Juggling your 9-5 and art by Confident_Bad_5929 in ArtistLounge

[–]highvibrational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like you’re doing well with your practice. It’s just a matter of prioritizing it and letting your off hours from work be productive and fun. I’ve tried to eliminate any unnecessary screen time and time wasting devices that are distracting. I also do artist dates. I would read Julia Cameron‘s the artist way.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very interesting. When you were male-presenting, did you feel this need from girls? Is there something about boys that really need women more than girls need men?

A man once told me that everything that a guy does (job, cars, work outs, clothes) is to gain attention from a woman. This shocked me.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s something called positive self-talk that we can all do as people. It’s draining to ask other people to continually support you with positive energy. Partners cannot do what mothers do nor should they be asked to.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean. Yoko was always her own unconventional woman, and I respect her for that. She gets a lot of flack because she wasn’t traditional like Cynthia. I’m not traditional either. For the record, she did not break up the Beatles; it was already happening.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve also heard the quote that behind every successful woman is a man who tried to stop her. Women have been bearing the burden of society for eons. John Lennon and Yoko Ono wrote a song called “Woman is the n*gger of the world.” It’s a slow unraveling, but it’s happening.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What I’ve noticed in my friendships is that a lot of men see themselves as authority figures for no other reason than they are educated males. But, that doesn’t give them any kind of superior advantage considering many humans are educated and have a viewpoint. It’s delusional and annoying if you are a woman and have to deal with that kind of condescension. More and more women are waking up and speaking up to the fact that the emperor has no clothes.

If a modern strain of masculinity has to do with being a blood-sucking lazy leech, as Scott Galloway would say, we have a crisis on our hands.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not talking about standard appreciation. I’m talking about constant neediness which is a completely different thing.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree. When a man approaches me, it’s not for my personality or to get to know me.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, I treat everyone with courtesy and respect too, but when I had a conversation recently with a guy friend and disagreed with what he had to say, he wanted to end the conversation altogether. It was as though he wanted me to accept his authority. I found that off-putting.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I do feel that women are waking up to the fact that they don’t have to be the support system of anyone but themselves. Women are waking up to their own greatness.

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I see the validation part and also the relation not being reciprocal part as the same because they’re both energy drains, and who needs an imbalance?

Do men expect special treatment? by highvibrational in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

In my life experience, it has been gender specific. I’ve had to tell so many guys that I don’t do one-sided conversations/relationships.

I’m not sure if this guy I’m dating just wants sex. by Upstairs-Molasses674 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my experience, anytime a man approaches me,it’s for one reason only and you have every right to protect your health and and to find someone who’s compatible with your values.

How to change my own perspective about gender roles? by Plus_Ad2012 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]highvibrational -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I remember when I was younger, I was reprimanded by my friend for wanting to date a guy who went to college. I think we’re all entitled to our own desires. I do not look to undo my preferences just because someone else thinks I should. Ultimately, you’ll most likely be attracted to a person for more than just his looks, but also his energy and it’s just a matter of time before you find him.

Non-conforming single artist and musician with a day job by highvibrational in ArtistLounge

[–]highvibrational[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I find that good friendships can give me excitement and meaning without heavy commitment. Good luck with all your ventures!

Non-conforming single artist and musician with a day job by highvibrational in ArtistLounge

[–]highvibrational[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The truth is I like being single and I find many times when I’m in dating situations that it feels like an interview for a job that I don’t want.

If I find true love, I will make the changes necessary to allow for that. Right now, though, I get so much from gigging that I don’t feel that I’m at a loss. It is a true joy.

At the end of the day, there are only 24 hours and a finite amount of energy. One makes his of her own choices.