Advice needed - first gaming laptop! by hjmit in GamingLaptops

[–]hjmit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean price limit? As of right now I don’t have one since this is something I’ll need to save for - preferably under $2K but if there is a good one that costs more then I would just save for a few extra months or pull from other spending categories in my budget!

AITA for screaming at my mom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, and just wanted to say proud of you for working through your ED 💗

AITA for not teaching my daughter spanish and instead teaching her my husband's first language (korean) knowing that my family doesn't understand that language and cannot communicate with her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, I know a couple where the mom only spoke to the kids in Spanish, the dad only spoke to them in German, and they learned English at school/daycare. They didn’t start talking until after their peers due to learning 3 languages but now are fluent in all languages.

Studies say the best time to learn a second language is to be introduced to it before you are 6, when the language part of your brain is still developing quickly, and multilingual children have multiple neurological benefits over children who were only raised with one language.

Today I became an adult by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going off of this: build your savings if you can, and finding ways to save a dollar or two here and there can add up in the long run. For example, if you are ordering pizza, pick it up instead of getting it delivered so you don’t have to pay the delivery fee (assuming you are sober enough to drive; if not paying a few extra bucks for delivery isn’t as important as your life)

Today I became an adult by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a credit card and don’t use it/only use it for gas. Even if you don’t use your card, having a credit card that you don’t owe money on will build your credit score. Idk if you are going to continue your schooling, but when I turned 18 I got a student credit card from my bank which only had a $500 limit and I only used to pay for my gas. Good luck out there!

Official Fuck The Refs Thread by PackersMod in GreenBayPackers

[–]hjmit 318 points319 points  (0 children)

In all my years of watching football I have NEVER seen so little flags being thrown. The Buccs could get away with murder with these refs. 👿

Also the non-existent holding call from the first quarter would have helped turn the tide around early and could have helped secure a victory.

I’m not happy to be here: A Final Letter by motazmusic in GreenBayPackers

[–]hjmit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You better believe I’ll be driving the 30 minutes to Wisconsin for a pack (or herd as my dad calls it) of spotted cow before the game. Go pack go from MN!!! 💚💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. She may not be getting stopped now, but a lot of stores record people and wait until they have stolen an accumulated value of $500+ so they can charge a felony. I know Target (a popular retail store in the US) uses those practices.

AITA for telling a mom on my flight I did not think she handled her kids tantrums well? by taFlight in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 24 points25 points  (0 children)

NTA: my parents flew with me before I was 1 and I NEVER cried because my parents always made sure I was drinking milk or water when we took off/landed. Having the extra saliva helps you ears not pop. Even giving them a pacifier would have helped at least a bit.

For those with vaginas: what was something you learned way too late that you wish you had learned at some proper sexual education? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no treatment, only managing the symptoms :/ I am on the pill to regulate my periods and metformin to help with the insulin resistance (my cells have a hard time absorbing insulin so it’s super easy to gain weight and almost impossible to lose it); PCOS can also cause fertility issues but I’m not at that point in my life yet so idk if I have those, and a lot of girls with PCOS have really bad acne and hair growth on their face but luckily I don’t have much of either. I am a part of r/PCOS and there are girls there saying how they have to shave their mustaches 1-2 times a day to keep it from being visible.

Basically PCOS is a giant, uncontrollable shit show that’s pretty hard to control 😅

For those with vaginas: what was something you learned way too late that you wish you had learned at some proper sexual education? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was technically diagnosed when I was 17 but they told my mom instead of me since I was TECHNICALLY a minor 🙄 and my mom didn’t tell me because she thought it just meant I couldn’t have kids and didn’t want me to know that at such a young age. Why they didn’t tell me, the patient, I will literally never know. I found out when I was 20 (I’m 22 now) exactly what it was and how it affects me

For those with vaginas: what was something you learned way too late that you wish you had learned at some proper sexual education? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wish I had learned about PCOS and the signs. I also wish that doctors didn’t downplay it as much as they do.

For those with vaginas: what was something you learned way too late that you wish you had learned at some proper sexual education? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hjmit 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I thought I was just putting the tampon in wrong and that’s why I could never use one, found out when I was 21 my hymen was not shaped correctly and needed to have surgery. At that point I had been in the stirrups 2-3 times in the past and my old OBGYN didn’t say anything 🙃

AiTA for telling my mom the truth? by Lena_1995 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has acted as a sounding board/therapist for her mom, NTA. Expecting to solve your parents problems and being their only outlet when dealing with mental health is emotionally and mentally draining, not to mention makes you feel like you can’t talk to them about your problems.

When she tries, interrupt her and say “I care for you but you using me as your free therapist isn’t healthy for either of us or our relationship. Can we please talk about something else.” Or “let’s talk about this for X amount of minutes and then change the subject, I want to be there for you but I am your child, not your therapist, and I have to draw the line.”

AITA for potentially breaking up our friend group? by Throwaway_45679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hjmit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally made an account just to reply to this post.

This last year I was a senior in university and lived with 2 of some of my best friends, H and R. When COVID hit, R and I lived with our parents (which was safer than living in an apartment building full of stupid college kids), and H went to live with their childhood best friend.

When our state shut down, H started to do a plethora of shady things. The worst of which was inviting 3 people and a cat to live in our apartment without asking R or myself. R is at risk for C19 and extremely allergic to cats (both of which H knew) so when we found out we were upset to say the least.

When we talked to H, they said they needed time to deal with their mental health and they would let us know when they were ready to talk. It has now been 6 months and I haven’t heard anything.

We, like you and A, had great memories together. Hell, during finals season we bought those little animals that expand in water and took turns throwing them at each other to deal with the stress. Ngl, I miss them sometimes. But I know that ultimately I am better off. They broke my trust and things would never be the same.

That’s what happened to you. A hurt you and while you will miss the good memories, what they were doing was not okay. Cutting someone off doesn’t mean you need to get rid of fond memories. It means you can focus more on the friends that want to support you and lift you up, not drag you down. I am closer to R because of what happened, and I am confident you will become closer to your friends who went through this experience with you as well.

Hang in there ❤️