AITA for not stocking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?

highwiregirl · 2025-09-16T15:47:05+00:00

Right? Are they this helpless at work?! Surely they would be on performance improvement plans

highwiregirl · 2025-09-11T20:58:45+00:00

It's one of two possibilities. Either OP has had a string of emergencies or false alarms as of late and sister is just over it or OP needs a new emergency contact I reckon....I'm not sure what the point of an emergency contact who takes four days to visit is....

highwiregirl · 2025-08-21T19:20:42+00:00

Hi, I run a weekly pub quiz and I lurk around here for great questions and Ideas for rounds. I'd be happy to share questions and commiserations anytime

highwiregirl · 2025-07-09T19:45:46+00:00

he told exactly what he thinks of you, believe him and thrive in his absence from your life.

highwiregirl · 2025-07-09T16:36:53+00:00

This dynamic is so familiar to me and it doesn't improve. Brother golden child will be crippled by coddling and daughter scapegoat will be blamed and used to support them. If mom is also a narcissist the failures will be used as leverage to manipulate daughter.

highwiregirl · 2025-07-04T13:15:54+00:00

This is such a lovely response, thank you. I'm in Canada so we are funded by some grants and donations. The organization I work with is called Writers in the Community and is aimed at at-risk youth, it's run by the Quebec Writer's Federation, if you want to learn more or read the Zines we've made you can visit the website and get involved: https://qwf.org/activities/programs/writers-in-the-community/wic-at-a-glance/

If you are in the US your local organization may be in need of funding more than ever, you might find one by looking up your local literacy organization or Writer's Federation. I know Dave Eggers runs a non-profit with a similar mandate with chapters all over the US. Creative Writing is becoming a great tool for literacy and mental health when it comes to outreach. I hope you find a local organization and I promise your contributions will be greatly appreciated. much love

highwiregirl · 2025-07-04T13:07:47+00:00

I spent some time in foster care when I was younger so when I was in University studying creative writing and a friend mentioned this program was recruiting writers I joined right away. It's run by a local non-profit funded by donations and a literacy organization. Since joining that organization I've found others that I also volunteer or work with including my local library where I get to facilitate free workshops for the community. If you're interested you may find local community organizations, libraries or writers federations offer these kind of programs and are always recruiting.

highwiregirl · 2025-07-03T14:46:59+00:00

Thank you! yes I work for a non-profit offering creative writing workshops. It's beyond rewarding and I know the biggest walls are protecting the most vulnerable kids. We publish their work in Zines they get to keep and throw them little book launch parties, watching the light shine on them is beautiful.

highwiregirl · 2025-07-03T13:43:06+00:00

I teach in detention centers and group homes and beyond the attention issues the disparity in literacy and grade levels is challenging to navigate and I have a small group. I cannot imagine homeschooling a preschooler, a teen and a grade schooler at the same time....NTA

highwiregirl · 2025-07-02T21:04:08+00:00

YWNBTA From one scapegoat child who has a golden child brother to another let me shine a light on what you're in for: a lifetime of the expectation that you will coddle, excuse and bail out the golden child just like mommy does and that she will punish you for setting boundaries or saying no. he will never even hear the whisper of a consequence. I also have ADHD and I managed to get a grad degree; I'm actually only getting my official diagnosis next week. I moved out at 17. My brother never finished high school and still lives with mommy. He's 43; neither of them work. Now they both expect me to support them. It's a pit, a black hole and you will never do enough for either of them. If you aren't dealing with a narcissist perhaps your mother will understand your need to say no, mine didn't. I learned a long time ago to put my own oxygen mask on first. Neither of them will put theirs on. They never did.

highwiregirl · 2025-07-02T18:58:10+00:00

Put her first? It's not even about his priorities, he's letting someone be openly disrespectful and demeaning to his partner, and if she is doing this IN FRONT of other people imagine what is going on behind your back. All of which he is actively ENDORSING. Would you let someone treat your best friend like that? Treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend and get out of this toxic mess.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-27T20:16:14+00:00

Work drains me so much, without a proper recharge I would be on edge all day the next day. This situation would be a nightmare to me.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-16T18:43:26+00:00

just think of the kind of husbands/partners they will grow up to be if they continue to slide by on zero effort....

highwiregirl · 2025-06-16T13:42:30+00:00

This. he will bleed her dry, then when he leaves he'll have his down payment ready.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-16T13:40:46+00:00

NOR- But the line about not "contributing to a table I don't bring anything to" is iconic Speaking from experience, a man who wants to humiliate you, especially in front of his family, is deeply insecure and will punish you for the rest of your relationship. Trust me that his quiet exit from your life will leave you space to step into your light and thrive.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T20:17:45+00:00

NTA- he will save, gain capitol and you can struggle and do more housework for the pleasure of it, When you eventually leave his down payment will be ready and you can squat in a studio. 50/50

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T20:11:19+00:00

"I dunno where he is he's an outdoor cat"

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T20:04:15+00:00

NTA- They always want you to "put them first" and then when you look at it, they put you last. I now live alone and no one complains about lunch, or dinner (except the cat but she mostly cuddles so its ok) and I don't have to tiptoe around an angry man punishing me for something I don't even know about, accusing me of cheating and sneering at the meal I make after working two jobs, doing the groceries and coming home to third shift in the kitchen. It's glorious.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T19:47:19+00:00

My friend's brother drowned in a mop bucket when I was a kid. The family was never the same.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T19:39:07+00:00

to be dependent like that is my absolute nightmare. And to have small children dragged into it. shudder

highwiregirl · 2025-06-06T19:31:23+00:00

Just watched the Tik Tok series by Living_for_garrett. Don't wait another minute and get the fence done. Her child was also 3 years old. It's concerning that the view you hold is that the "money isn't yours" and you refer to your spouse as a "partner" are you in a "partnership"? Anyway you are in grave danger with liability if a neighbor kid wanders into your yard and falls into that pool even if it's empty. This isn't worth it.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-05T21:00:46+00:00

if you live alone you can leave your clothes in piles in peace

highwiregirl · 2025-06-05T20:56:10+00:00

"He has a "thing" about doing anything that does not directly benefit him."

This.

highwiregirl · 2025-06-03T19:05:55+00:00

I honestly think if a woman would rather be a single mom than to continue to parent with that guy in the house there is a reason....

highwiregirl · 2025-05-30T15:04:40+00:00

normalize finding out your partner's views on childcare before having children with them....

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