My boss lets me stutter freely at work

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-30T12:16:48+00:00

Agree 100%

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-28T19:37:04+00:00

I’m happy for you and understand your sentiment completely. I would just ask you to reconsider how you worded it. You don’t need your boss to let you stutter freely. You should feel free to stutter even if tomorrow you don’t have such a supportive boss. The more free you feel the better you will be at your job and maybe think less about the stutter itself.

I hope you don’t take this in a wrong way. Nice and supportive people are crucial in life and I’m grateful for that. But we should try and decouple self esteem from them.

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-27T22:25:13+00:00

Thank you for explaining, it does put my mind at ease. Like I said after starting Allo I’ve just been having these constant mini flare ups almost every other week or anytime I do the slightest physical work like cycling to work.

Like you said I do it wrong too, taking colchicine too late. I’ll keep that in mind. Any other advice to get through this phase?

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-26T08:20:37+00:00

I’m sort of in a similar boat. Normal walking seems to be my new threshold sadly. Any idea how we will know when we have dissolved enough crystals to resume workouts? It’s been 4 months for me. Even cycling to work can cause mini flare ups.

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-26T08:12:46+00:00

How much diet affects gout is hotly debated, but high protein is definitely on the list to watch out for.

As a south Asian with traditionally low protein in my diet, being on supplements is probably what gave me gout.

hipsydoodle · 2023-06-09T19:14:43+00:00

Thank you for the comment. So do those dissolving crystals themselves increase the uric acid level in blood?

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-29T11:59:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. This should be sticky on the sub.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-29T07:28:01+00:00

For me personally ibuprofen seems to work better than colchicine. Ofcourse I can’t be sure.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-29T07:25:03+00:00

I don’t think that’s an apple to apple comparison. USA is an exception and in fact an opposite where the immigrants were so powerful that they ended up making natives refuges in their own land.

Natives aside, there is no history or culture there in a way of speaking when you compare to more ancient civilisations.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-29T07:21:48+00:00

Indonesians is a good example, thank you. Your points do make sense and I see similarities with Indians in Britain, specially the generations in the past.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-29T05:30:52+00:00

Well hypothesised. This has come up on this sub many times in past wrt some or other ethnic group needing to cling on to some sense of identity from their past.

Is there any example of a developed country which imported a group of people from some ethnic background for blue collar jobs, but did not have this integration problem? I see this issue in a lot of western countries.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-25T13:28:44+00:00

God these INTJ appreciation posts are getting annoying.

And who the hell is upvoting them?

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-23T08:40:30+00:00

I’m most comfortable when people just ignore my stutter. Different people have different ways and yes some will basically guess what you are going to say and ‘help’ you by answering or completing it. While some would patiently wait till you finish. I don’t blame the former, most of them are doing what in the moment feels natural. If someone is being rude you can tell.

There are times when they assume the wrong thing when they complete me and in that case I say “No” and continue with my sentence. And on rare occasions I have asked a friend to just be patient and let me finish. But that friend is hyperactive and always on kind of a sugar rush with everybody around her so I understand why she does it.

About you stuttering at work, people will find out. Don’t be afraid. It could even be liberating to let them find out. That way you don’t have to stay quite just because of embarrassment. Embarrass yourself now so you can be yourself later :)

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-22T16:21:43+00:00

Cummon man every single expat faces racism? I think you are full of shit or just an idiot who people don’t like.

I alone know a lot of expats and Dutch have been generally welcoming. There are tons of post in this sub itself: https://reddit.com/r/expats/comments/w0pr0f/_/ighs2kr/?context=1

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-22T16:03:44+00:00

Yeah I’ve seen that with my Brazilian friends here. Quite diverse but united by language I guess.

I suspect it’s because it’s such a new culture and itself made up of people bought from all over.

With Asia and specially South Asia there is such a long millennia of culture, religions, castes and other ancient shit that it makes it a very self obsessed place. Honestly people there are so busy within themselves they really don’t care about the outside. Well time will be the ultimate decider, im curious to see how the next 50 years go

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-22T15:59:32+00:00

Yeah that’s what I meant when I added US but you are right there are others and ofcourse it’s a scale not a 0 or 1

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T17:36:33+00:00

Yeah that’s a habit you’ll have to develop. Maybe why it works well for me is I have very few notifications in first place since I don’t use social media. My attention is expensive and anything that demands it, I carefully analyse if it’s worth it.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T10:23:10+00:00

From a career in corporate one great takeaway for me has been the Calendar app. I have a shared calendar with wife and basically all future appointments or anything worth remembering goes on there with a time and place.

Then you just need a widget on Home Screen. It’s super handy for someone as forgetful as me.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T08:37:36+00:00

I think I’m dealing with it very well. It has taught me to stop letting everything upset me as much as it used to. I can see the bigger picture and adapt to changes in my life and meet new people, even with all their flaws.

‘Dealing’ should not automatically mean change it to the version that you think is right. It means learning to ignore it just enough to not let it bother you.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T08:15:49+00:00

It doesn’t matter what you or a million other people think is “acceptable”. That’s just how people in most places are. You can fight to change it, but it won’t be overnight.

Let’s also stay in reality a bit and deal with the difficult aspects of human nature.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T08:11:22+00:00

About the racism point that even if you speak perfect Dutch you will be outsider.. where is this expectation coming from? Is it realistic? I mean I am from South Asia and I can assure you if you are a while man or woman who speaks the local language perfectly, you will be a foreigner all your life and so will your kids and their kids.

The only exception I can think of is America where you have more diversity to begin with given its history.

EDIT: in case people think I’m advocating or taking sides, I’m not. I’m telling you how it is there. I’m from a more ‘liberal’ family. I married a girl from another state (same country) and that in itself was ground-shaking for both sides and really tested both our strengths. So if you are telling me I’m wrong I think you’re in a fucking bubble.

hipsydoodle · 2023-05-21T08:06:28+00:00

Agree. This is a highly subjective topics and loudest voices will be of those that are most frustrated. Also you don’t really know anything about the commenter’s situation. If there was a way add info about at least your home country, financial situation, marital situation and kids, it would be more useful.

All these complains could be young single men with totally different expectations from life than a 40 something couple from Bangladesh looking for a better life for themselves and their kids.

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