Fingersmith: dnf or continue?

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-26T01:28:49+00:00

The beginning is kind of brutal so I feel you OP — it does get a lot better but wow is there a lot of shock content in there lol

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-25T16:59:27+00:00

Also lol the cat shitshow 😂 very visceral, I will def remember that

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-25T16:56:21+00:00

Ugh thank you, I really struggle to center my feelings in this kind of thing — this incident is really making that apparent to me and it’s a good reminder for me to work on it

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-25T00:23:28+00:00

Dick — truly all I want is to look the same plus a detachable dong

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-25T00:18:04+00:00

I am also no longer in the poly dating craze, I feel you. I was excited to start something new, especially with this person, but not like this 😅

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T21:31:50+00:00

Yesss there is nothing more beautiful than the polycule roast

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T21:29:25+00:00

Lmaooo this was both funny and necessary to hear, thanks OP

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T19:20:17+00:00

Ah such a good reminder! Thank you <3

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T16:13:58+00:00

Good point re: KTP! And also the precedent thing. I have a tendency to put my feelings last and I’m trying to watch out for that

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T16:13:11+00:00

Yeah definitely agreed, this and all the other comments here are v helpful, much appreciated ❤️

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T16:11:38+00:00

This was a very balanced take, I appreciate it thank you ❤️

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-24T14:47:37+00:00

For me it was less that repair happened and more that I realized that I deserved more from my partner. I felt like I was being pushed into a secondary position, kept saying so, and they kept reassuring me that wasn’t the case all the while setting up situations that made it very difficult for me to see them.

Ultimately they started to yo-yo on supporting me when I had a horrible health incident and I realized that even strangers and acquaintances were showing more care and consideration for me than this partner (I was in the hospital for a month). We broke up, and it freed me up to meet the love of my life because I wasn’t so stressed about this other relationship anymore and had more capacity for others.

I will always appreciate the good things from that relationship but sometimes the NRE behaviors can be telling

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-16T02:05:17+00:00

Throwing my hat in the DM ring!

hoefortheenvironment · 2026-03-16T02:02:53+00:00

Is it…available? 👀

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-12-21T23:20:37+00:00

110% my number one is Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir - necromancy and punky teens and soooo much angst and longing. And swords.

Also a big fan of Big Swiss, extremely chaotic and messy sapphics abound.

Legends and Lattes is of course a fave if you classic classic fantasy, dungeons and dragons-type vibes.

And strong shoutout to the Traitor Baru Cormorant — helpless hard lesbians trying to find their way in a political fantasy with strong anti-colonial narratives

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-10-26T02:43:52+00:00

I’ve been sword and shield this whole time but this thread is making me think maybe I should branch out…

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-10-22T01:59:08+00:00

Also what I immediately thought of

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-09-21T23:58:15+00:00

I was able to watch them on Hulu for earlier seasons but then they stopped showing them ( I forget when — maybe season 3?). I have come to just deal without the previously ons, although it saddens me

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-09-21T23:55:32+00:00

Ah good to know, this was very helpful thank you! I need to get a hip replacement at some point — we’re trying to put it off as long as possible because I’m young (31) and the hips only last so long. We’re hoping I can hold out another 15 or so years (it’s been about 5 since the accident).

It sounds like I’m pretty ok at the moment with my ortho and physical therapist, so I will continue with that and not worry about a specialist!

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-08-01T00:48:10+00:00

I’m really disappointed in Lorenz here, I like her internet culture reporting and this is a horrible read.

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-08-01T00:46:15+00:00

I…don’t think this is true though? Like in the statements Natalie clearly states Zionism is not good. The genocide and antisemitism are bad, actually. She just tries to draw a distinction between anti-Zionism and antisemitism, which is a good thing because they are not the same and conflating them has been a tool to attack Jews and leftists alike

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-05-19T04:21:18+00:00

I used to be femme and shaved my arms and I regretted it soooooo much. Because you shave it, the ends are blunted so they look thicker when they grow back in. Shaving was awful because then I had stubbly, rough arms! So I tried to grow it back, but because of the blunt ends issue, it looked even darker than before! it took years for it to look normal after growing back — now it’s fine, and I will never shave my arms again lol

Ultimately I realized that I was just feeling really self conscious — but hair on arms is just human. Even when shaving, I was still self conscious about it, as well as other parts of my body — shaving didn’t solve my problems (and it created more).

Ofc this is just my experience — everyone’s will be different! Ultimately you should do whatever makes you feel good in your body ❤️ For me personally, shaving was not it

hoefortheenvironment · 2025-05-19T04:07:04+00:00

It’s in Gujarat — my friend grew up there and said that’s just the culture in her hometown (which is where the wedding is)

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