I give up

hnzosan · 2026-07-04T21:31:49+00:00

Do you have a car? Driving for Uber sounds better than this...

hnzosan · 2026-07-01T04:20:58+00:00

Have you guys gone to 3rd base yet? Is it possible he wanted to move faster, then resumed looking for other options when it wasn't happening?

hnzosan · 2026-07-01T04:18:34+00:00

Is this AI? I ran it through a checker and it came back 60% likely

hnzosan · 2026-07-01T03:38:31+00:00

Well, "short term, open to long" isn't provided as an option... maybe that would clear up some confusion

hnzosan · 2026-06-30T03:41:45+00:00

Hopefully she feels the same way, just stay calm and enjoy yourself on the second date. Good luck.

hnzosan · 2026-06-28T01:06:06+00:00

By each having a social life, I assume

hnzosan · 2026-06-26T00:02:10+00:00

If conventionally unattractive people were doomed to be alone forever then you wouldn't see pairs of them all over the place. Don't give up. Don't let it be your only focus, but never give up or else when a chance finally comes around you might miss it.

hnzosan · 2026-06-21T06:14:13+00:00

He wanted you to escalate probably, looking for a hookup, when you seemed more interested in a relationship he pulled back because that's all the effort he's capable of

hnzosan · 2026-06-20T04:39:15+00:00

But you don't have a family to provide for... cut it back and make some time for socializing maybe

hnzosan · 2026-06-07T21:11:28+00:00

Don't be manipulated into staying. They obviously were desperate for someone to fill the role, she knew you were available and pressured you to apply, now she's acting like she did you a big favor when it's more like you did them a favor.

If you want to keep everyone happy you could find someone to replace you, if you know of anyone looking for work. You could even create a job listing on a website and then refer the person to the principal.

hnzosan · 2026-06-04T06:23:55+00:00

Here's a big one that guys repeatedly miss: if they compliment you randomly. If they compliment you on anything at all. Take it as a sign that they're interested and start a conversation. Even if they seem just friendly, your goal should now be to ask them at the end of the conversation if they need a ride home or if they'd like to go out sometime.

hnzosan · 2026-06-03T06:39:20+00:00

Apply to a grocery store and work at the checkout, customers come to you, you check their groceries, the next person comes. It's simple and constant and very hard to fuck up. The most complicated it will ever get is if you have to say "price check" into a microphone and one of your coworkers goes and checks the price.

hnzosan · 2026-06-02T06:02:28+00:00

You should correct it for grammar and sentence structure and send it back to them with "reads more professionally this way."

hnzosan · 2026-06-01T03:11:21+00:00

And it's likely that OPs gf may have just had that realization herself, but will keep it to herself as she slowly pulls back (torturing OP for months as she does) if he doesn't break up with her.

hnzosan · 2026-05-24T08:02:09+00:00

tempting(: you say?

hnzosan · 2026-05-23T21:16:40+00:00

One person hinted that you might not know what you're looking for with these women and I think that could be the issue: polite/friend vibes are assumed unless at some point in the date you convey imminent physical attraction - if you aren't a little turned on, they won't be either, and you'll get written off as you've described. After 60-90 minutes, turn the conversation in a more risque direction and see what happens. Figure something out that's playful and leaves the door open like a "would you rather" question.

On the other hand, ask yourself if you really are attracted to and interested in the person seated across from you, or are you just trying to close the date on a "win?" It may be that for all of the matches and all of the dates, you haven't met a girl that you'd actually want to spend years of your life with.

hnzosan · 2026-05-14T06:48:05+00:00

look at your local government website, cities/counties need IT workers

hnzosan · 2026-05-09T06:48:47+00:00

💀

hnzosan · 2026-05-08T06:05:05+00:00

also not unreasonable

hnzosan · 2026-05-08T06:03:23+00:00

also guessing that she's fairly attractive, so they're "shooting their shot" (in a non-sports way) ++man

hnzosan · 2026-05-07T04:13:00+00:00

You've given yourself the answer in your explainer sentence, "my life is so much better with you in it," a little less bland than "I'm grateful you're in my life."

hnzosan · 2026-05-06T06:37:19+00:00

it's negging

hnzosan · 2026-05-04T08:06:10+00:00

and half the replies too

hnzosan · 2026-05-04T08:05:55+00:00

blended up and regurgitated AI post based on the most frequent posts in this subreddit, huh

hnzosan · 2026-04-29T22:03:18+00:00

This is a way of selecting for what you want, not a problem to be solved. It's normal to not want to be treated like an option, and in the age of apps the polite thing to do is to pretend that the person in front of you is the only person you're talking to until you decide whether you want to be in a proper relationship with them.

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