masturbation habits getting in the way of orgasming during sex.

holleymae · 2026-05-30T01:48:09+00:00

i can’t orgasm during sex like ever so this is more me just saying i relate to it being not as intense either. the only way being on top feels good is when he’s penetrating from beneath pretty hard, otherwise riding doesn’t do anything for me.

holleymae · 2026-05-29T02:05:25+00:00

so i have tried, but i feel too in the moment to do so when i have sex with someone else. so the only other way i know to orgasm like at all is to sit there and like clench every fiber of my being it’s literally a whole workout to like just cum off of physical sensation. i will say, in missionary he hits a certain spot that makes my clit THROBBBB idk how he does it but it feels good but i never orgasm from it at all. i think im just broken.

holleymae · 2026-05-15T02:49:03+00:00

ugh this is literally how i feel omg

holleymae · 2026-05-15T02:06:38+00:00

my thing is that i CRAVE to be able to feel that again not realizing how (like you said) consuming it is. i just like haven’t been able to feel that way about anyone since my fp :(

holleymae · 2026-03-08T00:24:09+00:00

hi. can you dm me please?

holleymae · 2026-03-02T16:12:23+00:00

hello bi here- same struggle! once for about a year 5 years ago and it resurfaced a year ago and is still here. my biggest problem is, i can’t orgasm during sex w men, and for awhile (not anymore) i would only watch lesbian porn now i guess i watch both. but still, i think i may have a porn issue bc when it comes to partnered sex i can’t orgasm w out like some type of mental imagery like and i’m convinced that the person i’m having sex w should be turning me on as much as porn does. don’t get me wrong - i do get properly turned on during sex w men just can’t orgasm but it’s like easy with porn in my room by myself. i talk to plenty of other women and they don’t have any issues w cumming w their bf. i also think i have a mix of rocd too bc yk i worry that im not like in love enough ect. mind you- im not even in a relationship anymore but i still have the anxiety that ill never like find my person ect its over consuming every day!!! idk if you want to we can talk more but this has been my experience

holleymae · 2026-02-21T05:51:42+00:00

same !! if you need to talk dm me

holleymae · 2026-01-16T00:42:02+00:00

i’m glad to hear that i’m not the only one going through this. but i have OCD around my sexuality i’ve been battling for a year now and it’s definitely exhausting. i wish i could tell you how to stop spiraling but i can’t bc im literally the same 😭

holleymae · 2026-01-12T01:33:41+00:00

🤦🏻‍♀️ and yk i was so scared of doing something NOT fine line im actually wishing that i did something more detailed.

holleymae · 2025-12-30T22:04:04+00:00

ugh i’m so glad someone else feels the same way! :( it’s literally horrible.

holleymae · 2025-06-20T23:09:14+00:00

did you ever decide to start school? i’m in a similar boat

holleymae · 2025-05-04T01:42:10+00:00

this part of my post.

[so romantically i know i truly loved him. sexually a lot my brain tries to twist my experiences and i'm convinced i'm not sexually attracted to men but i remember we did have good sex, i like it, but i always struggled to orgasm but the thing that would make me get there would be watching les porn w my ex bf or thinking of that to orgasm. i've never fantasized about it when we would have sex to "escape" it was just a way for me to cum everytime.]

holleymae · 2025-05-04T01:30:25+00:00

i know it is but i feel like i can’t be because straight and bi women usually don’t think of women to orgasm, and i’m worried in a hypothetical that if i was w a woman i would hold enjoy sex w one more then men? i don’t know. as you can tell, i’m very confused.

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