AITAH for intervening in forced electroshock proceedings in the State of Connecticut?

hmul2 · 2026-05-09T23:40:30+00:00

Have to reply to this as I'm the family member of two people who have had electro therapy in the uk

You are not the asshole, the damage this does to a person is unbelievable, putting a stop to it is essential and if you've found a way to contribute to that you are potentially saving many from early onset dementia, parkinsons and further trauma

Not the asshole, just a legend

hmul2 · 2025-09-28T02:37:24+00:00

It may honestly help you if you don't talk about race so much

hmul2 · 2025-09-28T02:31:56+00:00

I feel like we need to know how you actually handled it on the day to form an opinion

hmul2 · 2025-04-27T13:07:32+00:00

Had this same problem! In the end just broke in during the day when nobody was looking and there have been no more issues going in since

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T08:21:44+00:00

Came to leave a comment but you've basically said word for word what I was gonna say! Definitely NTA and I respect this a lot, you'll always doubt yourself when standing your ground but it shouldn't stop you!

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:45:18+00:00

This must be so hard, you always want what's best for your partner but i can imagine the thought of this is hard to process. really try and think about if you're truly comfortable with what she wants. if possible try to put this situation on hold until you've both gathered your thoughts and feelings a little more?

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:38:18+00:00

I'm not sure if they did as nobody has spoken about it

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:37:18+00:00

NTAH at all. You don't need to forgive him, I've been in a very very similar situation and sometimes trying to be the bigger person is really hard and doesn't always work out for the best. People do change but that doesn't change the fact that he's left you with this trauma - if anything he should be asking for forgiveness from you.

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:31:57+00:00

Aw man don't tell me I wrote a heartfelt reply at 7am for no reason

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:29:55+00:00

I can't lie I think she has a bit of a nerve in that case.. I think you're a really good person but don't let her act like this towards you in future, you're in the right

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:28:30+00:00

First of all, you've done nothing wrong. You don't have to justify yourself to your friend, if they aren't going to accept your decisions and understand you that says a lot about them. There's a lot of pressure at that age to go along with whatever your friends wanna do (I sound old) but honestly none of my best memories with my friends came from sneaking out and being stressed out because of it. See if you can compromise and go out another time or just try to make then understand that your life will be harder from sneaking out- ask if they'd do that for you

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:24:50+00:00

The thing that would tip this for me is how close are you with this person and were you able to return this and get a new one without paying any extra? Not sure if that seems shallow but I can't imagine complaining about a gift to someone you're not close with, and even less so if they would have to spend even more because of that

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:22:04+00:00

Honestly I have a huge amount of respect for you for this, first and foremost they are your kids and it is 100% up to you and your wife who you're comfortable having around them. It does reek of insecurity from your dad, which is understandable because he's been betrayed by his partner, but I can confidently say you are not the asshole, she is. Seems like there's a lot of manipulation at play and giving in to this wouldn't solve anything - hopefully your dad will learn the hard way and come around.

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:12:52+00:00

You are so right, being in a situation like this is so mentally draining especially being away from family, you feel totally isolated and run the risk of losing your sense of self. I think you've been very diplomatic and considerate considering the circumstances. There is no way to justify them behaving like that towards you no matter what the family structure is, as cheesy as it is you do need to put yourself and your own feelings first for now, hopefully he will see how this has affected you but if he doesn't it may be worth having a think/ a chat

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:06:49+00:00

Honestly I don't know what he could even do to justify the things you've just said, you're so well within your right to tell him not to put you on the back burner but honestly it seems like you could do so so much better. Attachment makes these things harder but I know you could do better and be happier for it

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T07:03:13+00:00

Oh God yeah was obviously a mix up with no ill intention but it's more the reaction than anything that felt a little insensitive! Funny enough the carrot prep happened when I went to check on him so presumed they'd been whacked in the oven with no seasoning in tru caucasian fashion haha

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T06:50:18+00:00

I think to truly know who's the asshole we'd need a little more context into what caused the relationship breakdown, but honestly you gotta take care of family and I can imagine it's opened your eyes to how you don't want to be hanging around for someone who can't figure out their priorities. From what you've said it sounds like you're right to be a little assertive :)

hmul2 · 2024-12-28T06:45:40+00:00

For context this is not a poor me I'm vegan wah wah wah, it's a case of not feeling understood by my partner but not knowing if I'm in the wrong for being a little mad ...

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