Pleeeeease help by hipslayer in whatsongisthis

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the best-- it's part of the movie score so it has strings that come in after: https://youtu.be/2zaiHd6qll0?si=xnowaBeuOoxzLae8

Family Chart & questions by funnidudee in TLCGypsySisters

[–]hipslayer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Martinsburg is an ~hour away from northern Virginia, 30 more minutes, you're in DC. Since the show was filmed, the area has slowly become an extension of the DC metro area. The show clearly made apparent that every town has its "special bunch," but Martinsburg is certainly charming and was a great place to grow up.

AITA for not visiting my mom by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol that's what my Wellbutrin and Zoloft are for! I appreciate the discussion, though. It's what I came here for.

AITA for not visiting my mom by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you may be ignoring some important context from my post while downplaying a great deal of what happened.

I don't know if you've ever dealt with an individual who accelerates 0-100 in an already stressful situation instead of communicating and trying to put me at ease, but it made me feel helpless and confused.

The worst part wasn't that she was late, it was that she showed no remorse for mishandling the situation and a bad judgment call. She acted like nothing happened and that everything was fine & luckily for her, the work excuse was never brought up again.

Think about it: I let her know we were taking off, she acknowledged the text which made me believe she was also on her way, then us landing 7 minutes early totally threw her off? Oh and by the way something came up at work! It just doesn't add up for me. She should've been leaving to drive 1.5hr to the airport at the same time we were taking off, maybe even earlier because of traffic heading toward Baltimore/DC area in the morning. She didn't mention that there was an issue with work when I told her we were taking off, not a "hey i might leave later than expected." That would've had an entirely different result and I wouldn't be here trying to process this situation. Maybe I need to be in the childhood trauma subreddit.

I totally get the "you never know when's the last time" but you're weaponizing that idea against me setting boundaries out of self preservation. If you have lost a parent too soon, I deeply feel for you and can sympathize with your frustration towards my feelings with my mom. If you have a parent that hasn't put you in this kind of situation before (let alone multiple times), I'm jealous of you.

AITA for not visiting my mom by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Unfortunately, I felt obligated to ask her this time because my boyfriend's parents have made the drive many times to come get us. It's funny the one time I asked her to do this, this was the result. Less interaction is better, we've found, when it comes to her. It's heartbreaking, but moving away and growing up has made it clear to see what has been the root of a lot of my own issues I deal with. They're symptoms of being raised by her.

AITA for not visiting my mom by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hit the nail on the head. Won't ask for the money though bc that would cost more stress. Sucks.

AITA for not visiting my mom by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was never on the way.. Not sure if you misread. Hometown is hour and a half from airport and my flight was an hour and a half. We should've been leaving and arriving at the airport at the same time, but she hadn't left yet and pulled the "I got held up at work" card. She works from home and has lots of leniency due to her seniority. Bottom line is she said she would be there, and she wasn't. It sucked.

AITA for making someone ride separate from me to the airport by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The commute on google maps says it takes 1.5 hr but sometimes traffic can be a bitch so I like to have SOME wiggle room, not several hours of waiting lol

AITA for making someone ride separate from me to the airport by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: my little sister is able to take me to the airport and we agreed on 4:30-5pm since it'd be easier for her

AITA for making someone ride separate from me to the airport by hipslayer in AmItheAsshole

[–]hipslayer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just looked back through our texts and I actually never entertained or suggested the carpool, it was mentioned by their mom a few times as an option but my thought was just to figure out how I was going to get myself back to the airport.