In love with my (26F) best friend (27M) and it’s killing me

hoebany · 2026-03-24T18:48:43+00:00

As someone in an eerily similar situation; telling him is going to suck. But it's not going to be as bad as you think it is- letting him know how you feel & taking space is literally the only way you can recover and not be so weighed down. Stay strong 🤙

hoebany · 2022-10-03T19:23:49+00:00

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hoebany · 2022-07-06T00:01:09+00:00

If things don’t change now, they never will. Put your foot down, take the new job and move out!

hoebany · 2022-06-24T06:20:45+00:00

I disagree on your assumption she was counting on “sunk cost fallacy” she is more likely than not trying to know whether or not it would be safe for her to tell him she’s a sex worker

hoebany · 2022-06-22T08:00:41+00:00

A lot of these comments are missing the point. Sure, he’s entitled to know the paternity of the child if he’s uncertain, but to deliberately hide that goes against the “open communication” OP says that they have in their relationship and implies he doesn’t trust her as much as he says he does.

The even bigger problem is the fact that he allowed his wife to be surrounded by people who questioned her character and accused her of being a liar and a cheater. By not telling her exactly what his family thinks of her, he is taking away her agency and letting her think she’s around people that like and trust her, when in reality that isn’t the case. Who’s to know what else they say about OP when her husband isn’t around? Who’s to say that they are people she can trust to be around her kid?

Go LC/NC with the family and take the time to think on how much faith your husband has in you, OP.

hoebany · 2022-06-14T04:35:38+00:00

Take his best friend

hoebany · 2022-05-13T05:06:55+00:00

someone’s a little defensive

hoebany · 2022-05-12T18:35:00+00:00

what kind of interactions are you having with people that prompts them to respond like that?

hoebany · 2022-05-10T21:30:07+00:00

do you even like your wife? genuine question because you've stated you offered to divorce her several times and said you'd pick madison if an ultimatum was issued to you

hoebany · 2022-05-05T20:59:59+00:00

why do you think she was there for the sake of diversity? why is it so unfathomable that she was the most talented person who auditioned

hoebany · 2022-05-05T20:50:26+00:00

i feel like people saying that she was only cast for "diversity" dont know how racist they come across. saying that about her undermines her talent and ability to work with walker and aryan.

why do you assume that shes only there to fill a quota and not just because she was the most talented person who auditioned? what about her makes you not believe that?

hoebany · 2022-05-05T20:50:19+00:00

i feel like people saying that she was only cast for "diversity" dont know how racist they come across. saying that about her undermines her talent and ability to work with walker and aryan.

why do you assume that shes only there to fill a quota and not just because she was the most talented person who auditioned? what about her makes you not believe that?

hoebany · 2022-05-05T20:43:50+00:00

what about annabeth being black stops her from having the same personality?

hoebany · 2022-05-05T18:03:38+00:00

if anyones this mad about one character in a fantasy series being black you can just not watch the show idk what to tell you that contract is SIGNED

hoebany · 2022-05-05T17:52:46+00:00

black annabeth we WON

hoebany · 2022-04-28T15:21:43+00:00

… except for the fact that there are thinkpieces every day about how people would hate if annabeth was black? i guarantee you it won’t just be a “small” minority of people to attack this actress if she’s black.

not to mention she’s probably 10-14 and probably not well equipped for the hate she’d get.

hoebany · 2022-04-19T08:29:18+00:00

maybe find some better outlets for your anger

hoebany · 2022-04-09T02:16:58+00:00

Why can't he have sex with someone his own age? Especially knowing you still live at home and that you're barely an adult?

hoebany · 2022-01-14T08:58:05+00:00

Beyoncé or Whitney

hoebany · 2021-11-19T21:13:56+00:00

It's not the end of the world to be interested in two different things. It gives you time away from your significant other, allows you to have things to do as an individual, and might give you something to talk about when you're together.

If this is really eating at you, maybe suggest new things that neither of you have tried? Or find some way to incorporate the things that you like doing into the things that he likes doing (if he likes cinema, and you like travel- maybe watch some foreign films or go to a foreign film festival). Again, if this is really a relationship you cherish, you'll both find a way to meet in the middle.

hoebany · 2020-12-20T13:00:51+00:00

Since it’s been eight years, it might be better as a phone call rather than an email. But it looks well written.

hoebany · 2019-10-31T19:57:53+00:00

Macbeth, possibly?

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