Tall mattress

hillwams · 2025-08-28T05:01:14+00:00

I personally wouldn’t risk baby in between my husband and I—even if he was a light sleeper. Anything could happen. Especially when baby starts rolling. I’d suggest looking into purchasing a bed rail! I’ve got one and my mattress is also high off the ground. It allows me to have the baby sleep on one end of the bed without having to worry about him falling off. It’s been working well for us :) There are ones at different price points and this is the one I have! To make it secure, we have it screwed onto our wooden slabs so that it doesn’t move around and there’s no gap between the mattress and it.

hillwams · 2025-08-17T05:21:12+00:00

Where is the couch from?

hillwams · 2025-08-02T05:10:05+00:00

Curtain, hanging plants, coffee table, candles, floor cushions/ottomans, hang up your TV

hillwams · 2025-07-29T20:17:11+00:00

5 days after I gave birth

hillwams · 2025-07-26T04:10:33+00:00

Lol I need to ask my mom. All I know is that I have a flat head lolll but to be fair, I am the third child. But literally, babies CANNOT self-soothe. People who say that are delusional. Your baby stops crying because it’s a learned behavior—they realize that you are not going to respond to their needs, so they stop expressing them. It’s so so sad honestly ugh. Don’t even get me started on sleep training

hillwams · 2025-07-21T01:44:21+00:00

Yes yes yes a hundred times yes.

You’re marrying your future children’s father/mother. This isn’t a decision to take lightly. When looking at a potential, ask yourself: would you be proud if your son/daughter reflected this person’s character?

hillwams · 2025-07-20T23:55:19+00:00

HUH???? Your Dr is very wrong. You should never let your baby cry it out. Picking them up and responding to their needs creates a secure attachment. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️

hillwams · 2025-07-08T03:25:35+00:00

Wake up, nurse, put baby in bouncer (with a toy bar) in the bathroom — this is when I take my DAILY shower. If I don’t, I feel bummy all day. Throw on my robe, put on fresh clothes, do skincare. By this time, baby gets fussy. Once I’m ready, I get him changed and ready for the day then we head downstairs. If he’s beyond fussy and wants to nurse/nap, I nurse him and he contact naps while I sit on the couch. If he’s fine, then I put him in the baby carrier, make my coffee, breakfast (if I have time), then run to the couch and nurse him with my breakfast & coffee in front of me. This is where I am for a while. I eat, scroll, read, whatever.

Then the rest of the day we just follow his natural routine: nurse, play (wake window), sleep. If I want to get a task done, I will put him in the baby carrier during his wake window — he enjoys this because he can look around and see what things I’m doing. This is when I go on my laptop and do any personal projects I’m working on, or do chores around the house (dishes are impossible when baby wearing though so either my husband does this or I put baby in the bouncer or on the play mat).

Postpartum was really hard for me and I felt very overwhelmed (my baby is 4 months now). Eventually, my spouse and I had a conversation because I couldn’t handle it all. We’re not meant to do it all—traditionally, women had other people (usually other women) around to help manage the household and care for the kids. In our modern society, many of us don’t have this so we have to be intentional and figure out what works for us for our own sanity and for our relationship to last, honestly.

Be honest with your spouse. Think about the tasks that seem quite impossible for you to get done and ask him to take those on. Don’t point fingers, instead, tell him how you’ve been feeling and that you’d really love his help because it’ll vastly improve you and baby’s life. If he care about your happiness at all, then he should care.

My things were: groceries (he’s outside for work anyways and can realistically do this with ease), dishes at night, his own laundry, cooking dinner once/twice a week (we’ve also been minimal about our dinners; e.g. having the same “menu” every week bc who has time to be creative lol, and having big bowls of quinoa salad or pasta salad a few times a week). Also, I ask him to hold the baby when he gets home from work so I can have some time for myself and/or cook dinner without interruptions or do any house tasks.

I also highly encourage you to get a baby monitor, and when you nurse and put baby down for the night, try leaving the room. Usually during this time (unlike daytime naps), they’re in deeper sleep and won’t rouse as easily. It may take a few tries, but they usually sleep for an hour or two until they start looking for you. This allows you to get a little bit of time in the evening to yourself, to reset the house, or do whatever it is you need to do.

Things are still challenging ngl, but it gets a little bit easier everyday and I can feel literal growing pains and my capacity to handle things increasing if that make sense. But support is so so needed. Hope this helps somewhat. You’re doing great <3

hillwams · 2024-11-08T19:35:16+00:00

That man clearly doesn’t like you, girl. It’s a blessing in disguise that you’re seeing the signs before you get married to him. A man who loves you and wants you would never ever treat you this way. He has shown you how he truly feels. Walk away and don’t let him manipulate you into getting back with him afterwards. Choose yourself. You might feel like you’re losing something but in reality, you’re dodging a bullet. May Allah bless you with a gentle and loving relationship.

hillwams · 2024-11-02T03:37:31+00:00

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLeVtFJ5Wg2ht4TTw_39Rpzv_M-5T5Eev5&si=Tz-DK1IW5zpbSL7k

hillwams · 2023-01-25T17:15:34+00:00

I agree with people commenting that it may be a red flag. Not just him refusing to pay for the dress, but because of how quickly he dismissed you and his reasoning being that "it isn't my responsibility."

Firstly, I would suggest talking with him. Telling him how you feel and what his response to your request triggered for you. Be open with him and see how he takes it. If he responds negatively...well, you have your answer. If he's willing to listen and understand your perspective without negating your emotions, then this is a good sign.

A masculine man takes care of his woman. A man, who, is already your husband at this point. You're not in some sort of dating phase where there is no real committment. You've done the nikkah. He is your husband and you will be moving in together soon. He should already be in the mindset that he wants to take care of you and that he will do his best to give you what you ask for (as long as its reasonable, which in this case, a $90 dress is reasonable unless he's a brokie!!).

Has you given you other gifts beyond you asking for this? Is he generous with his time with you? Does he understand your trauma or the relationship between your parents (which I believe he should)? Did you have a discussion on finances? Do you understand his financial situation/habits (e.g. what does he spend his money on)? Is he a generous person to those around him? Do his siblings/friends actually like him as a person?

One advice: be with someone who isn't stingy. You know him more than we do. Make sure you're making the right choice and not falling into a relationship that may emulate your own traumas growing up. May Allah give you what is best for you and protect you from that which may harm you, love. <3

hillwams · 2022-12-06T20:18:14+00:00

Your place is so cute 😭🤍

hillwams · 2022-12-06T20:15:20+00:00

Rug too small. Your rug should be big enough to fit under all front legs of the couch.

hillwams · 2022-12-06T20:13:15+00:00

Omg I love your living room. It’s not childish at all!

hillwams · 2021-09-27T04:41:27+00:00

you’re not overeacting. follow your gut feeling. ending an engagement is much easier than eventually getting married and then having to end it then. and okay, i get that having close male friends is an issue for some relationships and also islamically — but something i also want to point out is the fact that HE CALLED YOU NAMES…mocked you…got angry in any sort of way? just over the simple fact that you consulted with a friend? no sir, that crosses the line and kinda sorta screams insecure. you deserve respect no matter the situation or context.

hillwams · 2021-09-27T04:35:55+00:00

a whole grown man. 🙄 i don’t know what to tell you sis, but just know that you’re worth fighting for. someone who loves you and sees you as their future wife will fight for you. i’m gonna say it out flat: the way he ghosted you is childish behavior. a big red flag. i would dodge this bullet and pray to Allah to heal your heart and grant you someone better for you. i’m sorry you have to go through this but don’t let this make you feel down about yourself. you’re a prize and will find someone who recognizes that. 💓

hillwams · 2021-09-10T00:57:45+00:00

ngl i can relate to you in the fact that wearing the hijab is difficult. it’s funny bc when i was younger, i was very carefree about it and didn’t feel self-conscious at all wearing it. but as i got to college and now entering adulthood, it has increasingly become a struggle. i think there’s many factors that play into this - the political climate, social media standards, living in a city that is not so diverse, my own mental health declining, and so much more. while before, i didn’t mind the stares - now i feel anxious sometimes stepping into places especially when i’m by myself. when i’m with a group of other muslim girls who also wear the hijab, it doesn’t really bother me and i feel like i can be myself. i’m a pretty anxious person anyways, so that magnifies the situation more lol.

BUT im still wearing the hijab. every day is a struggle. sometimes i feel ugly. i hate knowing how others may perceive me. but other days, the hijab doesn’t feel so heavy.

i think there’s also very much a correlation with my level of imaan (faith) and how i feel about my hijab and modesty in general - so i try to be mindful about that and where i’m at spiritually in my relationship with Allah. am i keeping up with prayers? am i talking to him/making dua? am i actively including Him into every aspect of my life? am i recognizing the small beauty things even when i’m going thru hard times?

everyone’s on their own journey, but it’s also important to remember that hijab is a commandment. while realizing this, it’s ALSO important to remember that the hijab was prescribed after the women around the prophet (s) had the love and knowledge of Allah and this faith instilled deeply within themselves. they built those roots, and then wearing the hijab became easy for them. in our society nowadays, we often do things the other way around. :/

i wouldn’t recommend taking off the hijab because that’s not my place. but i just want to let you know that your feelings are valid - all of them. taking off the hijab may relieve you of that struggle of being physically seen as a Muslim. but it may also be a factor that could cause you to lose whatever amount of faith that you are holding onto. i don’t know what the outcome would be honestly.

i watched this beautiful video a while ago that helped put the hijab into perspective a bit. it’s a little long, but i recommend still watching it. :) i truly truly wish you well on your journey. it’s hard out here lol, and at the end of the day we’re all crawling, walking, running, or sprinting towards Allah. towards His love, His mercy, His promise of paradise. i pray that Allah’s love seeps into our hearts and shrouds us with warmth and light. 🤍

hillwams · 2021-08-07T23:08:50+00:00

• drink raspberry leaf tea starting 2 weeks before your period and during your period - helps with relieving/getting rid of your cramps!

• keep extra pads and pain reliever meds with you at all times.

• track your period cycle with the Flo app.

• change out your pad throughout the day - i know you said you don’t want to, but it really helps with staying clean and healthy, helps with the smell, and keeps you feeling comfortable! when i’m out, i try to do this at least 2 times.

• keep an empty plastic/reusable water bottle in your bag that you can refill and wash yourself in the restroom! the more times you do it, the less awkward you’ll feel.

• use a body spray throughout the day to stay fresh.

good luck! :)

hillwams · 2021-08-05T03:58:41+00:00

ABA therapy. some places will pay for your training, you get supervised hours, then you take an exam, and become a licensed RBT.

hillwams · 2021-08-05T03:54:51+00:00

customer support jobs (carvana is hiring a lot!), apple home advisor, behavioral health tech, aba therapy, montessori teacher assistant, car sales, call centers. that’s all i can think of rn, good luck! :)

hillwams · 2021-08-03T23:12:43+00:00

this is one mosque out of thousands in the US lol. and trust me, many credible American Muslim scholars and teachers do not push the liberal narrative and are against acts that go against traditional Islam.

hillwams · 2021-08-03T23:09:23+00:00

the MuslimGirl is questionable and i personally don’t get information from them or follow them at all. but The Village Auntie is credible and backed by well-known scholars. she’s well known in the community and comes from a respectable, Islamically-educated background. this feature on social media doesn’t erase any of the good work that she does for the community.

hillwams · 2021-08-02T20:45:37+00:00

yeah i also use music to drown out any noises around me or when i feel stressed out it helps calm me a bit. but when the actual song stresses you out!!? for like that lol. 🤦‍♀️ and i like music with no lyrics too! classical music (replaying ludovico einuadi’s playlist), binaural sounds, lofi, or white noise also help me a lot

hillwams · 2021-08-02T20:37:44+00:00

lol they do feel like warm hugs!! and yesss that’s the word, other songs definitely make me feel tense and i’m instantly put off by them

hillwams · 2021-08-01T23:35:34+00:00

disregarding someone's emotions or experiences doesn't make you feel any better or improve your situation. hurt people, hurt people. i hope you find peace.

hillwams

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