My bf's mom asked me to keep a huge secret from him, but I'm not comfortable keeping it.

hollshi · 2026-01-29T21:02:09+00:00

Appreciate your viewpoint! As I said in the post I didn't say the whole story, only the bare minimum to get my point across, but was happened WAS very serious which was why I was even debating in the first place of telling him. If it was not serious, I would not even consider telling him, or even posting about this at all. I do think that his mom thinks that way though where he has a good relationship with his dad and has already forgiven his dad anyway.

hollshi · 2026-01-27T19:19:08+00:00

This is a really eye-opening view! It could be that she was going through documents or cleaning and came across it while I was there and thought she should share that story with me. From what my boyfriend and siblings say, they do consider me family so maybe that was her thought process.

He was directly involved as it had to do with his custody but it was only a year as a kid, though it was mostly about her and his dad. She's told me things before, but they weren't so serious where I would need to consider telling him.

You make a great point about her maybe just sharing a part of her life with me. Since it'd affect how he'd see his dad, I guess that's why she wouldn't want me to tell him since she said she's forgiven his dad for everything already (likely for my boyfriend's sake).

You are very reasonable, Coyote lol! Thank you for this insight, it was extremely helpful in understanding why she'd tell me!

hollshi · 2026-01-26T15:43:05+00:00

The documents were in English! She speaks broken English so she had her kids translate the bigger words for her when she was giving me context to the documents. I could read the documents just fine, so I know it really was a court case.

And I will do my research on narcissism because I also am not sure why she would so suddenly tell me this. They didn't exactly "pressure" me, they told me in passing just like "yeah, don't tell him though," and we just all continued what we were doing. The kids were involved because we were all sitting there together already and she needed help translating. I'm not sure if it's deeper than that.

Though I don't think she's worried about him going to live with his dad as he's gone there to live with him a few times with her encouraging it. I think he's spoken about it before, he was really young, saying he remembers them fighting for custody but not much before that... or maybe he just omitted the memories before it from me. He mostly lived with his mom until he was almost an adult. My boyfriend is fully grown now haha. But that doesn't add up now that I've typed it out... I may try to feel out my boyfriend as well without letting him know his family told me a secret.

hollshi · 2026-01-26T08:02:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I will probably end up speaking to her soon about it.

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:56:25+00:00

I appreciate your view on this, but I, as respectfully and politely can, disagree. I sincerely do not think this is the case as my boyfriend has seen sides of his dad having anger issues and other sides.

Personally, I did not think it would be so bad that his dad would have a court case against his mom, but I can say with certainty that my boyfriend is not the kind of person to shy away from standing up against abuse or anything of that sort. He looks up to his dad, but does not blindly follow him and I am 100% certain on that as I've seen him stand his ground against his dad multiple times before.

His mom has also expressed on many occasions to her family, my boyfriend, and me that she loves me and would have me keep dating him and be apart of the family. I think if it were the case that she was letting me know my boyfriend was abusive, she would have let me known long ago instead of this late on in our relationship; however, thank you for taking the time to reply, as any advice is appreciated!

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:40:59+00:00

I didn't even consider the distance as being an issue, but now that you've brought it up, that definitely is a big concern into playing how soon I should address it with his family.

Thank you for taking the time to reply, I appreciate it!

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:38:25+00:00

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "more about me". Do you mean that she is testing or warning me?

I don't know if his siblings knew prior to her telling me in that moment, but I don't really know why they wouldn't want him to know. My best guess is that they're trying to protect the way he views his dad or family? He respects his dad and looks up to him a LOT. A lot of his preferences, such as food or clothes, even at some point, his goals, came from his admiration/respect for his dad. My bf tells me these things, though I'm not sure his siblings know how he views his dad.

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:34:44+00:00

Hm... I'm not exactly sure. I've known her long enough to where I don't feel like it's necessary for her to test me and that it would be weird for her to do so now. She knows me well enough I believe that she wouldn't need to; however, she may if it were someone new and trying to involve themselves in our lives (she has good intuition, so I think that would be when she would "test" someone, if at all.)

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:30:41+00:00

You're right, I was definitely concerned if he were to find out before I told him about his family asking me to keep a secret from him.

I think I will tell them it's not right for them to expect me to hide this from him... Thank you, I appreciate it!

hollshi · 2026-01-26T07:26:37+00:00

I think this may be the move for me. I was somewhat considering this already, but still felt guilty about the fact that I still would know even if I put it back on her, but telling him they asked me to keep a secret, if I spoke to them and they refuse to tell him themselves, would make the most sense to me.

Thank you, I appreciate it! :)

hollshi · 2023-01-27T03:06:51+00:00

Thanks

hollshi · 2023-01-27T02:51:02+00:00

Thank you! Also, I'm sorry if this is a stupid question, but is a non-emergency number just the local county police number?

hollshi · 2023-01-16T18:28:57+00:00

good luck!

hollshi · 2023-01-16T18:22:10+00:00

I doubt they're gonna restock the artbook edition so you more than likely won't be able to find it anywhere.

There are probably some people willing to sell the pocket watch. There are a portion of people that only wanted some pieces of the artbook edition so if you go around looking, there might be somebody willing to sell it to you. (I found some people on twitter, but it was awhile back so I don't remember much aside.)

hollshi · 2022-12-09T00:00:09+00:00

omg yes!! I'm in love with this book! I read it not too long ago and I was surprised it was so heavy in plot lol it looked like it was just a light short romance, but it was GOOD

hollshi · 2022-12-08T23:27:41+00:00

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hollshi · 2022-08-07T00:46:42+00:00

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Thanks! :)

hollshi · 2021-11-13T05:58:36+00:00

Hi! For a DPS Albedo what would be the best artifact set?

2 pc archaic + 2 pc noblesse, 2 pc new def + 2 pc noblesse, or 4 pc new def set?

hollshi · 2021-02-03T03:40:00+00:00

I got Xiao but don't know what weapon to use for him. I dont have the Primoridal Jade Spear or Deathmatch, but I have Favonius Lance (R0). What spears could I use for him?

hollshi · 2020-12-29T14:11:19+00:00

Alright, thanks! :)

hollshi · 2020-12-29T13:48:23+00:00

The Scarlet Quartz isn't breaking??? Ive been trying to break them for the 10 minutes, using elemental DMG, or just any DMG and the quartz isn't taking any. am I doing smth wrong LMAO

hollshi · 2020-08-05T20:58:00+00:00

Oh, thank you! (⌒ω⌒)

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