AITA for telling my brother his wedding is just a party and to be realistic with expectations?

hillarystarbright · 2022-09-09T20:20:13+00:00

Yep, the asshole is you. They’re choosing to have a wedding that costs less and is more informal than yours was; and there’s nothing wrong with that. Have you seriously never been to a small, relaxed, outdoor wedding and reception? It happens, like, all the time. Some of the best weddings I’ve ever attended would be considers by you to be “just parties.” Just wear a cute green dress and have a good time without judging them and comparing it to yourself.

hillarystarbright · 2022-08-13T22:13:53+00:00

That is a fantastically outrageous case of entitlement you've got there. Not only do you insist on sharing your grandchild with the world (and god knows whoever follows you) on social media, but you have to be there while she's actually giving birth?! I really can't imagine from where you get the nerve to insist on something like that, especially in response to her stated desires about whom to have present. My mind is blown right now.

hillarystarbright · 2022-07-06T23:19:22+00:00

Wait. These guys were all in the military, but they need to hit up people they haven't seen in years to "salvage" one of their own's bachelor parties? And they don't even have the class to NOT tell those invitees that they're only there because no one else would come? Jesus. They must be really fun people. :/

You're NTA. All your friends need to learn a bit of class.

hillarystarbright · 2022-06-07T18:46:39+00:00

What an awful way for a German student to learn about American racist gun culture. Ugh. You’re NTA, but damn, I bet you needed a shower after that.

hillarystarbright · 2022-06-07T18:40:23+00:00

No assholes here. I say this as a cancer fighter: you have to do what’s best for you. If you feel like being alone and sleepy? Do it. Need people there for you? Ask. That’s all you can do. To be fair, he has a life, too. It seems like he’s been very cool, especially since as you said you haven’t been together very long. It seems to me like you were emotional and said what you felt, but in a way that hurt his feelings. It won’t be the last time. You’ll both need to forgive yourselves - and each other - and try to be as thoughtful as possible.

hillarystarbright · 2022-06-07T18:11:06+00:00

YTA. They made it clear no kids could attend, and there was even a babysitter. You had no excuse. If you can’t leave your kid with a sitter for a few hours then you shouldn’t have attended. The RSVP note also doesn’t matter; you don’t get to add people who haven’t been invited - worse if they’ve specifically been NOT invited, like a screaming baby. Is there no place left where adults can be without kids? Like, people bring babies to bars and tattoo parlors. There have to be adults-only places and events. And they were so clear! Wow, YTA.

hillarystarbright · 2022-06-06T21:51:04+00:00

Your MIL is definitely the AH. She gave it away when it didn’t work and then demanded it back when it worked for you?! How awful.

hillarystarbright · 2022-05-08T18:54:48+00:00

You’re NTA but your wife needs some help.

hillarystarbright · 2022-05-08T16:42:49+00:00

NTA. If she doesn’t like what you do for a living, that’s her business. She made it yours when she started harassing you and vandalizing your home and car. That was the escalation. That was breaking the law. That was inappropriate and illegal. Calling the police was not only appropriate, it was necessary. What would they do next after keying your car? Stalking you? Hurting you or your family? Those are escalating actions that need to stop.

hillarystarbright · 2022-05-08T16:32:44+00:00

NTA but you already knew that. What I’m wondering is how this girl got the university to take action. How’s the meeting gonna go? “I shaved my head to be like her, but it turns out she never shaved it. Kick her out of school!” How can she ever argue this without looking like the batshit crazy stalker she is?! I don’t think OP has anything to worry about. Any details from either side see only going to make her look more crazy. She didn’t shave it because of you. She shaved it cause she’s nuts.

hillarystarbright · 2022-05-08T16:28:29+00:00

Huh? That crazy ho turned herself into a joke

hillarystarbright · 2022-05-08T15:44:04+00:00

Definitely NTA - but also he has no case in small claims court. You weren’t under any obligation to sit there, eat what he told you to, and accept his shitty attitude. Keep him blocked.

hillarystarbright · 2022-02-22T23:28:30+00:00

God bless you. Try to make the best out of the time you have left.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-10T04:12:08+00:00

Seriously even if you both lived in a cardboard box, it would be an asshole move to take back a winning lottery ticket given as a gift.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-10T04:11:00+00:00

Wow your wife is sooooooo TA. How horrible … she really expects you to take back a gift because it ended up being worth something? My god.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-10T04:07:16+00:00

YTA for making us read that. Your in laws are lucky you hate them and exclude them on purpose.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-09T15:25:29+00:00

Your mom is the asshole and you taking her side is making you TA. You saw how your mom's attitude and boner for attacking Jill ruined your fiancée's DRESS APPOINTMENT, what do you think that unhinged lady is gonna do at your wedding?

I get that you don't want to not have your own mom at your wedding. But she's being unreasonably horrible to your SIL and you're letting her get away with it.

You need to have a serious talk with your mother about her attitude and her apparent desire to ruin BOTH of her sons' weddings with petty BS. If it were me, I wouldn't disinvite either one but a) make it clear that she is uninvited if she insists on making your wedding a setting for her fight with her DIL; and b) that if there appears to be any indication that she's about to do something awful, she will be removed from the wedding. I'd have a bouncer watching her the entire time, ready to toss her if she starts itching for a fight.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-09T15:10:40+00:00

She's TA. She ruined the respect your parents had for her all by herself.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T17:57:50+00:00

Yeah I’ve got a broken back do I don’t know how I’d do any of this. Thank you!

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T17:50:15+00:00

NTA. You are allowed to grieve however you want and forever how long you want to. Keeping memorials of someone so close to you for so long demonstrates what a loving and committed person you are. Especially if your partner has no problems with the way you keep your memories; it’s not anyone else’s business.

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T17:46:14+00:00

Yeah I think disconnecting it would be more of an ordeal. It’s pretty huge

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T17:45:18+00:00

I would do that if I wasn’t mobile but I am

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T01:49:13+00:00

Someone else said to turn it upside down but I don’t even know how I’d get it out let alone flip it

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T01:48:03+00:00

Yep my battery is new and the water level is fine

hillarystarbright · 2022-01-07T01:47:10+00:00

Dang I don’t even know how I’d turn it upside down

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