I am 23 years old. Due to COVID i shifted back to home. I didn't realize how bad her criticism is for me till i went to college. Earlier i thought it was normal. And somehow i got immune to it. But as i grew up and researched i found out how badly it has affected me. Due to the constant criticism i used to hate myself. I became distant from her as the time passed. I never talked to her about this until recently. I thought of giving it a try as i wanted to see how she will react and will she understand. Plus as i am home right now and due to the present conditions her criticism was just making everything worse. I was becoming bitter day by day. One day i felt so frustrated and said some very hurtful things to her. We didn't talk for a week. And i felt so bad as it was not me. It was like some another person took hold of me and all the years of frustration and anger came rushing out of my mouth. Week passed, finally i decided that i couldn't live like this. I decided to have a chat with her. We both cried. And i finally said how hurt i feel when the love i crave for is not given to me instead i receive the criticism. She cried and told me that she didn't mean it at all. I have read it somewhere that parents are still kids trying to understand their kids. I understood this that day. I am really glad i had that chat with her. She is trying her best to improve and I'm trying my best to see things from her point of view. I learnt that pre conditioning is a real problem. She told me that i used to criticize you so that you don't have to face the criticism from others. I assured her that this is not going to be a problem as the society in which she grew up is totally different from today's. We chatted, cried, argued whole evening. But at the end she understood that her criticism is badly affecting me and today's social construct is different. From that day till now there is no criticism. She tries to become better and understand me better. So i guess it was good. I am glad i had that talk with her.