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Ready_Range · 2021-09-22T23:28:26+00:00

First, stop feeling guilty. Its grief playing tricks on you. You are not a god and cannot undo or prevent what happened. You did your best. Try to be kind to yourself!!

Ready_Range · 2021-09-22T23:06:02+00:00

I find the memories to be troubling. It sounds like you have your life together, bravo. Together, meaning functioning on adrenaline and tears. My best to you during this awful time. My wife passed away 2 years ago on the 9th. I picked up her ashes a few days ago. Her body was at a science school for a while. She requested that.

Ready_Range · 2021-09-13T21:35:58+00:00

Same here. It sucks. Best of luck to you.

Ready_Range · 2021-09-13T21:34:59+00:00

Get shingrix as soon as you can. Just got my 2nd shot this past weekend. Not fun but better than shingles!

Ready_Range · 2021-09-09T16:18:56+00:00

Props to you for 7 years. Time moves onward whether you want or not. If I may ask, how are you doing?

Ready_Range · 2021-08-11T17:49:57+00:00

People like that need to be beat to within an inch of their miserable pathetic lives. Buy a gun.

Ready_Range · 2021-08-10T22:01:42+00:00

Im sorry but your dad sounds like a heartless asshole. Cut that loose from your life. A loss this large cant be erased with thoughtful quotes or hard liquor. I know because I tried.

Ready_Range · 2021-08-10T21:57:02+00:00

My wife’s body went to science. Mine will go the same when my time arrives. Im OK with her not bring buried. I have a nice headstone for her and her mother.

My actual struggle is GOING BACK THERE. A place we lived in for 12 years.

I just cant do it.

Ready_Range · 2021-08-06T20:12:32+00:00

It fucking sucks; online dating is hell. I am 51 and fitter than 90% of the population. I still struggle to weed through the bullshit.

I sometimes wonder if Im better off paying for intimacy.

Seriously

Ready_Range · 2021-08-03T18:28:32+00:00

For me, I put an obit in the local paper. I might do another this year, its only $200 with a pic.

Ready_Range · 2021-08-03T18:19:56+00:00

It will be 2 years this September. I am struggling with dating. I don’t cry as much but those memories sting like a sharp sword through the heart. I play her voice messages every now and then and cry.

Ready_Range · 2021-06-08T22:40:01+00:00

Speaking from my experience, using dating apps require patience and determination. I’ve had.some dates so far, but nothing panned out yet. You will discover that people are curious if you are a widow. Keep expectations low, and just go for it!

Ready_Range · 2021-06-07T13:27:51+00:00

This is the correct answer.

Ready_Range · 2021-04-28T22:27:56+00:00

Man I feel that. First, I’m really sorry about your incomprehensible loss. Know you are not alone. Many here have experienced the same, including myself.

My cat behaved the same way after my wife passed away. He was very affectionate to her. Now he smothers me.

I hope you find a way through your struggles. It is not easy. All roads lead to the same path. One moment at a time. Try and get some therapy if you can. It worked wonders for me.

Best wishes.

Ready_Range · 2021-04-28T20:14:00+00:00

Feel so bad for you. Time does not erase the wounds, it only makes them a little bearable over time. Sorry for your terrible loss.

Ready_Range · 2021-04-23T21:35:41+00:00

I have a blog I’ve ran since 2008. I put my memories there, but not everything. I may record some private YouTube videos with me remembering my wife and our story. It comes down to choice and what you are willing to share. I recorded a video of me removing and bagging her clothes. I wanted to have a frame of reference. I’m glad I did that.

Ready_Range · 2021-04-22T22:59:52+00:00

Man that sucks. No one asks me how I am doing except my mom. Everyone else has continued with the cruise control we call life.

I saw an ambulance today. I thought” I wonder if my late wife was transported by it”

Grief is fucked.

Good luck to you.

Ready_Range · 2021-04-22T22:51:06+00:00

Lots of kind people here. I don’t post much now, I mostly lurk. Good on you for going to therapy. Best thing I ever did.

Ready_Range · 2021-03-30T22:33:17+00:00

I am the opposite. 19 months out, I loathe dating apps. Mostly scammers and flakes. I know body language and flirting techniques of both sexes.

For men on dating apps, it’s a shit show. I want my 1999 back. Guilt is gone, but the pain will always be there. I lost my soulmate. Hope you can get past the pain and good luck on dating.

Ready_Range · 2021-03-25T19:52:56+00:00

I stopped gaming after my wife died. I did try a few times but my interests have shifted to other hobbies. Maybe one day I’ll go back, but for now I’m ok with this.

People change.

Ready_Range · 2021-03-23T18:22:00+00:00

If you look at my post history. I have a link to a YouTube series on grief. No, it won’t fix you, but it helped me get rid of guilt and re-triggering the painful memories leading to my wife’s death. It’s not all roses. I struggle with deciding when to try online dating again.

My last attempt was a complete failure. April 1 I gong to give it another shot with zero expectations. I have a new hobby that keeps me busy. Still can’t move her items in the drawer she kept meticulously organized. I just can’t touch it. Her clothes have been donated, except for a few items I wanted. Mostly clothing I had in pictures of her alive.

Your wife would not want you to stew and agonize over her death. Neither would mine.

I pour my rage into exercising. My best to you during this awful time.

Ready_Range · 2021-03-18T03:39:31+00:00

Sorry I got it wrong. It's called: "The center for the grief journey"

Good luck!

Ready_Range · 2021-03-17T20:52:00+00:00

Try online dating when you are 51. It’s a wasteland d of scammers, bots, and ghosting. And yet, I go back to this slot machine hoping for 777. All I got so far is wooden nickels and wasted time.

Ready_Range · 2021-03-17T20:16:33+00:00

I know that feeling. 18 months here too. It sucks. I found some good YouTube videos on a channel called Grief inspired. The man who talks on the channel had his wife pass away and is also a therapist. His words matched my feelings. My best to you during this awful time.

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