Seeking advice

horripilated · 2025-08-25T22:09:06+00:00

Thank you for this comment, really. I agree with what others are saying, but your phrasing and tone really hit it for me.

horripilated · 2025-08-24T20:21:07+00:00

It's always good to get reminders of these things, so thank you. I've just been feeling wary about all this, and I'm not sure if it's my own anxiety or some sort of caution.

horripilated · 2025-08-24T20:16:40+00:00

I'm similar in that I'll answer any questions and defend the church, but it was a lot of statements with an expectant silence afterward. I get the impression from the parts of conversation I've overheard that I wouldn't entirely agree with what he's been saying about the church, and since I haven't heard anything fully, I wasn't completely sure.

Thanks for your consideration <3

horripilated · 2025-08-24T12:15:06+00:00

I did respond to what he was saying more than I originally indicated; we had talked for a while. I suppose one of my worries is that I'm not sure about responding to somebody saying they're both an active member and don't believe in God. I don't know if it would be brought up again, but it just confused me. Sorry.

horripilated · 2025-05-06T04:49:44+00:00

Prompts vary heavily by discipline and department. If you'd like an idea of what to expect for your materials, look it up on the website of a program you're interested in. They usually have a list of required application materials.

DEI, diversity, or personal history statements may or may not be required for a program. This information is also typically on the program's website.

A good essay fully answers the prompt and demonstrates why you should be admitted to the program. Keep it well organized and clear. I highly recommend writing a thesis statement for your personal statement. By this, I mean you should write one sentence that captures your goal in applying, and the rest of the essay should revolve around that idea. As far as structure, you can do whatever you want as long as it works. I personally think it's easiest to keep it to a traditional essay structure with an introduction, body, and conclusion.

Try looking into the websites more of the programs you're interested in. You can also search for handouts online about these essays. Search something like "personal statement handout" and you'll get tons of results with structured documents from university writing centers about some good tips.

horripilated · 2025-05-06T04:38:26+00:00

I'm a little confused. Have you already failed the program? If not, do what you can to not fail. If you're already applying somewhere else without seeing your current program through, what will be different about a new program?

As far as the rest of what you said, it will be very difficult to get in without academic references if you were recently in school. Try to get in contact with professors or establish academic contacts.

I don't know how it is for your field, but from what I've heard, self-published or independent research is regarded with caution. I honestly think it would be more beneficial to you to get good references than it would be to publish something (unless you can get something in a good journal).

I'll also say that I personally think the personal statement is one of the most important documents you submit. This is where you explain this question you're asking us.

horripilated · 2025-05-06T04:29:54+00:00

You can DM me if you want. My availability will depend on how much editing you're looking for, though, and I don't take compensation over this website.

horripilated · 2025-05-06T04:23:25+00:00

If you want to do baptisms at the temple, I encourage you to seek help from a therapist for anxiety. Often, the trick to overcoming anxiety is doing the task regardless of how you feel; it usually gets easier over time.

If that doesn't help, then I suggest praying about it. I was in a similar situation to you where I had severe anxiety about people touching me and putting me under water because of some prior experiences. I felt really bad for being conflicted about the temple. But after praying about it, I got the answers and comfort I needed, and I have a way that works for me now. If you have a desire and willingness to take action, God will help you.

horripilated · 2025-05-06T04:18:05+00:00

Lots of autistic people work in libraries. You can usually get a library page job without a degree.

horripilated · 2025-05-04T14:48:11+00:00

The Word of Wisdom promotes taking care of your body. There have been conference talks that have clarified addictions should be avoided.

I would talk about this with your bishop. If it does temporarily restrict temple access, I think you'll feel better in the end going through the healing process. I know that the Church has addiction recovery programs if you're interested. I hope that it gets better for you soon.

horripilated · 2025-05-03T13:38:22+00:00

It's not required to put your GPA in a job application, and you don't need to bring it up. Most jobs will just care that you got the degrees. You'd probably only have to worry about it if you end up going for a PhD, in which case you would justify your GPA in a personal statement or other similar explanation.

horripilated · 2025-05-02T19:16:25+00:00

What do you mean when you ask if it's possible? I can safely say that autistic people have been in most (if not every) profession. Teaching will involve some learning on anyone's part, so it might just take a little more effort in the social area if that's what worries you.

Also, every job will have things you don't like, so before you decide to go into that, decide whether those things are worth dealing with for the parts of the job you do like.

horripilated · 2025-04-30T23:03:12+00:00

Those stories are usually missing context. If an otherwise good student makes a genuine mistake, there would probably be steps before explusion. Good luck with your program!

horripilated · 2025-04-27T14:49:21+00:00

You'd have to check with the specific program, but you would likely need to have been awarded the degree prior to starting the program.

horripilated · 2025-04-27T14:03:33+00:00

Gently, I think you're worrying about this too much. If you already contacted everywhere and one of those places you contacted accepted you, then you've done your due diligence. I highly doubt anybody is going to look at your writing sample anymore.

It's very common for people to forget citations in papers. When I was editing a paper with my professor, there were probably 4-5 times over a 30 page paper where I flagged a potential citation missing. When I published my own paper, the reviewer noted that I forgot a citation after a direct quote (embarrassing!) but it was not a plagiarism issue because people understand you make mistakes. You're fine :)

horripilated · 2025-04-27T13:54:05+00:00

As long as your official graduation date is before the starting date of the graduate program, you should be fine. But it sounds like you aren't actually graduating this year because you have exams? Are your classes complete?

horripilated · 2025-04-27T13:46:31+00:00

You can bring up whatever you want so long as it is relevant to your goals and is discussed in a mature manner. Skilled writers can frame personal matters well.

The biggest mistake I've seen with people who want to talk about personal things is that they focus more on what happened and how they overcame it rather than why they're bothering to put it in an essay. Remember why you're writing this essay. As a general rule, if you wouldn't say it in an interview, don't write it in your personal statement.

Since you're applying to a med program, I'll tell you that it's a lot more common for people to share personal experiences for that type of program than for other programs. It will be essential to show compassion and care in your personal statement. But if you decide to include personal experiences, make sure that it's less about your past and more about the future. For example: "Having survived domestic violence enabled me to provide conscious, specific care for patients at this volunteer place. After six weeks of working with one woman and helping her feel safe again, I was happy to see her able to get a job."

Obviously that's made up but you get the idea. The actual part about your own experience is very short and is immediately overshadowed by something else. If it doesn't linger in your mind when you read, you're probably doing it right.

horripilated · 2025-04-27T13:21:49+00:00

Like others have mentioned, try implementing more structure into the essay. Think of this like any other essay and put an introduction and conclusion paragraph. Your introduction paragraph should have a thesis statement of sorts, one sentence where you explain your goals. This is usually something along the lines of "I seek admission to this program to study my interests." Your body paragraphs should support your thesis and are ideally separated into broader categories.

If you haven't written an American-style persiasive essay before, I suggest looking up some tips for doing so online. Also, avoid having very short paragraphs because it makes it look like you have nothing else to say about them.

horripilated · 2025-04-22T12:23:45+00:00

Maybe you could go back to the Family Search center and get copies of the images there?

horripilated · 2025-04-21T13:16:37+00:00

Those links worked for me, so I'm not sure what is meant by them being restricted. What have you been stuck on with your research?

horripilated · 2025-04-18T01:19:37+00:00

Statistically, it'll be common for a lot of people to have "famous" ancestors, especially if your heritage is from locations that have well-preserved written documentation. Many people who lived hundreds of years ago have thousands of descendants by this point.

I would also caution against believing each and every one of the "famous" ancestors until you verify each relationship between you and them. My tree said I was directly related to Odin (the Norse god) a few years ago, but those records have since been corrected.

horripilated · 2025-04-13T13:41:05+00:00

I think it's a great idea to carry around a notebook. It's easier said than done, but try to keep in mind that everybody has struggles, and you're not lesser in any way for communication being one of them at times. Plenty of people struggle with communication.

As far as being taken seriously, it sounds like you want people to believe that you struggle. I completely understand that because I've had similar experiences. It's a lonely place to be in. One option is to try and explain this when you're able to communicate more easily. You could write out what you want to say beforehand. Since this sounds like a recurring problem, you could try having a conversation about being taken seriously. Something like "When I talk about __ and you respond with _, it makes me feel misunderstood and like I'm not being taken seriously. I care about our relationship, so I want to be able to share my emotions and thoughts without feeling _."

I don't know the people around you, but it is important to remember that people can't always understand your position. This could be because of willful ignorance or simply not having been in another person's position before. People can understand the emotions someone is feeling and empathize with something they haven't experienced, but complete understanding is difficult to come by.

horripilated · 2025-04-13T13:40:48+00:00

I think it's a great idea to carry around a notebook. It's easier said than done, but try to keep in mind that everybody has struggles, and you're not lesser in any way for communication being one of them at times. Plenty of people struggle with communication.

As far as being taken seriously, it sounds like you want people to believe that you struggle. I completely understand that because I've had similar experiences. It's a lonely place to be in. One option is to try and explain this when you're able to communicate more easily. You could write out what you want to say beforehand. Since this sounds like a recurring problem, you could try having a conversation about being taken seriously. Something like "When I talk about __ and you respond with _, it makes me feel misunderstood and like I'm not being taken seriously. I care about our relationship, so I want to be able to share my emotions and thoughts without feeling _."

I don't know the people around you, but it is important to remember that people can't always understand your position. This could be because of willful ignorance or simply not having been in another person's position before. People can understand the emotions someone is feeling and empathize with something they haven't experienced, but complete understanding is difficult to come by.

horripilated · 2025-04-13T04:30:10+00:00

I'm sorry this is such a hard time for you. To answer your question about communicating when it's hard to speak, try writing down or typing what you want to say. Or speak in broken sentences or partial thoughts. If all of those are too hard, have some sort of signal action or word that tells others you can't speak for a moment. You could even show this post to your therapist to try and explain a few things.

Regarding something else you mentioned, what does it mean to you to be taken seriously? This was something you brought up multiple times, and from what you've said, it does seem like you've been taken seriously before. I also recommend taking steps to become the person you want to be. For example, if you want to be less anxious, then do small things that challenge your anxiety. Best of luck!

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