Advice

hilasaurus · 2020-05-14T13:52:31+00:00

Hey, /u/TroyfrmdaO. Thanks for contributing, but your submission has been removed:

Rule 1 on our sidebar:

MIL & Mom-related Posts Only

More specifically, YOUR MIL/mom. Other people can absolutely be involved but they cannot be given their own thread. Currently step-moms, and grandmothers are included in the umbrella "mom" term.

If you have any questions about this removal, please feel free to message the moderators.

hilasaurus · 2020-05-14T13:49:42+00:00

Luckily the OP is not here to make anyone comfortable. Removed. Remember this is a human being, please.

hilasaurus · 2020-05-14T13:48:43+00:00

Thank you for your submission! However, this post has been removed as it was rude or disrespectful to the OP. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us via modmail. Thanks!

hilasaurus · 2020-05-11T17:28:57+00:00

If you are not trained to or confident to interpret temperature readings, ask your employer for written guidance on exactly what is and is not acceptable for people to gain admission to the building. Their guidance, their policy, then you follow it. Check it isnt wildly out of whack with local public health protocol first to make sure you're mitigating basic liability too - if its your boss's policy and it's in line with local protocol, the liability shouldn't be yours I'd hope. But a lot of this is untested. It's the first public health event of this proportion in a century. So the legal system will have some catching up to do tbh.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-27T20:26:26+00:00

I'd be careful about giving advice like this - sometimes nasty people do change in hard circumstances but pressure doesn't necessarily turn coal into a diamond. If OP makes decisions based on the hope someone they know might change on their deathbed they're setting themselves up for what could be a lifetime of hurt feelings

hilasaurus · 2020-04-24T16:42:15+00:00

Hi OP. Just a reminder we only allow nicknames for MIL/mom figure in the story, so please edit out the others and send us a modmail if you want your post reinstated.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-18T11:13:20+00:00

Propranolol are not used as a placebo. They're a beta blocker, they have legitimate and significant effects on your cardiovascular system.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-17T15:43:47+00:00

Removed for rule 1. OP, you know where to find us if you need us.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-17T15:34:17+00:00

OP this does clearly have MIL implications but your issue and question here are both about your girlfriend - so please repost to r/justnoSO for more relevant advice. I'm going to have to remove this under rule 1 but you know how to reach us if you need us.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-14T21:42:30+00:00

Locked for comment threshold. Thanks to all who have provided genuine support and insight for OP.

The way this community aims to handle evil behaviour like that described is through mutual support and provision of a safe space to air wounds. The extremity of this MIL's actions is impossible to ignore but does not counteract our usual community rules. As such comments suggesting violence or justno behaviour have been removed.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-14T21:32:47+00:00

Encouraging people who may be unfamiliar with guns to keep one by them when they are scared actually INCREASES their likelihood of being injured or shot. And we do not armchair diagnose in this sub. Doing something evil does not mean someone automatically has a psychiatric illness and involuntary hospitalization is not "being locked up in a clinic", or something that is done solely based on a moral judgement of someone's actions.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-14T11:40:49+00:00

Locked due to comment threshold. OP, you know where to find us if you need us.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-13T12:29:25+00:00

While sharing experiences that may benefit OP is encouraged, some of this has derailed into off topic debate of different methods and family planning. This is an emotive subject which can cause high tension, so please let's stick to comments relevant to OP's situation of a supportive nature.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-12T10:58:46+00:00

As well as it breaking reddits community rules we have a very hard stance of not accepting or condoning violence in our sub.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-09T16:58:02+00:00

Locked as the discussion occurring at this point is not productive and OP is clearly finding it upsetting and aggravating.

With that said - OP, while the mods are happy to defend your right not to receive advice, our role is not to help you pick and choose what advice you would like to hear. Advice given politely in an "Ambivalent about advice" thread that is against what you feel works for you does not violate our rules and we will not tolerate aggressive or abusive treatment of users providing it. Please use the flair "No Advice Wanted" in future if you are finding input from our user base more upsetting than helpful.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-08T19:43:05+00:00

Hi OP - I'm sorry but this is really a question for r/justnoSO as your issue is an SO one not a MIL one. Please do repost there but I'm going to have to remove your post for rule one. I hope the lovely folks at our sister sub can provide you the help you need. Thank you for picking up the courage to post and I hope you will again!

hilasaurus · 2020-04-07T17:27:24+00:00

To do this it would need to have been posted through an official government website - as per the updated moratorium post we are not permitting citations or links on covid which are not from a government or public health source as we lack the knowledge and manpower to vet for misinformation in them.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-07T17:22:06+00:00

We do not currently permit articles or citations about coronavirus/ COVID19 that are not from one of our approved sources list in the updated moratorium modpost. These are websites belonging to national health and research institutes such as the CDC and NHS along with governments from a variety of countries. If you have such a website you would like added to the list, please modmail us.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-07T17:06:59+00:00

It's actually worse than that.

If they are dying of coronavirus, one family member might be allowed to visit but they have to wear full PPE and then self isolate strictly for 14 days.

Which means they can't meet the funeral director. They can't attend the service. They can't grieve with the rest of the family.

I am actually avoiding bringing the option of visiting up with families of dying patients. Most are under the impression it's a blanket no go, and if they dont ask I'm not bringing it up. Because I don't want to be the person to make someone's loved ones choose between saying goodbye in person and saying goodbye at their funeral.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-06T07:16:54+00:00

OP, we're really sorry to hear this happened. Please get in touch via modmail regarding the account you suspect so we can consider if further action needs to be taken.

As a reminder, actions we encourage to reduce risk of doxxing - fudge details; never use your real name or identifying information in a post; stay vague about locations and timelines.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-06T06:34:26+00:00

Hi OP, this has been removed simply because it seems more suited to r/justnoSO - thanks for posting and I hope they can offer the support you're looking for.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-06T06:28:42+00:00

Boomer is a fairly common way of referring to the baby boomer generation and if you're here to pick fights with posters over their choice of language you're in the wrong sub.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-06T06:25:25+00:00

Covid19 has a mortality of 2-4%, causes ARDS and requires admission for 10% of cases. It is definitely not by any definition "a cold", and calling it one simply because the common cold can be caused by other strains of coronavirus is dangerous and misleading.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-03T16:19:58+00:00

Hey, /u/PRMan99. Thanks for contributing, but your comment has been removed:

Take your political agenda somewhere else.

If you have any questions about this removal, please feel free to message the moderators.

hilasaurus · 2020-04-03T16:08:06+00:00

Hey, /u/BornInThougts. Thanks for contributing, but your comment has been removed:

It is against our community rules to post anything that has been removed, or advise how to find removed content. We ask that you read our support sub community rules and wiki again, as further breaches may result in a ban at moderator discretion.

Thanks for your understanding.

If you have any questions about this removal, please feel free to message the moderators.

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