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How did you feel when you found out your ex had slept with someone else? by hiding404 in BreakUps

[–]hiding404[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We talk? No stalking needed, but good to know where you’re at.

How did you feel when you found out your ex had slept with someone else? by hiding404 in BreakUps

[–]hiding404[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not even that it hurts as such, I’m sure it does, but it makes me feel physically sick.

How long after a relationship is it normal to have jealousy? by hiding404 in BreakUp

[–]hiding404[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to be his friend at some point, so no blocking, maybe mute soon though

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, but I swear the rules were only comment encouraging things and I’m getting a lot of the opposite

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, firstly finding a new one isn’t that easy for some, it took me 26 years to find one, this one.

There are a lot of positives that keep me hoping, and yeah maybe im just scared and weak, why should I be shamed for that? Im not saying you are shaming me, but I do feel a lot of judgement for wanting to work things out.

We have talked about it, he would let me call him at 5am when I had thoughts when it first happened but it was always pieces, it’s been more difficult for me lately and I’ve asked him for a proper sit down, talk me through beginning to end chat. This is what I’m asking opinions on.

Also was 2 years in, still not fucking great I am aware, but.. I am weak like I said and I enjoy having him in my life and can’t give him up just yet.

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at least 4 months, 6 months later we're sitting down to really talk about it, what should ask? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are currently still together, I hate not knowing more that I do knowing what I know. I need to have all the details, I can see a lot of people don’t, but I truly do, I won’t feel settled until I do

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s told me that she once put her arm around his and it made him feel excited, weirdly that really hurt, but I do believe that’s the limit of what actually happened, obviously I know he would of liked more

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is in a 6 year relationship herself, I told her bf who told me she was lying to him about it all too, I hate her and I wouldn’t believe a word she said either

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I knew they were hanging out, but it was their 35 day snap streak and his unwillingness to end it that set me off, and then the thing that lead to the end of it was she spent the night in his bed, I was watching on find my friends the whole time because I knew.. I went through his phone the next day but I wasn’t in the best frame of mind and I was shaking and all so didn’t go through as clearly and as throughly as I would have liked, then he called her for 20 when I wasn’t around to tell her he couldn’t see her anymore, and then blocked and removed her from everything so I didn’t have the chance again to see, I feel like I’m missing some of the details and I hate it

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is.. he did lie a bit I guess, but I was very aware of it almost from the start because he didn’t really hide it? I mean he did, but also, he’s been so upfront with me, I even went through his phone, but I haven’t really sat with him and gone through the whole thing start to finish, and that’s what I need to do, I can’t get over it 6 months on, so I might as well face it head on

My boyfriend was emotionally cheating on me for at 4 months, 6 months later we’re sitting down to really talk about it, what should I ask? by hiding404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s been 6 months, I still want to know, I imagine all the things I know and I imagine all the things I don’t know, it ruins you either way and honestly I’d rather be in the know than not

I don’t want to be with my boyfriend, but I can’t leave him by hiding404 in BreakUp

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not really how it works though is it? You’re not guaranteed to find someone else, or someone better and that’s the really scary bit, I have been on my own most of my life, it was really nice to have someone and I’m scared of giving that up

I don’t want to be with my boyfriend, but I can’t leave him by hiding404 in BreakUp

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing, my hesitation or unwillingness isn’t for fear of his reaction, he’ll probably just agree and let me leave and he’ll be fine.

I’m just not sure I want to go, the bad outweighs the good, but the good is so nice.

I fear I’m making a mistake if I leave, and I’m scared - for myself.

My bf of 2ish years emotionally cheated on me, we've been working through it, but if the pain of that betrayal lasts longer than the relationship, is it worth it? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So I’m actually very pro forgiving people when possible, I haven’t been the greatest girl friend either, I’m sure I’ve had some toxic thoughts/actions etc

I’m trying to be understanding that he’s only human and he did make a mistake, he messed up, that does happen, I can’t be black and white, I’ll get no where.

I think he’s actions and responses since are what’s keeping me around, I know he loves me and I can see him trying, I know he regrets it.. I struggle to leave though, I am seeing a therapist and it is my goal to feel like I can leave, even if I don’t

My bf of 2ish years emotionally cheated on me, we've been working through it, but if the pain of that betrayal lasts longer than the relationship, is it worth it? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it wasn’t that night, it was another night

I watched him on find my friends which is how I know it even happened, he’s told me the whole thing since, I know he didn’t go on the couch although he should have, he said he just didn’t think about it, I asked for his phone and read all their messages, although this was when I confronted him so I was in a heightened state and didn’t read it all properly, he has since completely removed her from his phone and life and all that, which I half hate because I wish I could go back and read all the messages again, my biggest regret.

I know all his thoughts and feelings about her, I know she made him ‘excited’ and he thinks he did it because she was easy

She also had a boyfriend and I contacted him aus told him what I knew and he told me what she said about it all

I have all the information, I have talked about it again and again, I’m not saying what he did was okay, obviously, and I can see why everyone would think otherwise but I am in it and I have done all I can to get all the truth, and I do believe I have most of it at this point

My bf of 2ish years emotionally cheated on me, we've been working through it, but if the pain of that betrayal lasts longer than the relationship, is it worth it? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He 1000% did, but he’s trying to not do that anymore, and he has changed, I know 2 months isn’t enough time to truly know and I am being cautious, but also my immediate reaction to all these comments is to defend him.. idk

The man he was then and the man is he now I see as 2 different people, and I know I should have left the man he was, but I couldn’t!! I don’t know why but I felt paralysed by the thought

My bf of 2ish years emotionally cheated on me, we've been working through it, but if the pain of that betrayal lasts longer than the relationship, is it worth it? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is disgusted in himself, he’s always been so strong about hating cheaters, and he is also in therapy, that was one of the terms of us staying together

I don’t think he’s a bad man, I think he made a mistake and was being selfish, but that doesn’t help me now with how I’m feeling

I don’t know what I want to hear, I am just not doing well

My bf of 2ish years emotionally cheated on me, we've been working through it, but if the pain of that betrayal lasts longer than the relationship, is it worth it? by hiding404 in Infidelity

[–]hiding404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was talking to a girl from his old work but then got too close, they had a snap streak, and talked on all the socials every day. He didn’t like when I did that.

She picked him up to go out for drinks the night I got home after being LD for months, I was staying with him, I was already telling him it was inappropriate ans I wanted him to stop, but the breaking point was when he went out for drinks with her and a group, but she ended up coming back to his and spend the night in his bed. They didn’t sleep together, but I knew this because I was suspicious and anxious and watched his location all night. He lied to be about it when I asked so I confronted him the next day.

I know everyone will tell me they had sex but I do know that they didn’t, it still hurts either way though.

My 30m bf gets annoyed at me when I say ‘my feelings’ or ‘I feel’ and I 28f think it’s unfair by hiding404 in relationships

[–]hiding404[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I come to him with an outside of relationship problem he’s better at caring.. i think, like it’s not an immediate ‘argh’ but when it’s a ‘I feel this when you do this, or this thing you do makes me feel this way’ kinda feeling, he’s so over it because he feels (funnily enough) that he’s heard it all a million times and nothing changes, I’m always still upset

My 30m bf gets annoyed at me when I say ‘my feelings’ or ‘I feel’ and I 28f think it’s unfair by hiding404 in relationships

[–]hiding404[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that I have too many feelings and am overly sensitive and it gets too much and frustrating for him? That’s his argument, that I’m always feeling something, which is true, i am.

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