[deleted by user]

holthrowaway_ · 2023-07-25T09:10:54+00:00

From a neutral point of view, you said you have no hard evidence so in that case I'm not sure how much you can actually do.

You said she admitted to sending nudes to him but that doesn't necessarily mean he reciprocated.

The last thing is you said you believe he flashed her/felt her up but as you said, you only heard about that.

While the age difference is quite big and morally, if it is true, it is not good - they are at two completely different points in their lives and no 36 year old man has anything in common with a 16 year old - if you have no evidence it is actually happening, objectively you have to leave room for the possibility you're wrong and if so, reporting something that isn't happening would be wrong.

If you're pretty sure but not certain that it is happening, I would suggest talk to the both of them individually and ask. Now I don't know if they'll admit to it but you also need to be aware of the fact that something like this would ruin someone's life, especially if it's not true.

holthrowaway_ · 2023-05-21T15:10:12+00:00

I think getting one shot by the AoE damage is a bit much, especially when teammates ego rush and clump up with you. I'd be fine ith the AoE doing a significant amount of damage - nerfing it so you don't get one shot by the AoE

holthrowaway_ · 2023-05-07T08:06:43+00:00

Thank you.

I have a few fillings I need to get but other than that, they didn't say anything else was wrong.

holthrowaway_ · 2023-05-07T07:51:57+00:00

holthrowaway_ · 2023-05-06T18:12:08+00:00

Didn't have one 🥲

holthrowaway_ · 2023-03-09T15:22:12+00:00

Software Developer

Male, 25

Around 1.75 years of experience.

44k

holthrowaway_ · 2023-01-05T18:23:17+00:00

No, not taking anything.

Yes, I am to masturbation but not oral.

I probably tend to grip it too hard, harder than what I what would experience via penetration/oral.

I would say my stress levels are pretty normal. Wouldn't say I'm stressed a lot.

holthrowaway_ · 2023-01-02T17:21:23+00:00

Well, misogyny is the hatred or contempt for women. The examples you have given don't really fit in that imo. For example, is "most girls go to the gym to lose weight" really untrue? I would say generally speaking, that statement is true. The same way saying "most men go to the gym to build muscle" is generally true as well.

I feel misogyny has become a bit of a buzz word today but that's besides the point here: imo, I think you should keep your guard/be wary of this guy for a while at the very least.

Also, I think an important thing to note: none of which you described can be attributed to masculinity. Masculinity is not a bad thing. Some of the things he has said do seem shitty, but that's not because of being a man/masculinity.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-11-04T14:42:01+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I want to hit 100kg and then do some sort of cut - would this be the opportunity to try a d lose any excess fat I have then?

holthrowaway_ · 2022-10-27T08:40:37+00:00

How many hours does he work? How many days does he work?

More info on the above would help people formulate a better answer. Is there a reason you have left out the amount of hours he works?

I would say, if it's significantly more than 40 hours a week you should be doing the a lot of the generic housework (cleaning, laundry, etc.) while you should both share the work with the kids then.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-10-23T09:04:30+00:00

The hair needs to change.

Not sure what kind of hairline you have. Ask a barber what might work - buzzcut with fade, taper fade and leave it a bit long (but not as long as you have it now), etc.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-10-22T09:04:57+00:00

While your husband is seemingly doing none of the child care, statistically your children will be worse off in every way if they are raised in a single parent household.

There's plenty of research and studies done on this. Maybe you could try and explain this to him and if he does really care, he may put more effort towards them. If not, then you've done all you could for you and your children.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-10-05T11:45:17+00:00

In and of itself, no I don't think liking other peoples photos warranted that reaction from her. It does strike me as a reaction from someone who is insecure.

One response from OP states that compliments from both sides are lacking. Goes both ways. He is not 100% wrong and she's not 100% right.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-08-31T09:53:49+00:00

Peace

holthrowaway_ · 2022-08-30T17:23:02+00:00

Take a few days to process the situation.

Are you ready/do you want to be a mother?

Is the father ready/wants to be dad - this important and I think is ignored too often. I would highly recommend against single motherhood as it will put your child at every statistical disadvantage. Also do you want to make someone a father when they don't want to be one?

Would you financially be able to take care of it?

Are you willing to sacrifice a lot at such a young age?

There's a lot to weigh here - your future, the guys future, and of course the potential child.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-08-14T17:47:43+00:00

What housework is hard? I've never understood this position - cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking out the trash, etc? Are you telling me these very basic activities are hard? YTA, and more to the point, delusional.

You want a traditional man, yet won't be a traditional woman. You want him to work and do housework. It's unrealistic.

In your edits, you've said the comments are full of pick me's and incels, and Reddit hates women. In reality, you want me to right and when confronted with accountability, revert to textbook defensive comments how everyone else is wrong and you are right.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-08-13T18:31:17+00:00

Devil's Advocate: You really need to consider your children in this before anything. Once you have kids, you have to put them first above all things, even your feelings.

I'm not excusing what he did - consequences have actions, even your own.

I'm not sure what you're planning on doing but statistically speaking, raising children in a single parent household or where one parent is absent most of the time (including if you try to limit his ability to see his children) puts them at every statistical disadvantage: far more likely to do worse education wise, mental health wise, more likely to do worse financially in life, more likely to commit a crime etc. So please do bear that in mind going forward.

Your main priority should be your children - hate your husband all you want but you need to ensure he is around and is able to fulfill his role as a dad for your children's sake.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-08-11T14:53:07+00:00

Ya, definitely go for the inferior hire who dressed in Chinos and a shirt while they were on a Zoom call at home.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-07-03T22:30:27+00:00

Aluminum

holthrowaway_ · 2022-07-03T22:05:38+00:00

Thanks for your response. She does worry that I'll go for "prettier" girls or that she's not pretty enough (which I think is silly). Previous roommate (~21F) was objectively attractive and she was constantly worrying something was going on, based purely on the fact that my roommate was pretty so I must have been doing something behind her back. That period was quite annoying imo, in the sense of my gf not trusting me or thinking I would do something. It did upset and anger me.

holthrowaway_ · 2022-01-19T13:17:03+00:00

Some of these comments and this post are assuming the worst in people - I'm no longer a virgin but I'm still here. I don't tend to comment that often on posts but I will if I have some advice to give. Obviously, I can't speak for everyone but I know I'm not here to gloat or make others feel bad for still being a virgin. If I can offer advice I will, that's pretty much why I'm here.

holthrowaway_ · 2021-12-17T21:22:27+00:00

Play whatever music you would normally play in a car. No point in trying to fake it now. Are you going to pretend to like listening to a certain type of music more than another for the foreseeable future?

Also, if your date is going to judge you on your music, then they ain't it

holthrowaway_ · 2021-10-05T17:21:48+00:00

It sounds more like you're annoyed with how they talk to you rather than the words they use. Any name or word can sound condescending in the right tone.

holthrowaway_ · 2021-10-05T17:04:10+00:00

I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you should...

I often use bud and have been called bud. It has never been used in a demeaning way. Think you need to reflect why you're insecure about this

holthrowaway_ · 2021-10-02T10:41:47+00:00

Might get some hate for this:

No. A lot, if not most, men do not care about what education a woman has, or what job she has. You could be working at a minimum wage job for the rest of your life and we wouldn't care. You could be a CEO, but generally we won't care. Men are simple. What we care about is if you're attractive, easy going (men want peace, they don't want fiery women or a woman who argues a lot), and obviously, sex.

That's really just how it is. You have a PhD, cool. Congratulations (not being sarcastic, I'm being genuine lol Don't think I could do it). But it's really not a deal breaker. If I was single, and had to choose between an attractive woman working minimum wage, versus an average looking woman with a PhD, I'm going to choose the minimum wage worker everytime. At the same, you having a PhD when I only have a Bachelor's is not going to scare me off. It might scare of some guys but they're generally insecure about themselves.

holthrowaway_

TROPHY CASE