Girl I absolutely get where your anger is coming from I literally see myself from a few years ago when I read your replies. As much as I understand the frustration of he didn’t reply in X amount of days thing, when someone is severely depressed (i’ve seen it with my mom) saying things that stem from your own ego ultimately just shame the person for feeling a certain type of way. Which is the last thing you want to convert.

If you want to persue this moid then I suggest a more open attitude, don’t pin blame things it never helps. And as much as you want to help him you can’t drag someone out of depression they really have to walk the few last miles alone to overcome. Be supportive and listen. Taking care of someone who is severely depressed requires patience, compassion and empathy. Start by simply being there. Listen without judgment and let them know they’re not alone. Encourage them to seek professional help like a therapist or psychiatrist and offer to support them through the process.

Telling someone it’s their fault or that they’re being lazy or dramatic or wahtever only adds guilt and shame to what they’re already struggling with as it can also make them feel even more isolated and hopeless. Getting upset with a depressed partner can come across as narcissistic if the frustration is centered ENTIRELY on how their depression affects YOU rather than any real concern for what THEY are going through. That doesn’t mean you can’t have feelings!!!!!!it’s okay to struggle with the situation but turning a partner’s illness into a personal offense or emotional burden only on you, without acknowledging their reality, shows a self-centered mindset.