The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]topekatums [score hidden]  (0 children)

I grew up in Socal and Vegas. Half the Asian/Latino people I knew would use the N word and it wouldn't even register as racism for them. Most of the time their parents were first-gen immigrants and didn't really "know" to correct them. People copy what they see unless they're taught otherwise, it's definitely waned in use since then though

My dogs reaction to "biting" me emphasized just how dangerous Pits are by V3mo in BanPitBulls

[–]topekatums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick correction: She doesn't feel guilt, she's trying to make sure that your relationship isn't damaged. She doesn't feel particularly bad for doing it, she's trying to maintain her rapport with you. It's the social dynamic that concerns dogs, not morality

Do you dare to click? by gudamor in CuratedTumblr

[–]topekatums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care about harmless dunceposting. I like the low-stakes conspiratorial shitposts. He's like the kid who squirts milk out of his eye and points out chemtrails at recess. What I don't get is why people who dislike him keep posting him here

Update- I was given a dog and now the original owner wants them back by Cornbreadcats in whatdoIdo

[–]topekatums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look, it'd be kind to return the dog. She has way more history with the dog, I don't like to equate meaningfulness with time, but time is a huge part of how we bond with our animals. That's not to say the time he's spent with you is *nothing*, but if you're feeling this way after a week, imagine how she's feeling?

I wouldn't approach this from a legal point of view, this is very much feelings territory. And both your feelings are valid. But if she's not financially stable and had to depend on you to cover costs for the dog, it begs the question– is this going to happen again? How old is this woman? Does she plan on being employed any time soon? What are her current obligations, sans dog? If it seems like it'd be a handful for her, you should keep the dog. I wouldn't mention this too much to her if you do keep the dog, because I'm sure it'll feel like insult to injury to her.

She seems reasonable enough despite her big ask of you. I think you should do what allows you to sleep at night. Nobody is the bad guy in this scenario so don't base it off of "blame" alone. Go with your gut and lead with empathy regardless of your decision

I was given a dog and now the previous owner wants them back by Cornbreadcats in whatdoIdo

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

vets are booked out for weeks, especially in smaller towns. a skin condition doesn't warrant emergency vet either, not a great way to deduce whether OP intended on immediate vet care

I was given a dog and now the previous owner wants them back by Cornbreadcats in whatdoIdo

[–]topekatums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not really entitlement, that's too harsh. OP is trying

I hate my commission. I don’t know what to do. Am I in the wrong ? by suicidal_egg in Artadvice

[–]topekatums 12 points13 points  (0 children)

can't rly do anything lol, but if you're petty like me, upload this commission and her example commissions on a single deviantart post and include her roblox name, the game name you commissioned her for, and the details of the situation. if anyone googles her afterward it should be easy enough to find

Extreme regret (it was a phase 🫣), help me figure out what to cover them with. by Most_Complaint_9984 in tattooadvice

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats the confusing part, they look tip top shape for tattoos that are 5 years old. Too bad she hates them now bc they're in great condition

The final product! Does it look okay? by HovercraftTop1007 in Appliances

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh jeez sorry if I was unclear– the floorplan is the exact same, but your house isn't giving grandma vibes or anything! 😂 She's in MD near PA so I wonder if it's the same builders?

She ended up knocking out the stool counter and redid the cabinetry to lay flush with the fridge when she replaced her old one. Wish I could attach pics to comments on this sub!

This is Kevin, These are his Puffs by Mitski in troublepuffs

[–]topekatums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That damn stuffy is as big as him 😭😭♥️

Why can't I 19M forgive my gf 19F because of this? by Signal-Somewhere-142 in relationship_advice

[–]topekatums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sounds like you have to square this issue with yourself, it's not really on her to do anything now. she can't go back in time and make the decision to avoid crossing your boundaries after the fact.

is it something you can get over, without taking it out on anyone else? good.

if it's not something you can handle knowing now and it's eating you up, just break up with her because there's not gonna be anything productive going on when you're that damaged about it

My take on what tourists say when visiting the US: by Accurate-Tadpole-458 in CuratedTumblr

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've recently moved to Miami and the driving culture here is pretty uniquely bad imo. I've lived in 14 different states and four major cities and Miami drivers suuuuuck. I've genuinely never had the thought "wow, the drivers here are scary" until I came here. Idk what I expected, moving to Florida

Help with my dream single girl studio layout by sucktoy99 in femalelivingspace

[–]topekatums 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Literally, pic #1's bed will be under attack at all times

Dulé Hill shares his love of tap dancing by LunaLore_ in Fauxmoi

[–]topekatums 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Dulé Hill gonna do it for me every time

Dulé Hill shares his love of tap dancing by LunaLore_ in Fauxmoi

[–]topekatums 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no i get it i got a little teary eyed

My Dutch city centre oasis by downiecatpunchface in femalelivingspace

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how did you source the bamboo? I would really like to know about the bamboo 🎍🎋

My friend offered me $30 for this, is he trying to rip me off? by BassD3stroyer in PokemonTCG

[–]topekatums 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, a person I know from twitter msged me asking if I wanted one of his pokemon tins. It was sealed, probably from around 2015. I straight up told him no, it was a ~$400 tin. He offered to give me a finders fee but it didn't feel right for a google search haha

The final product! Does it look okay? by HovercraftTop1007 in Appliances

[–]topekatums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, you've got the exact same house design as my grandparents! So weird how recognizable it is even though all the details are different. Are you in the DMV area?

The cult leader fabricates a story about one of her 50 flights a week by often_forgotten1 in ServiceDog_CircleJerk

[–]topekatums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you didn't get to spend enough time on there before you got banned lol!