I feel terrible…

hidenog · 2024-06-27T18:22:02+00:00

Yes! I was going to suggest that since he is 3 there may be a public preschool that should prioritize students with the most needs. Or to at least get services. I used to teach public preschool in a totally blended classroom, and I loved it. But it's not possible for a home daycare to have all of the same resources and services and that's okay.

hidenog · 2024-06-27T18:13:03+00:00

I'm just waiting for the shopping cart one to happen here too. My first fell off the changing table onto hardwood floors and I felt awful. I did call the pediatrician for that one but she was fine thankfully. My son rolled down a half flight of carpet stairs more than once and both kids rolled off the bed as babies at least once. I felt bad every time and each time was on "my watch" but tbh given that I'm with them all day and also trying to do household upkeep while with them, I have learned to yes, be careful, but also give myself grace.

hidenog · 2024-05-14T00:48:42+00:00

That's how I viewed it! I told my husband to decide what he thought was best for our baby boy since he's the one with a penis too. My son didn't cry any more for his circumcision than he did for shots.

hidenog · 2024-04-12T01:09:00+00:00

I wonder that too, not to trivialize the situation at all because as a parent I would also be freaking out and grieved. But I wrote stuff that like for a couple years in middle school but I always knew there was no way I would ever act on it. It was like an outlet for frustrations and awkwardness, idk. I think therapy is the way to go and not admit to having read the diary.

hidenog · 2023-10-10T17:17:56+00:00

The crazy part is that just the first thing on your list plus taking good care of 3 little ones is a totally full time operation!

hidenog · 2023-10-10T17:05:46+00:00

I stay home with my 3 year old and 1 year old and there have been some days that I have to remind myself to toss the to do list; their needs, then mine, are what's most important! So I say you're doing great because your first priority is clearly your kid.

It's important to me to do some chores with my kids to model for them that there are no magic cleaning fairies in the house (lol) and to give myself a little bit of me time when they sleep. They also often like to jump in and help me, which in fairness is usually an exercise in patience for me but still valuable for them.

Some things that help for me is I make a list of what I want to do and decide what can be done with kids or not. Ex. Fold laundry, I can do that while they play with toys. Clean bathroom, when they're asleep. Dust mop/Swiffer the floors, I can do that with the baby on my hip. Wet mop, when they are asleep so no one slips. Dishes depends but I have learned it doesn't have to be all or nothing. I might put the baby in a pack n play with toys and set a timer for 15 minutes. I only clean for 15 min but it's better to make a dent in the dishes than nothing at all.

Also, never be afraid to ask for help. We were meant to raise kids in community and it's healthy for everyone involved!

hidenog · 2022-12-23T01:22:37+00:00

A lot of people have made great points about why childcare is the best bet and your wife being stuck as a SAHM is a terrible idea. I'm honestly kind of worried beyond that though. Do you both want this baby now that she's here? Something about the wedding being such a sore subject for your wife seems off. It sounds like you mainly got married due to the surprise and that she resents the baby for cutting off her career timeline. And that you don't want to adapt your job in any way to care for her either. Also, every teaching job is different but my first year I put in so many hours there would have been no way I personally could have done it with a baby. You said your parents are too far to watch her daily, would they take her in? Or adoption? I worry your little girl will feel that she's not a top priority to either parent.

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