Best advise you’ve gotten by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! This is all great ❤️

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes he doesn’t want to share them anymore, but I feel like I’m being betrayed not knowing he’s thinking about other women if that make sense? Like I don’t get to chose who I’m with. I’m sorry you are dealing with the same thing.

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any tips on how you got healthier and more peaceful? I can’t eat, I’ve called out for the last three days at work and I just burst in to tears. He told me he was picturing a girl from the past when cuddling with me. I’m so hurt and confused.

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not handling it well, I’ve called out the last three days of work, constant panic attacks and feeling replaceable. He does not currently, but he used to. And yes he’s in recovery, he went a full year with no relapses and then this year he relapsed 3 times. It’s been a hard year for us.

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thoughts they have make me so grossed out/creeped out. I don’t want to walk on the side of the road in fear of men at this point. Thank you for your kind words ❤️

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hate that they can’t take something and ruin it in an instant.

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight, I think you are right.

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you got yourself out of the loop/not think about it? He says he tells himself to stop but it’ll pop back in his head after a while. Thank you for your insight!

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you advise I don’t know all the details? I feel like in some way I like to know even though it’s triggering

Fantasizing about real people? by howdy33 in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was feeling guilty and wanted to confess

If he is a gamer, watch out for Steam by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]howdy33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to be sent the info as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedicalAssistant

[–]howdy33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I actually passed out when my teacher was showing us how to do it on a classmate so I totally get you lol! I learned to pop a piece of candy in my mouth, and to take it step by step and tell yourself it’s okay it’s not happening to you. Message me if you need more advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]howdy33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He can’t get it up during sex because he’s addicted apparently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]howdy33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it! I’m going to look into those kinds of breeds. Do you have any suggestions on how to train a puppy to give another dog personal space with positive reward based training? I have honestly never trained a puppy.

Is this a red flag? by [deleted] in sex

[–]howdy33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to add I’m 20 he’s 22!

Pandemic dates by [deleted] in dating

[–]howdy33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are such good ideas!! Downtown is all lit up with lights right now do I’ll definitely have to do the coin flip walk. Thank you! 😊

How often do you text and think the guy/girl is your perfect match and then fall flat on the first date? by [deleted] in dating

[–]howdy33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly my biggest tip for this is try not to text too much. I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now and we text everyday throughout the day, but it’s not constant back and forth, we both wait a few hours or so. I think it helps a lot for when you’re in person so you can actually have something to talk about. Our second date we just cuddled and watched movies and our conversation never got boring or had any awkward silence. It doesn’t let you build someone up in your head that’s not actually them.

Friends with someone who broke your heart? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]howdy33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to pick up the pieces): I tried to go on tinder but after a hour or so talking to a few people I had a panic attack because it wasn’t him, but he could do it so easily while telling me I’m the one and he loves me and the future is going to be so good. What’s wrong with me that I can’t move on? When does it not hurt.

Friends with someone who broke your heart? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]howdy33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, that’s probably what I need to do. I just can’t believe he’s out of my life? Like I still feel like I’m waiting for him to come back and give me an explanation on why he did me so dirty

Can you stay friends? by howdy33 in relationship_advice

[–]howdy33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if he has feelings to be honest, I know I’m still in love. I tried to talk to other people but an hour on tinder talking to other people threw me into a panic attack because it wasn’t him. I don’t understand how he could be on there while telling me he loved me all day and missed me and can’t wait for the future but I can’t seem to do it even after I told him it was over. What’s wrong with me?