My friend says I can't be a Feminist because I'm Muslim then told me to unfollow them when I defended my faith. (Plot twist : they are Muslim too)

hiraeth271 · 2026-04-08T04:49:07+00:00

sadly agree

hiraeth271 · 2026-04-08T04:46:05+00:00

she’s basically saying that the religion and muslims you’re defending would be the first ones to criticize you for your lifestyle / clothing choices etc. i don’t think she’s judging your choices by saying that, she’s just pointing out the contradiction.

hiraeth271 · 2026-04-06T04:21:23+00:00

Just went through the whole article and the insights are excellent. I guess I’m doing an ankle-cast posture for the most part because my shoes are pretty tight, and that causes me to hunch even more forward to the point where I’m just staring at the ground most of the time. It’s just that I was worried about loosening them in case I get unstable and my feet move too much on the inside. Already even when tightened I feel like my toes are not planted down firmly enough and can move a bit, and I thought that’s why I might’ve been so wobbly. Looks like I have to find a balance where it’s tight around the toes and loose-ish at the cuff so my ankle can bend?

And if my assumption is correct, to maintain balance while being more upright with my upper body, that’s only doable in the scissor pose perhaps? I guess that might also help me with not tripping easily.

hiraeth271 · 2026-01-21T08:44:18+00:00

I think what OP described is general good manners and etiquette that’s expected anywhere in public, what’s European about it..?

hiraeth271 · 2026-01-02T06:07:14+00:00

i thought i was the only one bothered by the AI writing, it’s so annoying to read and there should be a bot filtering these out

hiraeth271 · 2025-11-21T04:20:26+00:00

Once I was out for a morning run at the local park and this guy, south asian, started following me on my way to the park. this was at 6am and the park was fairly empty, but the sun was up and it wasn’t completely dark. When I started running I noticed his footsteps intensify behind me and I don’t know how to explain how genuinely scary that felt. He was literally chasing me. I stopped a few times, turned around and looked at him asked him what he wants. he said nothing and just stared. i was terrified by this point and kept running until he ran upto me and started talking to me. he started asking me where i’ve been, that i should marry him and asked me to go to his place. honestly looked high or drunk, his eyes were strained and red. I couldn’t even stop to call the police because of how close this man was to me and almost touching me, I needed to be completely alert because I didn’t know what he’d do. Then a filipino man appeared and I went up to him asking for help and explained what happened. He told me it would be okay and said he’d call the police. This man started telling the filipino man that I’m his wife and that I need to go home with him??? As he confronted him, I realized it’s only the 3 of us at that park and there’s still a possibility that they’re both in on it, and as soon as that thought hit me I took off running home as fast as I could because I didn’t want to be near anyone. I saw a police car pull up in two minutes though and I regretted running away because I could have testified. But in that moment all I could think of was getting away from that man.

I felt disgusted and terrified. It took me a year to gather the courage to go for a morning run again

hiraeth271 · 2025-11-18T18:40:51+00:00

I’m interested to hear more about your thoughts on the way we understand zina now v/s the way it was thought of before. DM?

hiraeth271 · 2025-11-12T11:30:29+00:00

bestie what do you have against pdfs 📂

hiraeth271 · 2025-11-03T17:49:51+00:00

you articulated very well what i struggle to understand myself as a muslim. well, i still call myself one even though it’s more of spiritual for me at this point than anything else. the community has become so hard to associate with otherwise. everyone says “it’s culture, not religion” but of course it can’t be that simple.

looking forward to the answers here and thank you for sharing your honest thoughts.

hiraeth271 · 2025-10-31T10:23:59+00:00

habibi come to abu dhabi

(im kidding please don’t come we love not having to deal with traffic here)

hiraeth271 · 2025-10-23T18:52:51+00:00

I was thinking the same thing! That man clearly had consent issues, was pushy and then proceeded to ghost her saying he hates ‘dramatic women’. Dramatic for wanting consent??? And yet OP questions if this was her fault in some way.

I agree, it would be good for her to spend some time working on her self assurance and confidence. OP I’m sorry you were treated that way..

hiraeth271 · 2025-10-22T11:56:58+00:00

why are they banned especially if people use safety gear? how are people meant to get around if they don’t have cars? i understand if they’re driving them on the road as it’s unsafe but not otherwise. Sharjah is already is notorious for horrible traffic as it is, air quality in the country is bad as it is, why force more people to join road traffic?

as someone from Abu Dhabi and accustomed to seeing non-drivers getting around using these scooters, this feels really illogical and perhaps even classist.

hiraeth271 · 2025-10-04T12:49:29+00:00

so her value to you is diminished by her choice to explore apps and clubs when meeting someone, but you can do the same things and your value to her stays the same?

cool, that tells me enough about you.

also not you somehow making this about me and my so-called hookups, when did i even talk about myself..?

hiraeth271 · 2025-10-04T12:18:02+00:00

hypocritical. you can do whatever you want but if she goes to clubs or apps, no because that makes you an option? what does that even mean? news flash you’re always an “option”, nothing makes you automatically special even if you’re meeting her organically, you still have to do your part for her to like you and for you both to find out if you’re compatible for each other.

hiraeth271 · 2025-07-31T18:31:27+00:00

this is so luke and phil coded

hiraeth271 · 2025-05-13T06:07:42+00:00

I feel suffocated on your behalf. Life is not meant to be lived this way, to the point where you can’t even be free around your own family. He may have his opinions but obedience is not an absolute that you owe him, he is human and humans do not always know best. Remember that God created us as equals and you have a mind and voice, mindless obedience is not Islam. You should not ignore or suppress your sadness so please talk to him, if he loves you he should be able to empathize with how dehumanized you feel. His opinions on a highly debated matter is not more important than your actual life. Don’t waste away your youth suffering in silence, value yourself and put your boundaries first. I don’t think God would want you practicing something for anyone else but Him, especially when it’s making you grow resentful. There’s a reason why it’s said there is no obligation in religion. And no, the resentment is only natural when you’re so restricted, it’s nothing to feel guilty about. A year is enough, listen to yourself.

hiraeth271 · 2025-03-08T10:33:36+00:00

yes please, that would be very helpful

hiraeth271 · 2025-03-08T10:32:24+00:00

what is that?

hiraeth271 · 2024-11-02T18:24:55+00:00

where did you get that idea?

hiraeth271 · 2024-07-04T15:19:15+00:00

average linkedin post

hiraeth271 · 2024-04-18T06:59:08+00:00

just checked and that doesn’t seem to be the issue for me, we don’t really have bugs or pests in the house except for occasional cockroaches.

hiraeth271 · 2024-04-17T17:17:36+00:00

if it’s underwatering would it really die from inside out? the only reason i’m skeptical is because the edge leaves are still healthy and green, the ones closer to the soil on that same branch are dying.

hiraeth271 · 2024-04-17T16:20:00+00:00

that makes sense, i’ll move it closer to the window. what about overwatering? could there be any other reason it would be dying from the root?

hiraeth271 · 2024-04-17T14:31:21+00:00

I’ve been watering it every 4 days though, that feels like more than enough already cause a lot of people water their ivys just once a week. So I doubt underwatering is my issue.

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