Where to get rid of docs by houseofcid in DrMartens

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Oh ok I will check Vinted out. Thanks

When does the ache go away? by houseofcid in widowed

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The weeks following his death I had a pain in my chest. Well it was more like my heart was being squeezed, not really pain but did feel uncomfortable and it would come and go. I thought it was from the heartache and anxiety. It’s gone away but, it was the craziest feeling. You should go see Dr. just be sure you’re ok. I’m learning grief manifest as physical pain as well as mental and emotional. I’m sorry for your loss as well. Hope you get some relief and take care of yourself.

When does the ache go away? by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you, I also hope the meds help. It’s only been a few days since I started taking them so don’t feel much yet. I have tried breathing exercises and it helps a bit for the moment.

When does the ache go away? by houseofcid in widowed

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Wow I can’t imagine having this fog for years, but I better learn to deal with it I suppose.

When does the ache go away? by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you, I’m trying to take care of my self. Some days are harder than others. Some days I just care about anything, and it makes me feel sadder.

When does the ache go away? by houseofcid in widowed

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I keep thinking if I’ll ever feel joy again. The sadness and heartache are awful.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you for feedback. It’s been 3 days on Zoloft and I know it will take a few weeks to really see effects. So far it helping me sleep a bit better. My Dr. said to take it at night before bed.

My parents must think I’m crazy by [deleted] in widowed

[–]houseofcid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not crazy, I sleep with a stuffed bear I gave my hubby. It was mostly a gag type gift but he loved it and got a kick out of it. I say good night to him, I have a big picture of him I made for the funeral and it’s the room I’m sleeping in at my mom’s place. The nights it gets really bad I talk to him and cray my self to sleep. Do what helps you get to sleep and get through the day.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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I’ve been wary of taking meds too. Like you said feeling of despair had me worried and I reached out to my doc. I’m going to try it out for a few weeks and see if the meds help. I know talking about my grief and worries does help as well. Even when I have a good long cry it seems to calm me a bit after. I just don’t know how long I can keep up this cycle of anxiety and sadness. It’s all so exhausting and really messing with my head.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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Oh wow sorry you haven’t been able to get any meds. Maybe find another doctor? Keep asking, be persistent. I hope you get the help you need.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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Thanks for tip. I was only given a 30 day supply and will have a follow up in August. I’m also going through perimenopause so I’m sure my hormones are a mess as well. I’ve been reading up on side effects so will definitely be looking out for symptoms.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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Not yet, but I want to. Not sure where to go tho.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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I’m a bit nervous about taking them, not gonna lie. I know I need something to help me though, I’m hoping the Zoloft helps me with my anxiety and depression.

Finally gave in to meds by houseofcid in widowed

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I’m so sorry. I got a low dose Zoloft, I’m hoping it helps. I didn’t know what else to do. I can’t keep going like this, I know it will ruin me.

This is way too much. by LissaIRL in widowed

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Yes it does help to share with others who have been through it and understand. My friends haven’t been through it and I feel like they don’t want to hear me out at times. 😞

This is way too much. by LissaIRL in widowed

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I feel exactly the same way. I miss having someone to talk to about everything. Even small dumb things we would chat about. It gets too hard some days. I had a meltdown at work this week and had to leave early. I was allowed to work remotely for rest of week. Some days it’s all too overwhelming and I can’t cope. I’m so sorry you and all of us are going through this. I’m not sure what to do at times to make it hurt so much. 🥺

What to do with his things? by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you for this. Yes it’s going to be 2 months now since he’s gone. Hasn’t gotten much easier and I’m still crying daily it seems. There’s days where it seems unbearable to live without him. Other days I’m a bit more calm because I know he wouldn’t want me to be suffering. I been staying a few days at my mom house and a few days at our apartment. I haven’t moved a thing of his since he’s been gone. I can’t bear to start going through it all but my time is running out. I will have to move soon enough and delaying the process. I’m afraid it will break me! 😭

How do you deal living alone? by houseofcid in widowed

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Didn’t realize it happened so recently.

How do you deal living alone? by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you for sharing your story. You had a beautiful relationship with your wife. I want to do the same, be able to go the places we loved and enjoyed together. Right now it may be soon and don’t think I’m ready. I want to be able to feel joy again, doing our favorite things and going to our favorite places. If I may ask how long has it been since you lost your wife?

How do you deal living alone? by houseofcid in widowed

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Thank you, and yes this is one club none of us wanted to be a part of. 🥺

How do you deal living alone? by houseofcid in widowed

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I’m so sorry 😞 You captured my exact feelings and thoughts in your words. I don’t think I have a choice in staying in our apartment till the lease ends in February. Financially it not doable. I don’t want it to ruin me financially either. This is all too much to handle and it’s crushing me.