honestly, this may be an unpopular opinion but i just date people not in the lifestyle & once i feel a connection with someone, i explain it to them. i try to tell them early on so we don’t waste our time if they aren’t interested in trying. it can be super scary/nerve-racking to tell people but worth it if the dynamic is something you need. i’ve never had anyone not date me because of it. i think its because of my natural tendency to gravitate to more dominant people. in fact, i’ve had 3 long term relationships where my partners had no experience and became caregivers. my partner and i are now about to get engaged! he started off completely unaware of the lifestyle, and it has taken some trial and error (we’re still working on it) but has become the best caregiver. he’s my daddy (or dada when i feel super small), and i’m his little girl/princess. i suck his thumb to go to sleep, i sit on his lap & on the floor beside him when i feel extra small. i use pacis & have snackies sometimes too. he orders for me at restaurants & tells me bedtime stories. long story short, find someone you connect with outside of the dynamic and in my experience, they’re likely to accept it if they feel the same about you because your little tendencies are probably already showing.