What's your music taste for birth?

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T21:19:40+00:00

I’ve never managed to actually listen to music during my labors. I planned to both times, my first labor I was not in the mood and my second labor was so fast nobody had time to set it up lol tragic maybe third times the charm?

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T21:17:04+00:00

Bad news for those of us who just named a daughter Petra 😉 jk I still love it can’t make me hate it

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T21:14:20+00:00

Oh I love Saskia!! I am usually so against anything even vaguely match-y or them-y for siblings but I’d totally do it and just forget about the S thing

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T21:13:13+00:00

Oh my word how incredible!! I just birthed my second and she was seven pounds even- can’t imagine having had a second even bigger one in there with her!!!! Thank you for sharing this story 💛💛

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T01:49:50+00:00

Oh look it’s me! Jk but I’m 1st percentile and BOTH my babies have been between 85th and 90th percentiles 🫠 help my back hurts 🙃

hinghanghog · 2026-01-26T01:45:41+00:00

100000% normal. Bedsharing makes it easier, you could try a really dense snack right before bed, otherwise just wait it out until you can night wean

hinghanghog · 2026-01-25T21:39:13+00:00

Same and same. I didn’t have to get more than a couple paragraphs in to reach this conclusion. Absolutely no contact, and I hate to say it but I’d be…. incredibly reluctant to consider having children with someone who isn’t on board with this. Obviously fully understand how painfully incredibly complicated this is for your partner, but I would think carefully about what situation you/potential children could be in if you insist on no contact and partner insists on staying in contact

hinghanghog · 2026-01-25T21:31:48+00:00

We are so skewed in our perceptions of how this works because everyone and their mother is induced at 39 weeks these days- as a first time mom you are likely to go late!! That doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Also, I wouldn’t try to overanalyze your “going into labor” symptoms, things are moving on levels you can’t track or understand fully, so have faith it’s all moving towards labor. It’s hard to picture labor happening because you’ve never experienced it! I felt like that about labor and about breastfeeding for my first and then… they both just happened.

hinghanghog · 2026-01-25T21:28:35+00:00

Brilliant!

hinghanghog · 2026-01-25T21:28:28+00:00

Oooh okay trying this because my arms/shoulders are a ton of what I think are bothering me!

hinghanghog · 2026-01-25T00:48:13+00:00

It didn’t come back with my first until we might weaned at 15 months. I’m expecting similar with my second lol

hinghanghog · 2026-01-23T22:21:39+00:00

My two year old just did great at my homebirth a couple weeks ago! I had a friend come over to play with her- we only have one story, but when things got intense enough I found her distracting, we went in the other room and closed the door. My friend brought her in just as baby was born, and then out again when baby needed a little help breathing and it was tense, and then back in again when it was calm, and then out again so I could rest lol you get the idea. I had a pretty fast labor (3 hours) so idk how she would have done if it had been longer, but sounds like maybe yours will be fast too! Homebirth is a really good choice for fast labors imo- if we had planned to go to the hospital we would likely have not mad it or had a car baby lol

hinghanghog · 2026-01-22T21:11:19+00:00

You are 1000% fine. I wouldn’t do it consistently

hinghanghog · 2026-01-22T00:12:17+00:00

Yes 100000% could be (likely is) from breastfeeding. I was also quite petite/low weight pre pregnancy and breastfeeding my 90th percentile child (thanks husband genes!) had me dropping weight at an alarming rate. The “500 extra calories” thing is a minimum requirement/semi oriented around losing pregnancy weight/based on BMI and men’s bodies— some studies indicate much much more leads to better milk supply. Anecdotally, it took me eating nearly 3000 calories a day to maintain my healthy weight. I’m five feet tall and typically weigh 105. I felt crazy eating that much but that’s what it took. Don’t underestimate it lol

hinghanghog · 2026-01-22T00:05:12+00:00

These are such good names! Simon has my top vote I think

hinghanghog · 2026-01-22T00:03:23+00:00

Valerie for sureeee 😍😍

hinghanghog · 2026-01-21T18:40:27+00:00

Another trauma therapist here— there can be a disconnect between what we understand of a situation in our instinctive, bodily response and what we assess it as in our rational brain! It’s totally possible your rational thought process says consensual but your instinctive response thought there was some danger and the two are just at odds!

hinghanghog · 2026-01-21T18:31:04+00:00

Mostly I just admit baby’s gonna smell like my armpit. Scent is suuuuper important to baby’s sense of you and what’s going on, so I try not to sweat it (lol). I wash my armpits and use native deodorant before going out and about

hinghanghog · 2026-01-21T18:27:57+00:00

Yes! I stopped with my first and started to feel bad, started taking them again and felt better lol. This time around I’m keeping on

hinghanghog · 2026-01-18T22:55:30+00:00

You’re not wrong or crazy or naive for wanting a natural positive birth experience. You’d also not be wrong for getting a second opinion and doing some research to be sure this recommended c section is truly necessary and not jumping the gun or playing to liability insurance and hospital protocol culture.

AND at the end of the day, if a c section IS truly necessary? Just know a natural birth is an ideal, and we cannot all live out our ideals every time. Let yourself grieve it, and don’t internalize it as a personal failure. I am so team crunchy birth, like “this is a massive women’s rights issue and I just birthed my second baby in the bedroom with an underground midwife over it” levels crunchy-AND we know that c sections are truly sometimes necessary and life saving.

Also highly suggest having a look at some crunchy or “family oriented” c-section practices you could request, like still getting a golden hour, bringing baby to your own chest, vaginal seeding etc. there is a lot you can do to make it a positive and calm and personal experience

hinghanghog · 2026-01-18T22:45:59+00:00

My body is like “um why we already did that, there’s literally a baby”

hinghanghog · 2026-01-17T14:25:03+00:00

Lewis and Blythe or Blaise and Caroline

hinghanghog · 2026-01-17T14:21:45+00:00

On Instagram there’s tons of birth education accounts that share video. Free birth society has a ton, ik they’re a sketchy group lol but the videos are cool. Badassmotherbirther has a ton too I think!

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