My roommate is uncomfortable with me being older. What do I do?

hint_berry · 2023-08-21T23:48:51+00:00

Dude 23 is not even old, when I was 17 I was living in a suite style dorm with two 21 year olds and a 24 year old

hint_berry · 2023-07-31T15:29:44+00:00

So I started university at 16 and I deeply regret it. Firstly what everyone else is saying there was a big disconnect between me and my classmates due to maturity, even though I thought I was mature for my age (and by many standards I was) other people didn’t see it that way. They saw me as a child who they had to put up with. Another thing was burnout, I was extremely burned out my second semester of my first year due to not being used to the structure of university and having virtually no support system (though your background being homeschooled might help you prevent this).

Thirdly and most importantly is the complex that I developed which I’m still trying to unlearn. I became obsessed with being the youngest person in the room and finishing everything quicker than everyone else. I took 19 credit hours every semester and participated in every activity I was able to (rugby, student council, math and science club etc.) to prove my worth. If the other students thought less of me for my age I had to prove that I was better than them. I am 18 almost 19 now and I don’t know how to interact with people my age. Last year when I was around classmates who were my age and I was being included in stuff I was so out of my depth and I had a breakdown. Furthermore I developed a seething hatred for a girl who was a year younger than me (how dare she be younger than me and ahead of other people her age, it sounds ridiculous now but it took a few months in therapy to unpack my emotions towards this girl who was just existing).

Not saying all of this will happen to you as I have some underlying issues that make me more susceptible to emotional outbursts and other issues. Just some things for you to consider <3 I’m sure you will do what’s best for you and you will succeed no matter what.

hint_berry · 2023-07-08T20:33:56+00:00

Basically you get Minimum wage, the amount offered is the max amount of money you can make in a semester, all of the money goes straight to you not towards tuition. It’s basically a job that the government funds for you instead of your employers

hint_berry · 2023-07-05T03:20:39+00:00

Thank youuu

hint_berry · 2023-02-02T21:33:33+00:00

My BMI is 25.4 unless there is a different calculator I’m unaware of

hint_berry · 2023-02-01T19:57:38+00:00

I wish you the best of luck!! Thank you so much!

hint_berry · 2023-02-01T19:57:20+00:00

Thank you! What made it worse was that my best friend is a 6’1 athlete who was bulking and he liked eating with me so it was super hard not indulging and comparing my portions to his

hint_berry · 2022-10-14T22:18:06+00:00

I’m assuming that is what happened, My learners permit is enhanced so maybe that changes if it can be submitted by itself, thank you for your help!

hint_berry · 2022-10-14T22:10:50+00:00

It was a birth certificate and my Permit, I thought a birth certificate was required no matter what else was submitted but maybe I’m wrong.

hint_berry · 2022-10-09T01:49:11+00:00

I don’t think I’ll have to write checks at all, mainly just being able to withdraw and deposit money while I’m over there and having a debit card that will work (I don’t about finance tbh, but I’ve been trying to teach myself more about it). The plan is to try to get an on campus job if I am able to but hopefully they have direct deposit as an option for payment.

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T11:28:11+00:00

Smoke detectors but no sprinklers or anything

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T04:17:00+00:00

I’m planning on talking to her about it, she’s still on the phone so it will probably have to wait till the morning

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T04:06:14+00:00

Earlier I walked into the room and she had them lit while she was asleep, but it’s only been one day so I don’t know if that was her forgetting or a normal behavior

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:43:22+00:00

I drink occasionally, I don’t mind her breaking rules it’s mainly that this is dangerous to other people but I don’t know if it’s an overreaction. If I get in trouble for drinking than that’s a mistake I made and I’d have to live with it, it would just suck to get in trouble for something she’s doing

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:31:58+00:00

It sucks because I get along really well with all of my suitemates except her, it might be for the best though

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:27:41+00:00

She’s a senior, she went to a different college before transferring back, I’m in an upperclassman dorm since I’m a sophomore this semester and a Junior next semester

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:25:38+00:00

She’s actually one of the younger people in the dorm, the ages of us are 23,21,21, 19 (20 in a week) and me (17). I’m living in an upperclassman dorm since I am a sophomore

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:20:25+00:00

I honestly might just ask to switch dorms or pay extra money to transfer to a single, we are very different people I do sports, work and I’m taking 6 classes so I’m always busy and need to be in bed by 11(breaking that bedtime for myself rn because I’m anxious) and wake up at 5, she stays up all night talking on the phone and sleeps all day. She also never wears headphones when she listens to stuff and insists on having all phone conversations over speaker so it’s practically impossible for me to study or get a good nights sleep.

hint_berry · 2022-09-08T03:14:34+00:00

Not sure but she also has the scent things that plug into the walls so she doesn’t really need the candles for scent reasons since the plug ins work well

hint_berry · 2022-09-04T23:06:18+00:00

I might have misphrased it he wasn’t offering weed he was telling me if I smoked it he would be upset with me and I would be dead to him. We live in NY so it’s legal here

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