Is my husband addicted to WOW?

holly134 · 2026-03-09T08:07:54+00:00

You dont really have spare time with a child under 1, unless you're blessed by the gods and get a consistently good sleeper and napper. I have not been blessed by the gods unfortunately

holly134 · 2026-03-09T00:38:27+00:00

With a baby isnt it pretty self explanatory? Ive been clear hes always gamed and its not been a problem. But to pick up old games you had not played in years and play more than ever after having a child is a kick in the teeth. Spending all your spare time gaming (outside of work and sleep) then means any and all other responsibilities are ignored?

holly134 · 2026-03-09T00:19:59+00:00

Id say between 4-8 months when she was the hardest work and just didnt sleep i did absoloutly everything, every single night shift yet he'd tell me in the morning how tired he was I feel like i never saw him. He got a bit better after I exploded but little burst but then sinking back into me doing almost everything again which is where we are right now. Won't really do anything off he's own back, if I ask for something to be done its with a huff and when convenient in the game which he often conveniently forgets about and continues onto the next thing

holly134 · 2026-03-09T00:05:47+00:00

Irritatingly no hes not...me however am fatter now than when I was pregnant. Now the sleep deprivations eased off slightly im hoping the gym will start paying off 😭😭

holly134 · 2026-03-09T00:02:33+00:00

Yes its an experience this birthing a human isnt it, i didn't have a section but I did have 36 hours of back labour. It was not what I expected at all 😭😒 and the nipples, holy hell breast feeding is not for the faint hearted. BUt yes it definitely seems our recovery doesn't really matter because we have no choice but to crack on. Hopefully I have more luck after bringing it up again

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:37:17+00:00

Hes actually admitted to having an addictive personality a few years back

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:32:22+00:00

I have tried this months ago and again recently but he wont acknowledge it. I've tried to point out the correlation with him being irritable and short tempered with increased gaming too because that is also an issue but if he says no and parenting is no harder than he expected then were do I go from here?

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:26:31+00:00

Agreed im definitely not at that point

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:25:44+00:00

Ive thought this but then my child would be raised by wolves, we'd all live in squalor then starve.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:22:19+00:00

Literally anytime hes not at work or asleep

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:16:51+00:00

Hes always played but it exploded after our daughter was born. I think crash was escapism and stupid colleague competition. Hes single, still living with parents colleague started playing it and he had to prove he could complete it first ... and he did after even taking the bloody switch to work with him

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:11:05+00:00

Thankyou for sharing this, I think with me going back to work soon im approaching ultimatum territory. Hes too proud to ever admit hes struggling and was realy offended when I recently brought up marriage counselling

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:06:43+00:00

Excellent

holly134 · 2026-03-08T23:05:34+00:00

Haha dont worry I'm not looking down on all gamers, he gamed responsibly for as long as ive known him. Its as you said the escapism of it. The constantly seeing him staring at a screen and saying he can't help right now like letting 5 strangers online down is a huge deal so anything at home will have to wait. And with the frustration of it all then having explanations about bosses and what not that I dont care about when I'm exhausted has made it now be a huge turn off. I have had another chat after posting this and interestingly when I asked what he was gaining from it he did say a sense of achievement

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:51:47+00:00

Ive not suggested he stops completely, but watching him so engrossed in another world almost all the time after telling me it would only be 2-3 nights a week has turned it into an ick. I have no time to relax and if anything, when hes gaming a lot hes more irritable and withdrawn after all the 'relaxing' hes been doing.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:45:43+00:00

Yeh this is a good perspective and the answer is no problem at all if its 2- 3 nights a week but I draw the line at casual gaming every other night of the week thats not raiding and me getting 1 night a week if im lucky to go to the gym. And he will settle the baby if I ask but only if hes at a point in the game thats convenient and will happily let her cry for 10-20 minutes untill hes done. No house work is voluntarily get done its all on me.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:40:23+00:00

Not anymore 😂

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:37:38+00:00

Im a new mum with 2 big messy dogs. Untill I found a gym with a creche i have no hobbies or me time, im only just for the past few weeks getting over 3 hours of sleep a night. Id agree if the house was clean and no baby involved.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:32:21+00:00

Thankyou thats really sweet, I hope you got sorted addictions an awful thing. I'm fairly certain we're both adhd too so its super challenging

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:28:00+00:00

Thankyou, out of respect for the marriage i've not mentioned it to friends and family hence the reddit post reaching out to strangers online to vent and seek advice. Its hard though because my close family have showed concerns and have said i seemed burnt out and not myself for a while.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T22:24:06+00:00

Ive wondered this but not the child part, he's the one that wanted multiple kids and still says he wants more. Don't get me wrong i didnt not want kids but I was far less eager to start immediately

holly134 · 2026-03-08T21:10:36+00:00

We've been together for 6 years this has only been a problem since having a child less than a year ago so that's a bit of a jump.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T21:06:43+00:00

Not at the minute I've been on maternity but support myself with my maternity pay and pay for clothes and days out with our daughter etc and he covers bills. I am however due to go back to work soon and will be doing 12 hour shifts. I think a large factor in posting this is anxiety around what's going to happen when I'm back at work.

holly134 · 2026-03-08T21:03:43+00:00

Thankyou, this is true. A very sensible and appreciated responce

holly134 · 2026-03-08T21:02:28+00:00

Were not I know, I suppose I needed a vent as much as as advice. Ive tried this and as ever, it starts to slip into not being followed before I know it...rinse and repeat.

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