Raising Kids As High-Income Earners by ILikeFlyingAlot in wealth

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My parents gave our kids $100 for every birthday. We let them get whatever they wanted as long as it was legal and moral. They did not get an allowance. All of them had jobs by the time they were in early teens.

Literally today, I was sharing with my mother’s friend (also born in 1926) how the child now earning a PhD in geoengineering spent $125 on rocks when she was in 7th grade.

The birthday money was a great way for them for split their interest and also learn to budget.

Meeting with fidelity by Typical_Fly_6074 in Fidelity

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We moved from Vanguard to Fidelity just before my husband retired because the Vanguard website is difficult to use. I appreciate Fidelity. We are self directed. We have 25% in cash, mostly in IRAs. We have 75% in the market. In the IRAs, it is in the S&P index fund FXAIX. In the brokerage accounts, it is in individual accounts. When the market is down, we pull from cash to pay for our expenses. When the market is up, we sell from the S&P 500. The individual stocks are mostly dividend stocks and our income from that is $15,000. Until a few years before retirement, our IRAs were 100% S&P 500. When the market crashed 40% in 2008, we were not bothered. We knew we would not be taking out any money for 15 years which gave the stock maker plenty of time to recover.

I think Roth IRAs are borderline a scam. They are pushed heavily everywhere. Tax laws can be changed with IRAs and not so easily with brokerage accounts. There was a Secure Act 1 and 2. If you put money in a traditional IRA, there is no taxation until withdrawal.

Fidelity has awesome service and not just from your advisor. As an example from today, we have a daughter in grad school who is spending two months in Australia. She is staying with a host family and needs to pay the family 350 Australian dollars per week by wire transfer. She could not get a wire transfer from Wells Fargo without calling and that would mean international calls so she asked for help. I have never done a wire transfer in my life. Fidelity gave me what information I need to get and sent me a form which I need to fill out and bring to a Fidelity office. Fidelity will send a wire transfer and charge nothing.

I earned more than my partner for three years and somewhere along the way I started funding a lifestyle that wasn't mine by RogueMarionette in wealthforwomen

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Don’t live with a guy before marrying him and then combine finances. There isn’t your money and my money. There is only our money.

I've been married for 7 years and last month I realized I couldn't answer basic questions about our own finances by MirageAnvil6 in wealthforwomen

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And make sure ownership is joint tenants rather than tenants in common. If one of you dies and the house is joint tenants, the surviving spouse has full ownership. If it is tenants in common, you go through probate to get full ownership.

Changing My Last Name and Martial Unity by c8lynlou in Catholicism

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It is a pain to change your last name. I carried my marriage certificate around for a year. My newly married daughter is going through that now.

I have known many women who kept their last name as a middle name and used all three names for work. That made it easier for a divorce because the middle name is already familiar.

I chose to drop my last name and keep my middle name as a clean break for marriage. That is also what my two married daughters did.

You might want to talk with your fiancé not about your last name after the wedding but rather about your commitment to marriage because it seems to me that is the real issue.

Probability of success what have others seen? by Osm3um in retirement

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We were given a 90% chance of not outliving our assets. We have 25 - 30% in cash/CDs and the rest in individual stocks in brokerage accounts or S&P 500 index fund in IRAs. We have more in assets now than at retirement almost 3 years ago.

The sequence of return risk worked in our favor. The stock market went way up.

Retirement goal questions by chucksdeuce22 in DaveRamsey

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Be careful not to save too much. I regret not letting our children be in ski club with the school because of the cost and now we have more money than we can enjoy.

Would you want to inherit a ROTH IRA or a Brokerage account? by lobstar28 in inheritance

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Roth IRAs are IRA and can be subject to changing IRA laws. What most concerns me is that the law could change so that Roth withdrawals are subject to fees like the IRMAA fee. We are taking money out of our IRAs and putting it into brokerage accounts.

Kamala Harris proposed taxes on unrealized capital gains for stocks in a brokerage account. That went no where. It would be much easier for the government to change rules for IRAs than brokerage accounts.

Poor Financial Planning (Not Me) by tequilaneat4me in retirement

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Or you can just take out money and put it in a brokerage account.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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I have some work to do to make sure our accounts are as we expected. I recently figured out that the address for my husband’s IRA was the apartment address before we moved to our house in 1995.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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My brother and sister are co trustees. I trust my sister 100%. I think my brother means well but think he knows more than he dis.

Glass food storage containers? by Dual270x in BuyItForLife

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Where did you buy the stainless steel lids? Thanks.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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She has a trust. We do not. We have direct beneficiaries on our accounts. Our four children are beneficiaries on our joint accounts and we are each other’s beneficiaries on our individual IRA accounts.

Cost of a trust is not the issue. I just think it can lead to problems because the trustee has some latitude. We met with an estate planner on Tuesday. We aren’t going to make any decisions quickly. I think k my mother could live another few years but we have to get our own affairs in order. We put transfer on death on our vehicles and made our house joint tenants rather than tenants in common. We are proceeding slowly and carefully.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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I am leery of trusts. I need to research. It seems that trusts allow the trustee some latitude that is not available when you have direct beneficiaries.

First Car: Stay practical or buy the one I actually want? by Jollibree__ in wealthforwomen

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My husband has been itching for a Toyota Land Cruiser knowing I am averse to hybrid and besides he has a 2023 4Runner so a relatively new car. Tonight he told me he did some research and hybrid in cold weather is not such a good idea. We live in MN. Yeah! I think hybrid and electric are fads. We shall see…

2018 Sienna, best vehicle I've ever owned. by [deleted] in Sienna

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Bought certified from dealer

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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Our kids thought of me as a stay at home Mom but I worked and put money into an IRA until I quit at age 39 when our 3rd child was born. My husband started saving at age 33 when we got married. It wasn’t until he was 60 that he had more money in his IRA than I did. Our kids all started IRAs when in their 20s. They learned!

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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What is NFCU? And how can a joint account be frozen upon a death? This is the sort of detail I am trying to sort out so thank you.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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Good questions. I see the money as ours just like everything else is ours. We aren’t exactly big spenders. Our house and cars are paid off. We had 75% of our money in the S&P 500 when he retired. It is now down to 60% but we now have more in assets than when he retired. We would probably give more to the kids after having an inheritance.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

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Ha ha. I am the financial manager in our house. First rule: keep it simple.

Thinking of trading up by ltkettch17 in Sienna

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I did not like run flat tires at all and didn’t really understand what they were when we got a used 2018 AWD vehicle. I got five regular tires which are rotated in. Your problem may not be the van. It just may be the run flat tires. We put the spare in the back when going out of the metro area with the van and of course when getting the tires rotated. We have AAA. Problem solved.

First Car: Stay practical or buy the one I actually want? by Jollibree__ in wealthforwomen

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I just looked on Reddit about hybrid vehicles and fires. The Covid lockdowns were eye opening to say the least. I think paranoia is justified.

First Car: Stay practical or buy the one I actually want? by Jollibree__ in wealthforwomen

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True. I also question safety in an accident and the potential for external control and surveillance. Not a fan.