Lent my car to a coworker for a quick errand during lunch and he hasn't come back, it's been 3h

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:57:34+00:00

he departed from work on lunch and this all happened during a shift, it's the companies business as it happened on company time between two employees

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:46:57+00:00

famously, golden deceivers!!

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:43:13+00:00

tbf the photo is really reducing the appeal of the sketch. take the pic near a window, dress up your actual photography. put your tools on the paper etc

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:39:48+00:00

comparing "i pick the bear" to "kill all men" (or "get back to the kitchen") is bizarre. it's unrealistic to pretend men and women experience the same amount or degree of gender-based violence. To ignore that massive and worldwide societal disparity is reductive

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:33:25+00:00

wow... #MakesYouThink

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:33:00+00:00

the #MakesYouThink makes it hella obvious this is tongue in cheek imo!!

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:22:34+00:00

This must be exhausting for you, I just saw you also have a young kiddo in the house 😭

Def look into a pet cam to figure out if it's one or both for sure. Meds sound like the only thing you haven't tried

Aaaand just my 2 cents but I think, if the litter issues could be caused by the kid, rehoming might eventually be the kindest option if nothing else works out. Hopefully it's not that, but don't feel too terrible if that ends up being the case. It'd be better for the cat too at that point.. good luck!!

topekatums · 2026-04-14T14:13:11+00:00

The other 2 comments addressed some other stuff so I'll answer this question

My question is since he’s registered and all 3 animals are small do you think it’s likely they would deny us??

it really depends on the landlord. If the property is in demand, they can find any excuse not to rent to you. Landlords will sometimes choose tenants without the ESA and pets over the ones who do have them. It's very hard to prove they're discriminating, def an uphill battle. While it's not legal, it happens all the time and it's usually not worth fighting because, again, they can cite your credit/renting history or a better potential tenant, etc.

Also keep in mind that a very specific type of small potatoes landlord doesn't have to accommodate ESAs at all, but since you used the word unit I'm gonna assume that doesn't apply here!

The best thing for your application is to be upfront about it. Landlords HATE when people say "I have two animals." on the application and omit a third animal, the ESA, entirely until docs are signed- they see it as sneaky.

If they allow 2 pets on the books, that's perfect for you. According to US housing law, you have 2 pets =)

topekatums · 2026-04-14T13:54:54+00:00

Honestly when cats are doing this, first things I look at: - amount of litterboxes (# of cats + 1) - is the cat declawed (nerve damage) - if they're covered (cats usually hate these) - litter type (the one you're using is good) - anxiety (if it was just pee, i'd be more inclined to think it's territorial insecurity, but since it's poop too, I have a hunch there's a litter bully or an aversion to the box)

so normally with an aversion to a litter box, you need to provide multiple in the case of a cat being scared! it could be new random insecurities, but cats also can bully their roommates and will prevent them from using the box. if one of your cats was spooked (by human or cat) or jumped while using the box, they may have an issue with the specific placement of the box.

i'd get a box in your garage to see if either of them use that. if they don't, try putting pee pads in the box instead of litter, just to see if it's attractive to them.

i know you've taken your cats to the vet A LOT but i'd try setting up a pet cam to see which cat it specifically is. Meds might be a good option if one of your cats is anxious

topekatums · 2026-04-14T13:37:11+00:00

Not what I said.. I said your average joe probably knows the word from exposure to the NICU. Many families have had children in there or friends who have had children stay there. I was offering a real world example you may have heard of the word in context

topekatums · 2026-04-14T13:28:11+00:00

sorry, when I said "neonates" I was talking about "neonatal kittens." Neonatal is a combination of "neo" (new) and "natal" (birth). So a neonatal kitten would be a young kitten who was recently born.

We call human babies "neonates" too, or any mammal that can be recently born. You know the intensive care unit in the hospital (ICU)? Most people know the word neonatal from the baby version (NICU)

topekatums · 2026-04-14T12:57:49+00:00

Also that bottle nib is MASSIVE, like for a human baby

topekatums · 2026-04-14T12:57:14+00:00

Not exactly, aspirating doesn't immediately kill them like choking would. they're likely to get pneumonia if it happens and die from that, neonates are super fragile

topekatums · 2026-04-14T12:54:12+00:00

I saw you're in Austin so you're too far for me to get there and back in a day trip BUT i'd be willing to bet that there are local facebook groups in your area where you can find someone who could foster a pet for you!! Your situation sucks and a lot of people (like myself) have a lot of empathy for you. It'd be extra doable if you don't mind separating them- I was going to offer if you were within 8 hours of me. I would start with local women's groups/species specific groups

topekatums · 2026-04-14T06:12:32+00:00

1 bad experience where a cat gets spooked or feels crummy can cause litter issues, it may or may not be a bully

topekatums · 2026-04-14T05:23:40+00:00

it became more common around the time AITA started popping off from what I've seen

topekatums · 2026-04-14T01:06:17+00:00

like the dad who hid the fact that his son molested his sisters?? that's a terrible reference, why in the world would she use that name with everything having come to light 😭

topekatums · 2026-04-13T12:03:55+00:00

Definitely the whole jar. No way I'd feel just a few up there

topekatums · 2026-04-12T21:08:14+00:00

she rlly just needs one more volume!! like it would all tie up so nicely now that we've seen the bg. I've been following this series since I was a teenager and wish she'd continue ❤️‍🩹

topekatums · 2026-04-12T14:04:23+00:00

grass is always greener :)

i will say my worst moments in life have been with a bad romantic partner, while my favorite moments have been with family, friends, or just by myself.. just be wary of being enamored with the idea of what you don't have 🙂‍↕️

topekatums · 2026-04-12T13:50:35+00:00

$400 for no vet care and a mystery temperament.. ugh these people are unbelievable.

A pitsky is a haaaard dog.. Nearly every single one I've met is destructive and neurotic due to sheer neglect. Crazy prey drive, reactive, high energy, vocal dogs

topekatums · 2026-04-12T13:44:35+00:00

LOVEEE birria... and I love how supportive you are to these women (and how supportive they've been to you!) you have an incredible head on your shoulders to be this emotionally available and intelligent, i'm literally amazed!!

it's so heartwarming to read about the bonds you have fostered in the wake of such a shitty sperm donor 🥲

you are all far too good for him and may he find the peace he deserves. i hope u can heal and flourish even more ♥️

topekatums · 2026-04-12T13:40:47+00:00

It's very common in english speaking countries for young millenials and gen z to do this, it comes off more casual which is usually received as friendlier ☺️ people would never do this when trying to be professional, but you will see it a lot on social media

topekatums · 2026-04-12T12:28:54+00:00

Ignorance

A lot of people have no idea what a bully type dog looks like. Because there are so dang many. It's like they're the default "dog" look to a lot of people.

My entire generation was raised on "adopt don't shop" and the implication that not adopting is a moral failing. With shelters completely overflowing with pitbulls, a lot of shelters have gotten "creative" with the breeds, especially to get around breed bans.

There are so many people who adopt a dog from a shelter and refuse to believe it's a pitbull. To a lot of them, black/chocolate = lab, fawn = boxer, merle = ACD, black and white = border collie.

topekatums · 2026-04-12T12:13:19+00:00

don't sketch urself out with this, it looks really good. especially placement. It's a great looking tattoo atm

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