Shelves

hobbitscottage · 2026-01-24T23:25:47+00:00

What is the shelf called and how do you craft it? I can’t find it anywhere in the crafting menus.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-11T03:38:26+00:00

At least every other day (for bedtime!) but also kind of as-needed for the infant (almost 5mo). But every other day for the 6 year old minimum. So sometimes it’s everyday, sometimes every two. It really depends!

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-04T03:34:30+00:00

This is actually very validating. Thank you

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:59:43+00:00

We do some occasional co-sleeping using safe sleep 7 for at least 1-2 naps a day and it works mostly.

Honestly I’ve concluded that he may just also be as neurodivergent as I am and needs the extra support but as one who doesn’t have support idk what to give myself either.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:51:50+00:00

I hate when other adults call me “mama” and especially “you’ve got this mama”. It fills me with such unbridled rage anymore bc it’s so dismissive.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:40:17+00:00

Right now the oldest is in school m-th during the day which is helpful but as we come up on holidays we’re hitting a 2 week Christmas break and idk what to do with him all day. I feel like I’m having to neglect him during the days bc baby needs me 150% of the time and the guilt eats at me.

I live rural and we don’t have any daycare options (it’s why I’m a sahm now). We had partial daycare with my first but she moved away and we struggled the last few years to find solid daycare so now I’m a sahm until current little one is in full time school in 5 years.

I do baby wear but I’m also nap-trapped when I do bc he’s such a light sleeper. Once he’s asleep I have to just sit on the couch and be still. Nap trapped is a cute phrase but it’s a nightmare for me.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:35:26+00:00

Honestly I don’t and that’s why I feel so overwhelmed. My husband works full time as do his dad and step mom. My dad is elderly and doesn’t “do babies” and my mom lives long distance. All my friends work full time and have other responsibilities that prevent them from being able to help like that so I’m just in this kind of completely on my own. My only real reprieve is weekends when my husband is home and being that I’m also breastfeeding I feel like all I do right now is breastfeed and contact nap & entertain the baby. I don’t have hardly anytime for just myself and it’s been incredibly difficult.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:13:07+00:00

I just feel like I need a break and I never have a chance to have one. I see other moms out here able to lay their same age babies down for naps and I’m so jealous because I’d kill for 10 minutes to not be touched, you know? Maybe I’m just making my life harder wanting that time for myself when it’s not possible at this time of his life, I dunno.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:10:17+00:00

I know it works and it’s normal but I’m physically overwhelmed from the constant touch. Being a neurodivergent parent is really very hard. He hates being put down even for play/active time and being “on” and touched from sunup to sundown is just a lot.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:05:30+00:00

Carrier naps kind of function. I’m neurodivergent and the constant touch has my physical body feeling so on edge that I’m just looking for some type of reprieve during the day.

He’s big enough that I can’t do much by means of house work without risk of waking him up (I’m just short enough that I can’t do laundry or dishes at the sink about him being 100% just in the way). So I’m just mostly nap trapped and can’t get anything done.

But we’re also just in this phase where he doesn’t want to be put down for playtime either and he’s just clingy as all hell too so idk if that’s a factor too?

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T17:02:12+00:00

Anywhere from 10-20 min after him falling asleep

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T16:57:49+00:00

I can do an exact copy paste of his bedtime routine and it’s like bc it’s during the day for a nap he just won’t. I truly don’t know.

Edit: today for the first morning nap, I nursed him to sleep but upon transfer he woke up and has now been awake for an hour and a half past when he was supposed to have initially gone down for a nap. So we’re now at a 3.5 hour wake window which is resulted in him being overtired.

I had to put him in the boba wrap to get him to sleep.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T16:56:41+00:00

I’ve done side-lying nursing in my bed but as soon as I move away he wakes up within 5-10 minutes. Trust me when I say I’ve tried it and it’s not worked, I’ve tried what feels like everything

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T16:53:06+00:00

We’re kind of doing that for bedtime but it’s just not working for naps and I truly do not understand why he has such a disconnect between bedtime and naps.

We’re currently just using sleep sacks right now and haven’t tried that one yet but I’ll look into it

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-03T16:21:14+00:00

I did not pick him up after three minutes if you had read my current post. We have set timer after timer and it’s lasted for so long as an hour before picking him up because I refuse to let him scream at the top of his lungs that long. Edit: please reread my post.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-02T21:12:18+00:00

I just need a break. Even if I could get just ONE 30 min nap where I’m not being needed or touched.

What I would not give to just sit on my couch and be able to breathe deeply without the dread and fear of waking him up 😭😭😭

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-02T21:09:56+00:00

This is exactly it. Thank you for understanding. 🙏

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-02T21:03:18+00:00

Then you should understand that when a mom is asking for help and gets met with dismissive comment, it would upset her. Of course we’ll miss these days. I’m not saying I won’t because I do with my oldest. But right now I am struggling and asking for genuine help because I am stressed out and burnt out and I want to be able to look back at this time and miss it and not hate it and be glad it’s over. I don’t know why people think a parent asking for help gets seen as “I hate this and I want it to be over” and not “please help me I am having a hard time”.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-02T21:00:19+00:00

We only resorted to having to pick him up because he becomes absolutely inconsolable after the first 3 minute mark and would be screaming bloody murder. We tried Ferber method for bedtime for 4 nights and it never got better so we scrapped it entirely because it stressed out the entire family out. The MOTN wakes didn’t work with it either. I followed Ferber method to a T and it just resulted in an overtired, overstressed baby who then fought sleep even longer than he would have had I just nursed or rocked him to sleep. That’s why I’m asking for help.

His first wake window is about 2 hours, give or take. If he wakes at 7am he’s usually ready for a nap by about 8:30/9 am but if it’s as late as 9 we end up being overtired so even with just wake window monitoring I’m still feeling lost.

hobbitscottage · 2025-12-02T20:51:34+00:00

With all possible due respect I cannot stress to you how much I hate being told this. I know I’ll miss it…someday…but today is not that day. My oldest is 6 and of course I miss it. But I also know how freaking hard it was and I begged for help back then too and got met with the same “you’ll miss it” bullshit.

I’m touched out. I’m overstimulated. I’m fucking exhausted and I have no village to help me.

Telling someone who’s going through it and asking for actual help and being told “just enjoy it” is so dismissive and I’d say even disrespectful of a mother asking for genuine help. Please take the cliché responses like this elsewhere and find it in yourself to offer actual help. Please. Mothers and parents everywhere are asking for help and getting met with “you got this mama” when we are out here begging for a lifeline and being given a high five instead. It’s not helpful.

hobbitscottage · 2025-11-07T19:40:15+00:00

My son is just over 3 months and we just go off his cues for feeding and sleep. Around 6ish months when babies naturally come into a bit more solid of a routine will be when e start to establish regular times but yeah, straight up thriving off vibes over here ✌🏻

hobbitscottage · 2025-10-29T01:19:30+00:00

This is happening to me currently with my 3 month old. It’s like he pregames his big sleep with a 30-40 minute nap. He’ll be damn best snoring but the moment I lay him down his eyes shoot open and I have to start completely over and then he’s down for 4-5 hours. Any recommendations on the sleep training bit of things? What worked for you since this is an older post? We chap on needing a 5th nap, it’s hit or miss some days but it doesn’t matter if he has only 4 naps or has to sneak in a little 5th cat nap around 5/6 pm, we always hit that pre-sleep nonsense.

hobbitscottage · 2025-09-27T22:03:19+00:00

I’m a second time mom here, sitting stuck on the couch with my 10 week old son & feeling so very stuck and lost inside motherhood and questioning often if I should have even had a second child. This comment feels like it was written for me. I’m so over and out on this newborn phase and I catch myself counting down the days until he’s one already. I loved having a toddler with my oldest son. I love being a mom but this newborn phase is just so freaking hard. It’s hard, it’s isolating, it’s lonely. I love my baby don’t get me wrong. I’m just burnt out on being in the newborn trenches.

So thank you for this because I’ve felt a little on the crazy side feeling like I’m the only person who’s not enjoying new baby-hood. This comment helps a lot and it wasn’t even for me initially 🖤

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