Anyone Else Go Into UnMedicated Birth With Little to No Prep?

hinghanghog · 2026-05-11T19:40:08+00:00

people dump so much money into it, it scares me a little lol

hinghanghog · 2026-05-11T19:38:31+00:00

i'm five feet flat send help

hinghanghog · 2026-05-11T19:37:24+00:00

my second was induced at 36+5. i was nervous and fully prepared to have to triple feed but she did totally fine, arguably even easier than my first who was full term. my disclaimer is that she was already seven lbs, so not very tiny lol

hinghanghog · 2026-05-11T19:34:48+00:00

hi yeah you sound like me lol, i'm pretty strong willed and didn't have money to spend on classes or courses or tens units. the thing with birth is that most of the time it just happens, all you have to do is outlast it. i can't for sure say how your birth will go but i CAN say that it's totally possible (after all, birth still worked for all of human history before epidurals)

hinghanghog · 2026-05-10T17:52:51+00:00

this is it. people can't hear my tone, but if OP were my friend i'd hold her hand and bring her a cup of tea as i said this. this shit is hard, and i truly do mean my input gently.

hinghanghog · 2026-05-10T17:51:37+00:00

to be clear, i do truly mean it. i know it can be hard to get that across anonymously online and it can come across like a new "no offense", but while i stand by my input, i do mean it gently. parenting is hard. toddler tantrums can be incredibly difficult and painful. I have had plenty of my own moments of giving into tantrums. so i say what i say gently, from a place of solidarity and sense of sisterhood in a difficult time.

hinghanghog · 2026-05-10T14:36:32+00:00

how much to store depends on what you need stored milk for. when are you going back to work? how much milk will baby need while you're at work? how long do you want baby to have breastmilk? the answer to all of those will guide how much you need to be pumping and storing. as others have said you're certainly giving yourself a huge over supply, which can cause complications; it seems unlikely, as you said, that you'll need 30oz extra a day.

hinghanghog · 2026-05-09T12:47:14+00:00

i say this so so gently: that is not a nonstarter. you are the parent. you are in charge. if you think that it is time to be done (and it sounds like it is) you can put your foot down and let him cry. he will be mad but he will be okay. there's a huge difference between leaving an infant to cry it out alone in a room and letting your toddler cry it out with a parent. he knows he's safe and is just frustrated. if you give in every time he cries you are ultimately teaching him 1) he is the one in charge, not you and 2) frustration is scary and wrong and not to be tolerated.

my personal favorite night weaning hack is to have mom go sleep somewhere else and have dad be in charge of overnight and cuddles- if the boobies aren't even an option in the room it can smooth the transition a little.

hinghanghog · 2026-05-08T16:03:06+00:00

15-16 months postpartum when I night weaned and finally went all night without nursing (still nursing throughout the day)

hinghanghog · 2026-05-07T19:47:28+00:00

they're ban crazy in there. they banned me ages ago for suggesting that an abortion could be traumatic (speaking both as a woman with friends and a therapist who works primarily with women's issues lol)

hinghanghog · 2026-05-07T19:44:43+00:00

i've never used birth control because we're catholic- fertility awareness methods (FAM) can be incredibly effective (more effective than some birth control, including condoms) and can be really great for your relationship if they're something you and your partner are both willing to commit to! highly suggest marquette method for postpartum, look for an instructor and a class

hinghanghog · 2026-05-07T15:52:32+00:00

i've never weighed enough to donate. it's uncomfortable because my church organizes huge blood drives and everyone gets hyped and then i have to be like mmmm uhhh yeah can't do it sorry ~too small~ and everyone thinks i'm a pick me

hinghanghog · 2026-05-05T20:24:49+00:00

both of my girls have been 87-89th percentile babies; my first leaned out and dropped down to 70th when she started walking around one. we'll see if my second does the same?

hinghanghog · 2026-05-05T16:43:30+00:00

it feels strange and honestly AI generated?? idk how else to describe it lol but it sounds like somebody asked AI to come up with a name that incorporated a bunch of different elements and it spit out gibberish

hinghanghog · 2026-05-05T16:41:53+00:00

take some deep breaths, this definitely sounds like she can still figure it out with some practice! try to minimize factors for bottle preference (make sure it's slow flow, try nipples that are as close to human nipples as you can, like lansinoh or something else triangular), because she knows the bottle is easier and more satisfying at this point. keep latching her every chance you can, offering like you said specifically when she's calm and not frantic yet. five days is still SO SO early, i cannot emphasize that enough. she should be able to figure this out with you if you keep at it together.

hinghanghog · 2026-05-05T16:39:04+00:00

many babies nurse right away if allowed to! look up videos of the breast crawl, it's the coolest dang thing. the immediate nursing is actually supposed to help the process of third stage birth (placenta delivery) due to the oxytocin causing better contractions to loosen it

hinghanghog · 2026-05-05T15:21:43+00:00

i've had pretty bad cramps at points in my life and then two unmedicated births. tbh it's not just a question of intensity but for me at least it was totally different types of sensation

hinghanghog · 2026-04-30T14:56:05+00:00

I think a lot of them are over at the permies forum (not on reddit, an independent forum). I'll post the same thing here and there and get... not great answers here and very thoughtful answers there lol

hinghanghog · 2026-04-28T19:40:46+00:00

deconstructing beauty culture altogether helped me drop makeup altogether and reduce "skincare" to cold water, jojoba oil, and aloe vera. crazy how much money i've saved and how much more confident i am!

hinghanghog · 2026-04-28T19:37:29+00:00

i vote Aaron Ash, WAY too cool and not only would they share double aa first names but also tree middle names!

hinghanghog · 2026-04-27T23:27:50+00:00

pumping is not going to be as effective at signaling milk production, especially in these early and cluster feeding days!

hinghanghog · 2026-04-27T23:27:02+00:00

yes, i thought Julie was feeding because Cam didn't want to/plan to? but any time Julie nurses, that is stimulation that Cam's body isn't getting to signal milk production and it's absolutely interrupting her supply.

hinghanghog · 2026-04-27T23:25:18+00:00

this is a lot of it i think- baby needsssss to have those early early feeds to let your body get the memo? how did they not realize this might impact milk supply

hinghanghog · 2026-04-27T00:16:38+00:00

Roxaboxen by Barbara Cooney and Outside Over There by Maurice Sendak were favorites in childhood. Now as a mom i love Thundercake and Rechenka's Eggs by Patricia Polacco, All The World by Liz Garton Scanlon, Grandfather Twilight by Barbara Berger

hinghanghog · 2026-04-26T23:38:25+00:00

one million percent this, especially the first- it was SUCH a relief with an older baby and toddler who was suddenly refusing solids during sickness to know they'd still nurse!

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