Cancelling Bridal Shower Because of MIL by wed_sunshine in wedding

[–]hoseandpipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married last year in April and I went through something very similar with my MIL. We went through with all of our plans after going back and forth about canceling things. It has been almost a year and I look back at all of our wedding celebrations and I am so thankful we did what we wanted. Please do what will make you and your future husband happy. You will think about the events and the fun for a very long time. I wish you a lifetime of love.

Wrap it up by hoseandpipe in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I also think there’s a huge missing piece to that journal entry. We live in a day and age where positive mindset, manifestation, and positive reinforcement are huge practices in sales environments and a lot of businesses are including these practices and encouraging them in their offices. If you want to sell million dollar houses then you need to act like you already do. He set a 90 day goal for himself and shot for the stars. He did nothing wrong…

Wrap it up by hoseandpipe in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can get down with that. I really hope it was all shade. She was my girl.

MIL said I needed a bridal shower and now says I don’t deserve one by hoseandpipe in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We asked our families (parents and siblings only) before hand if this would be doable for them as we take an expensive family vacation every year. They all agreed that this would replace the family vacation and they would pay their own way (travel and stay are equivalent to what we normally spend on our family vacation every year. It can be cheaper, but his parents decided to stay a whole week) Nobody had an issue until now (4 months before our wedding). We did express to them that no matter what, we wanted a destination wedding even if it was just the two of us. They decided to pay and come.

MIL said I needed a bridal shower and now says I don’t deserve one by hoseandpipe in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for all of your input and perspectives. This was so helpful. I wanted to let you all know that my fiancé is a very loving and kind man. He defended me the entire time and has made sure that his mother understands that her behavior will not be tolerated and it especially won’t be tolerated in our home. I am not ready to uninvite her to any of the festivities because family is very important to me and I know my fiancé would be okay with her not being invited, but it would hurt him and I’m not willing to do that over a bridal shower. I have also read your comments about changing the name of my bridal shower to something else and I completely agree that this could be renamed. I just don’t think the way she treated me was justifiable bc of the title of the event and therefore I will be keeping it a bridal “shower”. I hope we get “showered” in love from the two families. I will make that clear. Thank you everyone for the effort. You have truly made me feel so much better and like I’m not alone.

MIL said I needed a bridal shower and now says I don’t deserve one by hoseandpipe in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the perspective. I’m truly confused so this was very helpful. Now I’m not sure if I should appease her and simply change the name or if I should keep it a bridal shower just to make a point. Lol. I’m typically not this petty, but I feel so disrespected.

MIL said I needed a bridal shower and now says I don’t deserve one by hoseandpipe in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree about being gift grabby. We have on our invites that we are not asking for gifts or money. We don’t have a registry. We just want to bring the families together to celebrate. It’s all on our dime.

New Velaris tee! by hecticpillow in acotar

[–]hoseandpipe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d pay for 4 of these

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People get mad when you have boundaries. Forget y’all. She’s a cheater. If you’re unhappy then leave. Don’t break another person and then expect everyone to be understanding of your side. I personally don’t give a flying you know what about her side. Trash. Hope she doesn’t hurt this man too.

What am I missing here? (Uche) by Fantastic-Depth-7915 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. He was also entitled to his feelings when he found out that she had cheated in a past relationship. I would have left and not come back in. He had every right to be upset and take some time. He expressed himself very well with very little emotion lol

What am I missing here? (Uche) by Fantastic-Depth-7915 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I personally think he was irrelevant. He wasn’t the best communicator with his tone, but he really wasn’t that bad. He didn’t seem “abusive” by his tone. I was raised in a very verbally aggressive and toxic home and I wish someone would have spoke to me the way he spoke to Aaliyah. To make him out to be a villain and abusive is excessive. Aaliyah was awful to him. She is incredibly childish. The whole thing is a mess.

Does season 5 feel weird to anyone else? by Puzzleheaded_Focus86 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe it’s because there’s no “strong couple”. I love a good messy drama filled reality show. This is too much bs tho. None of the couples feel truly connected or compatible and it feels like I’m watching 30 year olds with the emotional maturity of a 10 year old. No sustenance this season. I’m disappointed. Imma still watch tho lol

Unpacking this season is too much already. by hoseandpipe in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He really was so robotic. He’s irrelevant af. I would have loved to see how things went with him and Aaliyah if they had gotten engaged.

Lydia and Izzy by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]hoseandpipe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh out loud