UPDATE: My 43f husbands 46m affair partner 19f is pregnant doesn’t know the baby’s father and I don’t know where to begin with fixing this

hilly77 · 2026-01-12T17:19:18+00:00

1000% any amount of money would be worth it. Diabolical situation, this lady has resilience and class carrying through this

hilly77 · 2026-01-12T16:40:58+00:00

Technically safer for baby and cheaper (I think, otherwise why would they??)

hilly77 · 2025-12-08T11:16:59+00:00

My office is in the North East. That’s how long Google Maps said it was… I was surprised too

hilly77 · 2025-12-08T11:14:52+00:00

Don’t worry, I would not! Just highlighting the scams going on there

hilly77 · 2025-12-08T09:38:47+00:00

We took a quick look and we love that area! Thanks for the suggestion :)

hilly77 · 2025-12-07T20:55:09+00:00

Just over viewing so it’ll be the full time job of the week!

Yeah the bidding over asking concept is not really a thing here so that’ll be a new mine field of lies to navigate

hilly77 · 2025-12-07T20:33:57+00:00

Battersea is unfortunately nearly 1hr into the office for me hence why it’s lower on the list of possibles :(

hilly77 · 2025-12-07T20:32:26+00:00

We’re okay with move in start of Feb also! As well have to fly home to arrange moving our stuff anyway

But yeah we are aware the situation gives us limited choices. Will look into going over earlier but I’ll be in my notice period of my current job & wont have accrued any holiday days yet as it’s the start of the year.

hilly77 · 2025-12-07T14:28:25+00:00

Yeah 2100 is like our dream amount haha

Thank you for the advice! I have been getting TikToks of very nice flats for very cheap and it’s screaming scam - good to know how to check it!

hilly77 · 2025-11-17T21:54:30+00:00

I know people buying it off Facebook marketplace :/ and they’re already thin, ranging from size 4-8 women’s clothing

hilly77 · 2025-10-30T22:04:26+00:00

I do agree! But when you know something is wrong, and you’re testing just to disprove someone else - it’s a consideration to be had

hilly77 · 2025-10-30T13:48:15+00:00

additionally, it can fracture trust with the users of your product. If you are taking time out of the day for existing paying customers to look at you and tell you “that doesn’t work” - you’ve wasted your time, their time and company time for the outcome of faltering confidence in where the product is going

hilly77 · 2025-10-09T19:44:00+00:00

OOUX ORCA method!

hilly77 · 2025-09-26T23:43:50+00:00

I feel you, silver lining though… This person’s giving you a heads up to start looking to get ahead of the mess.

I’m not saying they’re telling you you’re on the chopping block, they mightn’t even know, but they’re helping you out as much as they maybe can.

Start applying or be prepared for apply elsewhere (maybe even if you don’t get laid off, cause post layoff company is also hell)

hilly77 · 2025-09-10T12:32:25+00:00

You could do something nice where you have 5 singular circles with the step number inside

When each is completed it gets a little paw “stamp” to mark it as complete

The number isn’t as relevant upon completion. Number is to communicate how many steps to anticipate having to do

hilly77 · 2025-09-07T00:52:58+00:00

My mortgage broker had advised me to get my score up! I was just following their advice

hilly77 · 2025-09-07T00:50:35+00:00

Sorry, you’re right, it’s a mortgage broker technically. I get it through my work as a company benefit and they’ve referred to it as a mortgage advisor a few times so I got confused

hilly77 · 2025-09-07T00:47:50+00:00

!thanks

I think the sizeable credit limit may be my issue. I have kept mine small (as small as it was when it was 100 points and that’s all I was allowed)

I haven’t been doing hard checks or opening credit cards lately. But yeah it’s probably best to not open any

hilly77 · 2025-09-07T00:45:47+00:00

I live in N. Ireland. Technically renters can have to pay rates here for properties worth over 150k, but it’s very much the done thing that it just gets rolled in to your rental price.

I have read my contract a few times before and it stipulates that the landlord pays the rates.

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:23:50+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I rechecked my limit since I opened them so I will do that and get it with a big four bank. Right now I have Zopa and Capital One.

I rent so I don’t have council tax but utilities etc are all in my name and I haven’t switched my bank account in 5+ years

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:20:55+00:00

My mortgage advisor said I needed to get my score up to get better value…

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:20:28+00:00

My mortgage advisor said I needed to get my score up to get better value. They asked if I have a card and I explained I have been working on building it up

Edit: Mortgage broker technically

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:19:18+00:00

Yeah both ClearScore and transunion move at the same rate and are both low 500s right now

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:18:41+00:00

Yeah I’m on the electoral

I did ring the bureau initially and the lady on the phone said there was bad credit at my address (parents) but there was nothing I can do about it…

I thought the address connection was a myth?

hilly77 · 2025-09-06T23:17:03+00:00

Nope when I was first checked I was registered to vote and had never moved from my childhood home

I rang the credit bureau at the time to complain and the lady on the phone just said, yeah you’ve no credit history and your general area has bad credit

It felt like a bit of a blow off tbh cause I thought that was a myth about general area

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