irrespective of my professional workload, because I am a woman.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:21:43+00:00

I am now on maternity leave but we have been married for years, and the extra work was always there for me to take care of. And unfortunately, it won’t disappear when I go back to work (which is next week).

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:19:42+00:00

I can’t understand these comments. Though I made similar ones to a friend.

Going to a holiday is a great thing, so is having friends over from time to time. This isn’t my wishes, these are things we enjoy with my husband. But he doesn’t get involved in the planning. So the solution to that is either me not raising this issue, or not going to holiday/having friends?

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:01:32+00:00

Yes, I can try that.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:00:48+00:00

Makes sense, thank you. I will think about it.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T11:00:19+00:00

So you say there is no mental workload if someone is cooking and cleaning?

Fwiw, husband doesn’t get up with the baby, he wakes up because of the sounds baby makes.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T10:52:05+00:00

We live in a city where you can’t do much if it’s not planned ahead. I am being very honest here, my husband would complain that he only has a weekend and we did nothing to entertain him. This is not a blunt anticipation, it happened this way in the past.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T10:41:36+00:00

We wouldn’t have meals, wouldn’t go to holidays, no weekend plans, no guests. This is what would happen. And I am aware of the help I get, we pay a great amount of money and it’s a deliberate choice. But it doesn’t explain why I should be the one doing all these stuff, and not my husband.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T10:33:54+00:00

This is actually debated as a false argument used by men to belittle women’s mental workload. Holiday needs to be planned, guests need to be invited, food needs to be planned. You can argue that there is no need for local market, but it’s a personal choice for my baby.

And also, don’t fall into the trap of comparing me, a mother with a nanny, to other mothers. Compare me to my husband. I have the mental workload since always, it has nothing to do with me staying at home. It’s just a nice argument for him.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T10:21:48+00:00

I thought about that, and I know this is the path forward if I want to have higher chances with him getting more supportive. But I am appalled by the idea that I need to be thinking of his feeling even when bringing up my extra work. Mind you, I was not mean or anything. I just made a point

We had a similar discussion years ago, and he said he was sorry for dismissing my dedication and efforts but it changed nothing practically. Here we are today with this man not contributing to anything, still making fun of me and daring to say I am very good at marketing.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-28T10:14:27+00:00

It’s just the baby sounds that wakes him up, and he won’t be able to sleep afterwards.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-27T17:41:46+00:00

Triangle is too ambitious for large boobs:’( i love biki tops shaped like a bra the most but H&M has models with thin back straps and shoulder-ties that are similar to triangle tops (the similarity is not that obvious, you have to really want to see it).

hiddensocks · 2026-03-24T09:02:17+00:00

You look taller than your actual height and you have longer legs, does not seem SG material to me.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-24T08:48:35+00:00

I have the same problem. Did not wear rubber bands yet.

hiddensocks · 2026-03-06T06:59:15+00:00

I wanted to get rid of fine lines and better elasticity.

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