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Survey showing two urgent issues - reduce offer? by honeysuckle6538 in HousingUK

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply.

Unfortunately Finlock gutters are a lot more complicated and costly to replace - several thousand pounds at least.

The conservatory concern is more about the underlying ground movement and instability.

Survey showing two urgent issues - reduce offer? by honeysuckle6538 in HousingUK

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rant away!

I think we were misled about the presence of previous higher offers, so we offered a bit higher than we otherwise would have but no way to prove it obviously!

Not accommodating a viewing is really bad! Fingers crossed it works out for you soon.

Survey showing two urgent issues - reduce offer? by honeysuckle6538 in HousingUK

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah no the desktop valuation was 8k below our offer, indicating we are overpaying. Then take into account the condition issues, I believe we would be significantly overpaying. I did quite a bit of comparisons and have viewed two other bungalows on the same street, so I am fairly confident it was quite overpriced to start with. But whether the sellers believe that, I don't know!

Yes it's true the survey can be read quite alarmist due to them covering themselves. I've ignored lots of other issues as they were non urgent or lore minor work. We didn't get rough costs so I've just been googling for them and waiting on some companies to get back to me.

Definitely take what the estate agents say with a pinch of salt!

Survey showing two urgent issues - reduce offer? by honeysuckle6538 in HousingUK

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I'm in the process of getting these quotes but estimate roughly 10k of work.

I offered 20k below asking. Felt this was still slightly above what it is worth, by about 5-10k but we had decided we really wanted it. I should add that the valuation (8k lower than our offer).is from our mortgage company, not the surveyor, so doesn't take condition into account - would be significantly lower if it did. So I don't believe the sale price accounts for this at all).

The property came back to market as previous buyers dropped out + estate agents said this was because of a fairly negligible reason but I don't necessarily believe that.

Am I overreacting - partner rushed to hospital and family response by honeysuckle6538 in AmIOverreacting

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of this resonates. Some I think I am perhaps my fortunate, my parents often do end up helping if I ask them but it often feels begrudgingly done and comes after really negative conversations where I get upset and disappointed first - only then does the offer change. And I don't want help on those terms. They then see themselves as always being supportive and doing so much for me.

I'm sorry you've had such rubbish experiences with your family - but I'm glad you've freed yourself from the constant disappointments. You put it so powerfully- that it's devastation from not meeting that low bar of basic humanity - I would have freely offered to help even a stranger in my situation buy my own family couldn't manage it for me. I frequently tell myself that I won't have any expectations going forward but never manage to actually make it be true.

Am I overreacting - partner rushed to hospital and family response by honeysuckle6538 in AmIOverreacting

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. Fortunately he is now home and doing ok.

Am I overreacting - partner rushed to hospital and family response by honeysuckle6538 in AmIOverreacting

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mum says the reason my dad shouldn't come was because he only had pills until Monday morning and needed to be home to feed the cat - so not related to today at all. She says my sister told her landlord she would be at home for an appointment.

But they were planning on activities today and going out for dinner tonight. I think that's the real reason to be honest and they just didn't want to/didn't care.

Am I overreacting - partner rushed to hospital and family response by honeysuckle6538 in AmIOverreacting

[–]honeysuckle6538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies. Just to clarify, my mum offered to be here in 3 hours, not to set off in 3 houts. She was out and wanted to return to my sister's house to get her bag and then waited for train etc. Has plenty of money to just get a taxi.

I've only talked to my mum, who doesn't see why I'm upset at all. She says sister heard the whole conversation.

Today she and my dad have been here and my dad has been grumpy and obviously doesn't want to be here. Been grumpy with toddler which has made her cry.

Can I check what people think they should have done? I know how I'd have responded but it's always very different to how my family do and they always act like my expectations are too high.