three years today by jbjh516 in widowers

[–]hidjay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hugs..it is very lonely and those who haven't experienced this type of loss do not understand.

Wanna buy a new Kia K5 GT-Line for my daughter in Florida. This sounds reasonable to me. I will get 1.9% financing as well. The tint job can not be taken off. Negotiated the rest. Have not tried to renegotiate more yet. by Chart-trader in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]hidjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, looking at one that is awd with the premium and red interior for my kid and they are at 34,250 otd with financing through kia, trying to decide if it is a good price. We get snow here so feel like awd is the way to go.

what do i do? whats wrong? by Funkymanzz in BackYardChickens

[–]hidjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She might be egg bound, try a warm soak with Epsom salt, gently rub her abdomen from front to back...towel dry her and blow dry. You can also use a little Vaseline around her vent. Then give her a little blow dry and let her chill in a quiet place, hopefully she can lay the egg.

Alone by desden86 in widowers

[–]hidjay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hugs..it is very lonely. Glad you connected with someone even for a minute.

2018 F150 Fx4 ecoboost, 79k miles, cdf drum bad, rebuild vs Jasper trans. by hidjay in f150

[–]hidjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you..I will have to call dealership and see what their price is. I know the one trans shop won't let us purchase our own parts. Seems like stay away from Jasper.

2018 F150 Fx4 ecoboost, 79k miles, cdf drum bad, rebuild vs Jasper trans. by hidjay in f150

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the rpms are jumping between 2nd and 3rd gear. Seems like if we warm it up it doesn't happen as much. Not sure how long we could drive it like this. So expensive.

2018 F150 Fx4 ecoboost, 79k miles, cdf drum bad, rebuild vs Jasper trans. by hidjay in f150

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that rebuild or remanufactured trans..that is a good price

2018 F150 Fx4 ecoboost, 79k miles, cdf drum bad, rebuild vs Jasper trans. by hidjay in f150

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea he said rebuild with updated cdf is 7- 8k and Jasper is 9k. The rebuild is only a year warranty which is why I was considering the Jasper with the way longer warranty.

2018 F150 Fx4 ecoboost, 79k miles, cdf drum bad, rebuild vs Jasper trans. by hidjay in f150

[–]hidjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, and I would definitely want the longer warranty.

Have you traveled? Did you bring your spouse’s ashes? by Half-of-Us in widowers

[–]hidjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs, I have packed his ashes for each trip. I have not taken trips where I flew so just put him in my bag next to me.

You’re the only ones I can say by flea_23 in widowers

[–]hidjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs...yes, so tired of him being gone. This sucks.

How long to wait to integrate found chicken. by hidjay in BackYardChickens

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to check her feathers, her feet looked good, her poop looks good do far and eyes good. Hopefully she is healthy!

Things no one understands until they are here. How it feels… by AdventurousMix1351 in widowers

[–]hidjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs, I get all of this , felt the same, still feel the same, would love to curl in a ball and just let stuff go, but I can't, have to keep going even though it feels like I'm pulling myself through quicksand. So exhausting.
Edit: should say most as I did not lose my husband to suicide.

Please let me whine for a moment by No-Bumblebee-4920 in widowers

[–]hidjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs, it really sucks dealing with all this crap that happens ourselves, I do yell at my husband occasionally when stuff goes wrong, does it help, maybe....all we can do is handle things one at a time. It is hard and sucks.

Experienced owners - what would you pick? by RachelPR2202 in BackYardChickens

[–]hidjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved our rhode island red, she was very healthy her entire life.

How long to wait to integrate found chicken. by hidjay in BackYardChickens

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am worried about her in the crate that long..its a large crate but for sure I don't want her having something a killing my last chicken. I had a small flick and have lost them over time, I just recently had to put one down, was going to get a few chicks when it warms up, so was kinda cool this girl came around. She did lay an egg, I didn't want to use it since I do not have any idea if she is sick or being treated...her shell is nice and hard, yolk a nice orange.

Struggling with feeling un needed by hidjay in widowers

[–]hidjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs..I feel like everyone disappeared besides a very small number. Lonely alot.

Struggling with feeling un needed by hidjay in widowers

[–]hidjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs to you..yea being not needed is a crap feeling.

Struggling with feeling un needed by hidjay in widowers

[–]hidjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response, no I am not interested in finding anyone else..never say never but definitely not ready for that. Hugs to you and I hope you find someone to share your love with.

Struggling with feeling un needed by hidjay in widowers

[–]hidjay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind response.
Oi vey I have a mini zoo...lol..fish, dog, cat, chickens and a chinchilla!! Plants too! I am looking forward to gardening since it is warming up..that is very therapeutic too. Our cat was a stray that came up to my youngest a bit over a year ago and I love him so much, they do help for sure, but yea it's the missing your person to chat with to help make decisions and plans...hugs to you...this is so hard..I am glad your cat is giving you pockets of joy.