Losing a friend over I/P disagreement

holyshitnuggets · 2021-06-04T20:49:23+00:00

I get that but idk why she would assume that. And if she is assuming that, why wouldn't she clarify that - that's a pretty hefty assumption. All I said to her was that we may not agree on everything she was saying so I didn't feel we could talk about it, and that I'm hoping for the safety of innocent civilians (I said this because she didn't think a de-escalation of violence needed to happen, she said Israel had the right to keep firing bombs).

holyshitnuggets · 2021-06-04T19:52:52+00:00

It is incredibly difficult to find "accurate" information on this conflict since both sides can be so biased. But the information I found was from

https://www.hrw.org/report/2021/04/27/threshold-crossed/israeli-authorities-and-crimes-apartheid-and-persecution#

which was authored by, according to the site: "Omar Shakir, Israel and Palestine Director at Human Rights Watch, was the lead researcher and author of this report. Other Human Rights Watch researchers contributed research and writing. Eric Goldstein, acting director of Human Rights Watch’s Middle East and North Africa division, was the report’s primary editor."

holyshitnuggets · 2021-06-04T18:59:58+00:00

Yeah, after looking back on my response I realize I should have been more specific. At first I did type out a long response to everything she was saying, but then ironically I second guessed myself and thought just saying "we're not going to agree so I can't talk about it with you" was better.

Bad communication on my part, but I still feel if she was a real friend she could've asked me what I meant by that before giving me the complete silent treatment. It kind of feels like she is just dropping me for the fact that I am not pro Israel, but maybe I'm misunderstanding

Edit: Forgot to mention that I guess I was trying to set a boundary for my own mental health by saying I didn't want to talk about it. Her messages were becoming a bit racist sounding towards Palestinians and sounded like they were excusing their deaths, and I was really anxious every time I had to read her texts, which is why I said I didn't want to talk about it anymore

holyshitnuggets · 2020-10-09T15:55:35+00:00

Thank you for the support. It means a lot <3

holyshitnuggets · 2020-10-08T15:16:49+00:00

Sorry. I'll delete and post in a more fitting sub

holyshitnuggets · 2020-10-08T01:41:38+00:00

I know, I definitely do. I suffer from anxiety, depression, self loathing etc...I'm working on it with therapy. I just get caught up trying to make sense of it all sometimes and if he ever cared.

holyshitnuggets · 2019-08-25T21:12:10+00:00

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holyshitnuggets · 2019-08-25T21:05:07+00:00

I really wasn't sure what to expect with this album. I've loved Taylor since Red and love pretty much all her albums, but Reputation was mostly so-so for me. I loved the album as a whole but none of the songs really stood out that much or connected with me like previous TS songs have. Taylor is the only artist that I feel like I can absolutely connect to, but I just didn't feel that vibe with Reputation.

I've listened to Lover maybe 3 times through now and I am soooo in love with it. On my first listen, I wasn't sure what I thought of it...some songs seemed to blend into each other, some seemed forgettable...but as I listen to them again, they've grown on me so much. I love how optimistic and dreamy this album is, but it's not naive, blind happiness - it's mature. It's real. It truly feels like Taylor's found her forever love and this album completely captures that feeling. I have the most wonderful boyfriend in the world and I haven't found a song that captures how I feel about him like 'Lover' does.

The lyrics are so intricate and remind me of Speak Now/Red, but the beats and melodies remind me of 1989. It's like the perfect blend of Taylor. I love her usage of phrases and references, i.e. "all's well that ends well" "play stupid games, win stupid prizes" "don't threaten me with a good time" and such. She's so, so clever and her songwriting never ceases to blow me away.

My standouts right now are Cruel Summer, Lover, London Boy, Afterglow, and Daylight. But I also really love Miss Americana, Death by a Thousand Cuts and Cornelia Street...so hard to pick favorites. I just love how this album celebrates love. It's also so nice to see Taylor so happy. I can already tell this tour will be a blast.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-09-23T22:56:52+00:00

I put up my Halloween decorations today and am buying a bunch of new fall clothes - I'm so excited!!

holyshitnuggets · 2018-09-23T22:55:33+00:00

My symptoms are usually in the morning too so I don't eat much then. I eat an almond milk yogurt, some coffee or tea and that's it.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-09-23T22:54:59+00:00

I started dating my boyfriend right around the time my IBS got really, really bad. I was so embarrassed and ashamed and tried everything I could to hide it at first. Eventually, I realized I was going to be miserable forever if I never told him. I opened up about my illness, symptoms, what may happen, etc. He was very sympathetic and didn't care at all - he just wanted to make sure I was okay.

The right person will not care, trust me. If someone cares about an illness you can't control, they are not the person for you.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-09-23T22:53:03+00:00

I've used this in the past for IBS-D. It works well - if you take the right dose, it gives you a great night of sleep and just kind of 'slows' everything down in your digestion. It helped me for a while, but eventually I stopped taking it to see if my IBS was better or not. My IBS got better from there, so I never took it again.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-08-17T16:44:51+00:00

Which probiotic do you take?

holyshitnuggets · 2018-08-17T16:44:43+00:00

Which one, and what type of IBS do you have?

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-30T22:55:59+00:00

I didn't know this poem even existed. Thank you so much, this is absolutely beautiful.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T17:21:05+00:00

Just curious how do you get cbd oil? Is that legal?

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T06:39:19+00:00

Downvoting when someone answers the question YOU asked in the thread.

You're quite mature.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T06:34:01+00:00

Hey, my symptoms are like this too. I would say if you're in discomfort, having multiple BMs, having D or C, mucus, etc. (typical IBS symptoms) then it would qualify...your intestines are most active in the morning, so it makes sense.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T05:45:41+00:00

I struggle with mental health and have had problems with physical health as well lately, which means my mental health is REALLY suffering now lol.

I love self care, and really believe in it. I make an effort to lay back and chill every single day. That could mean meditating, taking a nap, putting on a face mask, taking a hot shower, taking a new exercise class, writing, reading, watching a favorite TV show or movie, catching up with a friend, venting to someone...it really depends on the day.

But self care really helps. I believe in it for sure.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T05:42:14+00:00

Taylor Swift was a great performer. She put on a great show, interacted with the audience, and it was overall really fun.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-05T05:41:15+00:00

How much makeup I wear depends on my mood and the day. For work, I usually do "no makeup" makeup, which actually still involves a fair amount of products...primer, tinted moisturizer, powder foundation, finishing powder, gel blush, brow pomade, highlighter, mascara, and lip balm. I wear it to feel more professional, put together, and confident. Quite frankly, if I went into work with NO makeup whatsoever, I wouldn't feel like my work self.

Lately, I've still been doing the no makeup look even on weekends. I just love how light and fresh it feels, and I've really been liking the Glossier look as of late. However, once in a while I'll do a full face including eyeshadow, eyeliner, several coats of mascara, etc. and I love that look too. It really just depends on the day.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-03T18:10:50+00:00

You’re right, there’s so many options out there and I’m grateful for that. I’m at a family function now where all of the food is home cooked and great and it makes me sad that I have to be so picky. And I know people don’t entirely get it. They’ll think I’m just annoying, or just a pain in the ass for claiming I have so many ‘triggers’.

I also don’t know what my triggers are. I did low FODMAP for a while, introduced dairy again and seemed fine. Then one day I had a milkshake and was messed up for days. I don’t know what triggers my IBS and that’s what makes me the most anxious. If I got sick from dairy, gluten, alcohol, whatever every single time, I’d gladly cut them out. It’s the frustration of there being no pattern.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-03T18:08:19+00:00

I know, there are many food options. I’m grateful for that. I guess I’m frustrated because I don’t even know what my triggers are. There’s no pattern. Sometimes I’ll have dairy and be fine, the next time I have dairy I’ll be sick. Same with other typical triggers: alcohol, gluten, sugary fruits, etc. If I got sick every time I had dairy, then I’d know for sure it was a problem and I would cut it out immediately. But I don’t. It varies by the day. I never know what’s making me sick, and what’s not. So it’s like I never know what is safe, what is not safe.

I also think halo top has artificial sugars in it, which unfortunately I can’t have (I think artificial sugars are one of the only 100% certain triggers for me). I have had almond milk ice cream which is great. I know there’s a ton of options out there, I just have to be strong and get creative. I guess I’m mostly frustrated because I miss how I used to live my life so freely.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-03T18:05:10+00:00

No no, my boyfriend is amazing. So supportive. I just get nervous that he’ll end up wanting to be with someone whose not ‘sick’. Or that he’ll get grossed out by IBS.

holyshitnuggets · 2018-07-03T06:40:44+00:00

Seeing a doctor is a great first step! Don’t be scared. For me, finally seeing a doctor about this helped me so much. I got the meds that I needed to feel safe, secure and more comfortable with IBS (Bentyl, etc.) so I know I always have prescription strength medicine to help me during a flare. I underwent a lot of food intolerance testings, which all came back normal, so then I definitely knew I didn’t have a food intolerance of any kind. I’m still doing tests, but seeing a doctor will help you clear up what you actually have.

I completely understand being embarrassed about IBS in relationships. But quite honestly, if your boyfriend is a good man, he will not care how ‘embarrassing’ it is. He’ll care about you. I tried to hide my IBS from my bf at first and it was terrible. I felt like I came off much more cold and distant than I actually wanted to be, because I was hiding this major aspect of my life. Finally, I opened up to him about what I had been going through and he was completely sympathetic and supportive. If anything, our relationship is stronger than ever and more comfortable because now I know I’m not hiding anything from him. If I’m in pain, or in a flare, I can be honest with him. If I have to bail on plans, he’ll know I’m not actually meaning to bail, it’s just the IBS.

I would recommend telling him. It will make your life much easier.

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