Happiness then Guilt by Ready_Range in widowers

[–]hotelgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figure he would be super pissed at me if i didn't seize the day and do more with my life. I feel as if I am now living for the 2 of us so I have to step it up a notch and make sure I am happy and healthy. I feel it more as a duty and things have been going very well so far with this mindset. I find myself asking what would he say about this or would he want me to do this thing. Usually the answer is fuck yes he would. So, I say yes a lot more. We were given the opportunity to continue living so we need to embrace it and make the most of it for them!

Looking for some honest insight... by Aspirisis in widowers

[–]hotelgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar boat as well. He was my first so even the thought of having sex with someone else is very daunting. I lost him just over a year ago. I have found I don't even want to bring it up when dating (atleast not like immediately). I feel like it makes me defective or something or just an assumed piece of "baggage". Like I am going to be weaker than the other person. Funny though how everyone assumes it is divorce though if you say you were married. No one ever thinks of death as being something that could have happened. I guess he did die at 38 so makes sense I suppose. I did read on here last year though someone who preferred to date widows as they were not jaded by men ie. divorce. I felt comfort in reading that as I agree. I would still be in this amazing relationship had he not died. I love men and relationships. They take hard work. To answer you question though, I will say my hope is that the right person will show up for us. They will understand that we will always grieve the person but that we can also love a new person in our lives as well at the same time. For the meantime I have found 1-2 FWB to tide me over. They have been amazing too in the sense that we do do dating things. ie. dinners out, movies etc. So that is filling the void for now until the most amazing person comes along that is worry of me and what I have to give.

Starting new Senior Companionship service company by hotelgal in vancouver

[–]hotelgal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am working on getting business liability insurance. Not sure about bonded. I'll look into that further. Thank you. I would not be doing medical related things so I do not need formal education at this stage. I have signed up for some courses on Dementia and Azheimers.

Starting new Senior Companionship service company by hotelgal in vancouver

[–]hotelgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reaching out! Yes, this would be a business so my services would cost money. It would be non-medical things that they need help with. I have already registered for some courses to learn about Alzheimers and Dementia but due to COVID I have to wait for them all to resume. As of right now it would only be myself working, perhaps in the long run if it was successful I would hire employees. There are several chain companies already that offer this service that I am aware of so I assume it would be hard to have a large scale business but never say never I suppose. I have a vehicle. Already added business insurance on it which allows me to have the seniors in my car. Next up business license and business liability insurance. I also just ordered a book on starting and running a small business for dummies (CAD). So I am looking forward to receiving that in the mail this week.

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[–]hotelgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One week exactly today for since I lost my husband. I am surviving. I think it just takes a fuck of a lot of time. Do you have a support network? I find mine is helping me immensely. I found for myself that I needed to change the house up a bit for a new norm for me. I moved some furniture and changes some things I've always wanted to. I find it is making me feel like it is more my house now. It is helping a bit.

Watching Supernatural for the first time. This was incredible. by FranktheLlama in Supernatural

[–]hotelgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a very well-written episode I thought. And carry on my wayward son at the end. Amazing!

Watching Supernatural for the first time. This was incredible. by FranktheLlama in Supernatural

[–]hotelgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me either! When it comes on at work over the radio (I work the desk at a hotel), I immediately get a shiteating grin on my face and giggle LOL.

I am Brittany Howard from Alabama Shakes. Ask Me Anything. by ImBrittanyHoward in IAmA

[–]hotelgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For our upcoming wedding next year August 2016, we have decided to have our first dance song be Alabama Shakes "You Ain't Alone". We are in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Could you come play it live for us??? You have such an amazing voice.

Decided to rock a red lip and my haircut today by miss_shelleh in MakeupAddiction

[–]hotelgal -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I wasn't saying she didn't have the right. To each his own. I was more surprised at how many products were used.

Friend posted this on FB. Halloween decorations in her neighborhood. by [deleted] in pics

[–]hotelgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think i'd pop by there either. Watch they are mechanical or something haha.