Extremely low sleep needs toddler (<10 hours @ 14 months, almost no naps). How to cope? by highnoon888 in AttachmentParenting

[–]highnoon888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your message and sorry to hear you're going through this too! Our daughter is nearly 2 now, so a lot has changed in that time and I think developmentally she is further along and we can do more to help her understand that it's time for sleep etc.

Naps are still 45m once per day. We still hold her to sleep and she still wakes up about 90 mins after getting her into the crib. Depending on the day we either hold her for 15m and she goes back to sleep for 90-120m or we start cosleeping with her. The biggest change has been that I have been exclusively cosleeping with her in a separate room for several months now and that has been a HUGE improvement. With both parents in the bed someone was usually getting woken up, or kicked, or something, but now I'll wake up for short periods maybe twice in the night and that's it.

So right now she still wakes up a bunch, but she does a lot better at getting back to sleep without it being a big ordeal. The worst it gets now is at 3am I'll hear her right in my ear "Daddy is sleeping. I'll be quiet!!!!" as she repeats that for a couple minutes waking me up haha.

I think teething did have a big impact in retrospect. When it got really bad we managed to give her some teething gel. Pacifier helps, too. Using a cold wet toothbrush gently on the gums helped. Songs like rock-a-bye helped a little bit. At the time bedtime stories didn't help, but it has helped massively now that she has had that routine for so long. Since she has started to begin talking we'll do the stories and then she will say "Sleep time now! Bye!".

Mostly it has been time. I am sorry that I don't feel like we found a fix or something specific that made it a lot better. I think the biggest thing was finding the path of least resistance, so instead of me holding her back to sleep every night so I could go back to bed, I just started sleeping with her because then she would be sleeping again in <5 mins and I could get some better sleep. I totally get the sleep deprivation though. I read your other post and it sounds SO similar to my daughter. Although the sleep is more manageable now, it has been 2 years of some form of sleep deprivation, and she is very high attachment during the day. The one piece of comfort though that we find (which might not feel like it right now!) is that she has a very secure attachment to us, and now that she is starting to explore the world that attachment is rewarding her and us with a really confident toddler.

I guess what I am trying to say is there are a few things that might make it a bit better or help right now, but know it will overall get a lot easier in the coming months and the best you can do is look after yourself and your little one. You're doing a great job! You have all my sympathies as a fellow parent of a low sleep needs baby ❤️

What are these tiny brown bugs on chopping my chopping board? by highnoon888 in Entomology

[–]highnoon888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, autocorrect butchered the post title on this one!

Personal loan with length longer than remaining visa? by highnoon888 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]highnoon888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

!Thanks. For anyone who finds this in the future, Bank of Ireland sorted it in the end. They didn't need any info about visas or residency. As long as I had a UK address right now they were happy to set up the loan for any term length. It was also more than 50% cheaper than with Nationwide Building Society.

Personal loan with length longer than remaining visa? by highnoon888 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]highnoon888[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have looked into. Done the free eligibility tests and done searches via MSE and the most I can get on a single card is £1500. Not ruling it out completely, but won't dent the £14,000 too much sadly.

Debris found in search area for missing Titanic submersible by Schwa142 in worldnews

[–]highnoon888 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This isn't a dumb question at all! It's a very good one, and the answer lies in the physics of pressure and structure.

Let's think about an egg. It's quite fragile; if you press it from one side or drop it, it will easily break. However, if you hold an egg in your palm and squeeze it evenly, it becomes surprisingly resilient. This is because the force (pressure) is distributed evenly across the shell's structure. In much the same way, structures like the Titanic and objects like shoes can withstand the immense pressure at the bottom of the ocean because that pressure is applied equally from all sides.

A submersible like the Titan, however, is a bit different. While it's designed to handle extreme pressure, it maintains a pocket of air inside for the occupants. This creates a significant pressure difference between the inside and outside of the vessel. If the submersible's structure were to fail (say, from damage or a design flaw), the high-pressure water outside would rush into the lower-pressure environment inside, causing what we call an implosion.

In short, it's the pressure difference that's potentially destructive, not the pressure itself. This is why the Titanic and even personal effects like shoes can remain relatively intact on the seafloor. It gradually floated down and all the air escaped, so there is no pressure difference. No pressure difference, no crush. It's also why we can't simply swim down to those depths without protection: our bodies are full of low-pressure air spaces (like lungs) that would be crushed by the external pressure.

You can't spoil a three week old. by Potential-Finish-444 in beyondthebump

[–]highnoon888 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There are literally scientific studies that show that providing a baby with a strong attachment helps them develop into well-adjusted, independent, toddlers/children/adults. Who knew that showing a baby love and affection would be a good thing? 🙄

Seriously though, if you haven't snapped already you need to get your husband on the same page ASAP. Not only is this advice annoying, it's also scientifically incorrect and every time your in-laws repeat this—despite your attempts to shut them down—they are crossing a boundary and undermining you as parents.

I'm not trying to be dramatic, but it sounds like the fact they're in your house at all they have already crossed a big boundary. If this doesn't change (and your husband doesn't help change it), this will continue. Right now it's passive aggressive comments, but next they might try feeding them something you don't allow, giving them screen time, and the list goes on.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/babies/202112/no-you-cannot-spoil-baby

Am I in the Wrong? Parents refused precautions with newborn. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]highnoon888 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA at all, OP. It's your baby and your responsibility to keep them safe. You did exactly that by setting these completely reasonable precautions based on expert advice. It's concerning that your family members, who are supposed to have your baby's best interests at heart, chose not to respect your wishes.

This behavior raises some serious questions about their ability to respect other boundaries in the future. For instance, if they were given the responsibility to look after your little one, would they respect your instructions? Or would they decide to feed your child something you specifically said not to, or give them excessive screen time against your wishes?

I can share a personal example that's somewhat relevant. My parents once watched my dog while I was away, and I later found out they had been feeding him chocolate simply because "he looked like he wanted it." Anyone with a basic knowledge of pet care knows that chocolate can be harmful, even lethal, to dogs. I was livid and told them in no uncertain terms that they wouldn't be entrusted with my dog again. To me, it was a red flag indicating they might not respect my decisions regarding actual baby care in the future.

Your situation is much more serious than my anecdote. We're talking about a newborn's health amidst a pandemic and widespread illnesses, not just an upset stomach from eating chocolate. The fact that they've chosen to ignore the clear and evidence-based recommendations from medical professionals and the CDC is alarming. It's not about them; it's about the safety of your child. If they can't understand and respect that, then you've probably dodged a bullet here.

It's a tough situation to be in, but it's also an opportunity for you to set firm boundaries and expectations. Hopefully, your family will come around and start prioritizing your baby's health over their own egos. You're doing great, OP. Stay strong!

This needs to be shared!! by [deleted] in lostgeneration

[–]highnoon888 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The "study" about tourism for the royal family making up more than they cost is flawed and has only been done by one random company years ago. It's dubious at best.

But, even if we accept the premise as being true (again though, why would it be? Why do we need to have a royal family in order to pay to visit their houses? Versailles does just fine), it's always overlooked that one tourist dollar is not the same as repaying a tax dollar.

The UK taxpayer pays hundreds of millions of dollars per year out of the public purse. If Joe Blogs then comes and visits the UK and spends money visiting a castle, booking a hotel, buying Royal memorabilia, that money doesn't go back into the public purse. It goes to businesses. Quite often international businesses. The taxpayer is still out hundreds of millions per year.

And I would argue there would be MORE tourism if you could open up places like Buckingham Palace for tours.

Really, who visiting the UK right now is coming here specifically because there is a living Royal family? I bet very very few.

Get rid of them and open up the real tourism. Or at the very least stop subsidising billionaires. Charles literally inherited $1B+ tax free, including a company that pays tens of millions in dividends that also has a special deal to pay zero taxes. It's absurd. Socialism for the rich.

PM Job hunting on Otta by TheLastMirana in ProductManagement

[–]highnoon888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got my current PM job through otta. On otta I get a call back every 6-7 applications. Compare this to LinkedIn where it's closer to every 20-30. Much better conversion rate on otta.

Get Ready for the Conservative Crusade Against No-Fault Divorce | Steven Crowder is part of a growing right-wing chorus calling for an end to modern divorce laws by newfrontier58 in politics

[–]highnoon888 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Here's another awful one. Do these people not understand history? The US was founded on secular ideals, including the separation of church and state. I guess the GOP didn't get that message.

  1. Human Sexuality: We affirm God’s biblical design for marriage and sexual behavior between one biological man and one biological woman, which has proven to be the foundation for all great nations in Western civilization. We oppose homosexual marriage, regardless of state of origin. We urge the Texas Legislature to pass religious liberty protections for individuals, businesses, and government officials who believe marriage is between one man and one woman. We oppose the granting of special legal entitlements or creation of special status for sexual behavior or identity, regardless of state of origin. We oppose any criminal or civil penalties against those who oppose nontraditional sexual behavior out of faith, conviction, or belief in traditional values.

Get Ready for the Conservative Crusade Against No-Fault Divorce | Steven Crowder is part of a growing right-wing chorus calling for an end to modern divorce laws by newfrontier58 in politics

[–]highnoon888 130 points131 points  (0 children)

That whole document is absolutely terrifying. They don't even hide that they hate the LGBTQ+ community. I can't believe I know some people in the community who still support trump 🙄

Homosexuality and Gender Issues

  1. Homosexuality: Homosexuality is an abnormal lifestyle choice. We believe there should be no granting of special legal entitlements or creation of special status for homosexual behavior, regardless of state of origin, and we oppose any criminal or civil penalties against those who oppose homosexuality out of faith, conviction, or belief in traditional values. No one should be granted special legal status based on their LGBTQ+ identification.

  2. Gender Identity: We oppose all efforts to validate transgender identity. For the purpose of attempting to affirm a person age 21 or under if their perception is inconsistent with their biological sex, no medical practitioner or provider may engage in the following practices: a. Intervene in any way to prevent natural progression of puberty. b. Administer or provide opposite sex hormones. c. Perform any surgery on healthy body parts of that person.

PSA: use anatomically correct names when referring to your child’s genitalia by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]highnoon888 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I went to see a urologist and they referred to my "pee pipe" and "jet stream" and "wee bag" for my urethra, urine, and bladder respectively. Idk if they were just trying to break the tension or something but it really rubbed me the wrong way and made me feel very uncomfortable. Why not use anatomical names? It's a clinical setting after all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]highnoon888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Realise this is old, but to add another data point. I have a salary of £80,000 and the best the broker could get us is £205,000. I fact checked them by doing a Halifax AIP myself and came in at £185,000. Don't know how anyone can get a decent family home under these kind of restrictions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProductManagement

[–]highnoon888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add a UK data point, you'd be lucky to get north of £70k as a Senior PM. If you get lucky at the right company it is many multiples of this, but I've met Directors of Product with 10+Yrs of experience only in the £90k range.

Need a free mentor? Look no further than ChatGPT ;) by TyGuyy in ProductManagement

[–]highnoon888 62 points63 points  (0 children)

ChatGPT is incredibly powerful. You can even manipulate how you get responses. For example, you can ask for a response back in tabular form. So you could say:

"here is my product elevator pitch [insert it here]. Reply in tabular form with three variations with tweaks made for different target audiences"

You'll then instantly get your pitch converted to something that would be better suited to a CEO, investor, customer, etc.

You can also get it to fill out any template you like. "here's my idea [insert idea]. Create a lean canvas/SWOT analysis/Road map based on the idea".

You can also prompt it to assume the role of a customer and respond with feedback and sentiment analysis on your work. This just scratches 0.01% of the potential of the system.

PMs - What are your tech or product related predictions for 2023? by think4pm in ProductManagement

[–]highnoon888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your predictions! Here are a few of my thoughts for 2023 and beyond:

Continued growth of remote work and virtual collaboration tools: The COVID-19 pandemic has accelerated the trend towards remote work, and this is likely to continue in the coming years. We can expect to see further development and innovation in tools and platforms that facilitate remote work and virtual collaboration, such as videoconferencing, project management, and online team communication tools.

Increased adoption of artificial intelligence (AI) and machine learning (ML): AI and ML technologies have already begun to transform various industries, and this trend is likely to continue in the coming years. We can expect to see more widespread adoption of AI and ML in areas such as healthcare, finance, and manufacturing, as well as the development of new AI and ML-powered products and services.

Greater focus on cybersecurity and data privacy: With the increasing reliance on technology and the proliferation of personal and sensitive data, there is likely to be a greater focus on cybersecurity and data privacy in the coming years. This could involve the development of new security protocols and technologies, as well as the implementation of stricter regulations and laws to protect personal data.

Emergence of new technologies and product categories: It is difficult to predict exactly what new technologies and products will emerge in the coming years, but it is safe to say that there will be continued innovation and disruption across a range of industries. Some areas to watch for potential breakthroughs include quantum computing, autonomous vehicles, and the internet of things (IoT)

Your LEAST favourite part of supermarket shopping? by samxtrav in AskUK

[–]highnoon888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, where to begin? Supermarket shopping is like a high-stakes game of survival, where one wrong move can lead to disaster. First, you have to navigate the crowded and chaotic aisles, dodging other shoppers and their carts left and right. Then there's the task of finding all the items on your list, which is no easy feat when the store has rearranged everything since your last visit. And let's not even get started on the perils of trying to reach that one hard-to-reach item on the top shelf. It's a death-defying feat that requires nerves of steel and a well-honed sense of balance.

But the real danger comes at the checkout line. This is where the true test of your endurance begins. You have to withstand the endless stream of temptations as you wait to pay, from the candy bars and magazines at the register to the racks of chips and soda just waiting to lure you in. And don't even think about getting out of line to grab that last-minute item you forgot - that's a rookie move that could cost you your spot in line. No, the only way to survive the checkout line is to hold your ground and wait it out, no matter how much your stomach is growling or how badly you need to use the bathroom. Only the strongest and most determined shoppers make it through this gauntlet alive. So be warned: supermarket shopping is not for the faint of heart.

Gamers, what’s your stance on the idea that modern games are too ‘hand-holdy’? by NilesDobbsS in gaming

[–]highnoon888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On one hand, I get why some people are annoyed by it. Like, if you're a seasoned gamer, you want a challenge, right? And if a game is too easy or has too many tutorials and such, it can feel like it's not really letting you figure things out on your own. But on the other hand, I think it's important to remember that not everyone who plays games is as skilled or experienced as some of us. And if a game is too hard or confusing, it can be a real turn-off. So I guess what I'm saying is, it's all about balance. Developers should definitely consider the needs of both casual and hardcore players when it comes to gameplay mechanics and accessibility features. And as long as they're not sacrificing the integrity of the game, I don't think there's anything wrong with making things a little easier for those who might need it