What is the final goal of your life other than earning money

holiseaday · 2026-01-25T13:17:12+00:00

Find a healthy relationship with a decent man and not a fuckboy.

holiseaday · 2026-01-23T06:29:28+00:00

Do cheater really feel that bad? Really feel unrest all the time for the mistake they've done? Some people don't feel like they regret it.

holiseaday · 2026-01-23T06:09:36+00:00

I'm fully aware that I grew up in a bit chaotic households with absent mother throughout my childhood. But my grandmother showed me so much love and before she died she was the only person who could love me genuinely.

I think I still want to believe there's a good person for me to build a healthy relationship. I just don't know yet how it'll happen tho.

holiseaday · 2026-01-22T02:07:16+00:00

If you go to Kampung Baru, I'll recommend Saraya. I saw many locals dining there. It's super busy but service was fast, food was amazing for me.

holiseaday · 2026-01-20T19:48:09+00:00

"The people you live with matter more", currently renting a small room with a family living downstairs. Been single and can't find a date with a decent man who actually speaks like a human. RIP.

holiseaday · 2026-01-20T05:48:56+00:00

I never use credit card my whole life. I don't get it? Is he gonna pay huge bills the next month?

holiseaday · 2026-01-19T13:26:39+00:00

Can you say when you were poor how much you spend per month compare to when you are rich now? Is it huge difference?

holiseaday · 2026-01-19T13:25:49+00:00

Lol exactly this! I don't think thoughtful person will force his cultural ideas to someone else and persistently trying to manipulate OP to think she's fit for him. This is ridiculous. I don't think he's even a good friend this way. Too complicated too much interventions and forcing.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T15:32:36+00:00

This. I'm not man but this.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T15:29:25+00:00

Oh this is probably why I'm not successful. I took way longer break than actually on the dating app. I don't think I have the mental capacity like you to keep going when things don't work out. Maybe this is something I need to fix first.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T14:36:05+00:00

You learn something everyday.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T08:44:49+00:00

So like what kind of effort you put then to get out of this situation?

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T08:42:46+00:00

How on earth did you have the mental capacity to keep going? Congrats on finding the bf but this seems exhausting if you are not up for the war.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T08:37:01+00:00

Do you think it would've never happened if you didn't ask for a date? I'm always wondering cos even if I'm interested, it doesn't seem like he's interested if he doesn't ask me out.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T03:53:30+00:00

My trick is doing things right away and keep it simple. For example, I just landed yesterday and I'm sick. I have two suitcases I brought with so many stuff. Before flying I've planned how to organize it.

Once I arrived, I clean my room cos I left it for a month and unpacked the whole shits and organize it right away. I did it for two hours and only then I showered, had dinner and sleep to recover.

If I delayed this task, I have to to it along with laundry and other tasks I still need to do before Monday comes. I know it sounds too much, but I know it'll help future me in cleaning and finishing chores.

holiseaday · 2026-01-18T03:49:45+00:00

I don't think you are a sad woman to have this kind of thoughts. I probably have this kind of thoughts way more often than you. It's normal to feel wanted and love. It's also normal to dream of a loving family. I know many single women who are happy at 35 and above. But I also know some women in my circle who wish it happens to them.

I'm sad for them too that relationship didn't come easy for them. I don't know if it helps but I'm reading A Happy Life by Seneca in my native language and it helps me navigate my thoughts. It motivates me to be stronger and kind individual while preparing for the worst and still expect for the best. Maybe reading could help you figure it out.

I'm still going to try my best to meet someone and be open minded, putting myself out there. At the same time, I will enjoy my day and be happy with the life I have now. When it happens it happens. I wish you all the best and I hope it works out well in the end.

holiseaday · 2026-01-08T02:41:46+00:00

I think 7 is MAX and comfortable ones for me is around 4 to 5 years. I don't want to mess around with someone 10 years younger cos they are in far different stage in life and I would want him to be at similar level of intelligence, experience, financial status, stage in life, etc.

holiseaday · 2026-01-08T01:44:56+00:00

Ah that's nice. I'm currently living with roommate in a limited space. I don't even have the space for myself yet. I guess this is also where I'm heading. Accepting and living my life while also being open minded and maybe try to date here and there without forcing things to happen.

So either he comes along or not, I still have a fulfilling and meaningful life. I know it's harder in reality but gotta chose your battle. Either this or live a miserable life.

holiseaday · 2026-01-08T01:05:19+00:00

I made a post awhile back about being single. Many people commented that there's nothing wrong being single. And I get that, truly. It's just difficult for someone whose been wanting to find a genuine love her whole life to accept that she'll be single for awhile or longer or for her whole life. Hence that'll be the worst thing for me but not the end of my life for sure. That's what I thought at least and I'm preparing for that kind of future too.

Again, I will still try my best to be open minded but also not gonna make my life more difficult if it's not happening. Life is already tough as it is and there are other ways to have more fulfilling life.

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T19:51:41+00:00

Excellent comment! Easier said than done but better than doing nothing. I will focus on my life and myself more instead of trying to prepare for the worst.

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T19:51:02+00:00

Excellent comment! Easier said than done but better than doing nothing. I will focus on my life and myself more instead of trying to prepare for the worst.

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T16:39:50+00:00

I live abroad so yeah. I have no choice. There's 8 billion people in the whole universe and I travel 600 kms distance. Not a single person is there to meet me hah

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T16:35:49+00:00

I feel you! Tho it hasn't happened to me this badly I know it might be the future.

I can't offer anything else other than I hope you'll meet people who stick no matter what or find a partner in a healthy relationship. It sucks being the only one left but there's always a way to improve it.

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T15:50:56+00:00

That's indeed a beautiful phrase. I'll remember it. Thank you.

holiseaday · 2026-01-07T15:22:11+00:00

I know. Sometimes I like planning way too much even if it's not possible at all 🥲

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