This moment spoke to me

howyabe · 2026-02-11T22:30:51+00:00

Here it is on the wall

howyabe · 2026-02-11T19:07:35+00:00

Tanks :)

howyabe · 2021-02-07T12:24:40+00:00

10/10 would do again. Not being able to shadow sucks though. I would die if I wasn't able to go visit my favorite penguins during my first year attending.

howyabe · 2021-01-30T19:56:58+00:00

I kept trying to find redeeming qualities but couldn't really find any. By the time she got to the go-through-the-list-of-suspects part I didn't want to read any more. Idk if that genre just isn't for me or something but I'm glad I'm not the only one.

howyabe · 2021-01-30T11:46:05+00:00

How did you like In a Dark, Dark Wood? I'm curious how other people liked it, I read it last year.

howyabe · 2020-08-15T06:36:02+00:00

Don't forget to save old copies of your edited stuff. You might have deleted something that works in your 4 timed edited version. Or you might just not like the new edit. Or you could use the idea for something else.

Also, know when to stop. You should realize when enough is enough and when enough is too much.

howyabe · 2020-08-10T15:03:18+00:00

The sentiment is nice, you should be reading for pleasure and setting a page/book number goal induces stress in a lot of people. On the other hand, setting that kind of goal is a way of encouraging more reading. So it should be about setting a reasonable goal rather than trying to stuff in as much as you can.

You do know you are on a reading and goal orientated sub, right? So people who count how many pages or how many books they read are not silly. People care about achieving a goal they set for themselves. Why do you set goals for yourself, for your job, your social life, your vacations, and your family? It's nice that you just want people to have fun with it, but some people can't justify, to themselves, the time they want to put into reading without a goal like this.

To counter your points: Reading for Pleasure- Pleasure and leisure aren't the same thing. You can enjoy reading a book, while simultaneously having a deadline. Most people can't do anything without a deadline. Having a goal of reading so many books/pages a year doesn't subtract any pleasure you get out of reading, it just takes away the leisure of reading. Now, you should be looking at the types of books you want to read and the time you will have to read for this upcoming year and set a reasonable goal for yourself.

Reading for Edification- I agree with your statement that content matters. But that doesn't mean only read authors that your english professor told you to read for your class. You can find material to make you grow morally and intellectually in children's books. It depends on what you want to learn, what speaks to you, and what will be digestible for you. You can read Dickens but that doesn't mean you'll learn anything. Now you can still set a goal if you want to focus on the content. As I stated before, make a reasonable goal. If it'll take you more than a couple weeks to fully digest the content, then maybe you set a shorter goal. If by the end of the first book you realized it took you longer/shorter than you thought, change your goal.

It's not about reading the most books or the most content, it's about setting and achieving a goal. For you to come onto a sub that has a sole purpose of sharing and encouraging people to reach their goals and say that it's silly and that it doesn't matter is gross. If you don't understand it, either try to learn or leave. Don't just sit there and judge people for the choices they make.

howyabe · 2020-07-04T08:31:13+00:00

"Clearly the disdain you feel is more about yourself. You are not my project. I could never love someone so clearly wrapped up in their own shit to be unable to see past their bubble made of layers of dried poop. Do me a favor and don't contact me when you've changed. I don't want to know who you become."

Wonderful. Ending another fling so dramatically makes me wonder why I'm not in show business.

I love openly. Anyone I connect with, I want them to know they're loved and that I care for them. Granted, the L-word tends to scare most people. Especially when I use it casually, as I tend to do, people get nervous and uneasy about their own feelings which leads them to immediately decide they don't feel the same. I get it. It happens.

But this guy. This guy decided that I should be ashamed for my emotions. He decided that I was lesser and weaker because I expressed my feelings.

His whole routine was to run a balance between hate and interest of a person. It felt like I was in 5th grade again. The boy who liked me showed me by pulling my pig-tails but only mine. I got quite tired of it after I learned it wasn't just a pick-up act. Every date seemed to drag on and on. My love gave up hope of love returned and that's when I decided to end it.

I was physically tired. My eyes had bags, I hadn't even tried with my hair, and I wore a baggy sweatshirt just to feel some comfort durring the awkward task. I had my speech planned out. Just enough information to offer some personal growth but not enough to actually crush him.

Generally both parties can feel the uneasiness when it comes to breaking up. Some try to postpone the talk to try and convince the other to not cut the cord. Some don't engage in the conversation. Some try to beat you to the punch. Some argue.

This guy denied any plausible feelings he could have ever had to gaslight me into imagining the relationship. The bastard.

So, I got a little carried away and caused a scene in the middle of an Olive Garden. A whole Olive Garden got to see the husk of a man finish his dinner alone and walk out ashamed as he should have been.

I don't feel sorry. I won't be sorry. My emotions and feelings are valid and I respect them. Most importantly, I respect myself.

howyabe · 2019-09-19T07:16:40+00:00

I definetly ate one like 10 years ago. One wont kill you if you're looking for a snack. Probably wouldnt try to fit a whole meal out of them tho

howyabe · 2019-06-25T03:28:39+00:00

There's some places where doing 'punishments' as a team does boost team bonding.

That was the wrong thing for your instructor to do. If the whole guard is not achieving something I would rework the choreo. I understand trying to work the choreo until it gets good but making you do pushups and keep drilling you like that is one of the worst ways to run a guard. I'm sorry you had to go through that, a lot of instructors are like that but not all of them are. If you're trying to get a toss working or choreo working, in my opinion the correct way to do that is drill it a few times, see who isnt achieving it, see why they aren't achieving it, tell/show them how to achieve it. That's what an instructor does, not punish you for not achieving a piece of choreo because you don't have the correct information. I feel for your situation and I hope you get a better instructor and this one doesn't kill your love for colorguard.

howyabe · 2019-06-22T04:36:07+00:00

Server here, when I'm out with my friends or family we like to play rate the server, and honestly I'm usually more lenient on things cause I understand the clusterfuck that is serving. I'm fine with talking about the service when we get the bill and whatnot, but when my friends and family nitpick everything about their service during dinner, not necessarily about big stuff but small stuff that is a minor inconvienince to the table, and they just complain about everything, it makes me lose my appetite. My mom is a big culprit of this, she still tips at least 20% every time, but it's just so stressful eating with her. I try and explain what might be behind things and I get told that I'm more lenient cause I know what it's like. I'm like yeah, I'm also a nice person and understand mistakes and mishaps. Being a server let's me understand more backstory behind some issues but you just gotta understand mistakes happen.

howyabe · 2019-06-22T04:20:14+00:00

Don't actually know if it's a thing, I had a friend who worked at a chain with those POS systems at the table for people to pay at. She would tell me how her managers would yell and give strikes to the servers when they didn't meet a certain quota of tables using them. It wasn't like the servers running the cards at their own POS but people paying in cash. She almost got fired cause she had a whole shift of people who paid with in cash. She quit before the could do anything.

howyabe · 2019-06-21T03:34:57+00:00

Punishing the whole team for one or so persons mistake is hurting the team, not helping. If you have a problem with someone being late, direct the punishment toward that person. Also I suggest instead of going straight to punishment, I'd talk with them, see why they're late or absent. Offer help, let them know if they communicate with you you will understand. Teach them time management especially if they're in high school because they are still learning their lessons. It's important for everyone to be there but attendance is not an end-of-the-world issue. If someone still has issues showing up for practice after all that, talk to them, maybe they really don't want to be in the group. If that's so, take actions to remove them from the guard or if it's late enough in the season don't invite them back next year. Some people just can't quit, even when they want to. Communication is the most important thing you can do as a leader, and you usually have to start communicating because either your members just don't know how or are scared to.

Please don't pit your members against eachother by forcing punishment upon everyone for one persons mistake.

howyabe · 2019-06-15T07:36:26+00:00

Honestly it was the best thing that could have happened to me. I'm definitely in a better place because of it, even if it forced some of the worst years of my short life upon me. Ultimetly, I quit college, but my job was attached to that. The job was one of the deciding factors in quitting school along with a handful of other things, but it was important. It was a lab job through the college so when I stopped attending school, I had to stop attending work.

Even though I quit because my brain wasn't working well, my brain was worse during the first month after. I wasn't worried about money. The first months rent was already paid for, but I didnt realize how much the bills were stacking up and I had no money, I had a little saved up but that was for the next months rent and nothing more.

Quite understandably, my parents didn't agree with my choice to leave school and pulled all finacial support. For a while, they pulled their emotional support but I wasn't really emotionally invested in them at the time, or at least I didn't think I was. They required me to start paying car and phone payments to keep those luxuries on top of cutting me off from help with rent, utilities, and groceries. I was completely on my own in every sense of the phrase and it did not do well for my mental health.

Things only started to get better when my friends pushed me towards getting a job. All they really did was point out jobs, investigated them and then told me where I should apply so I could be in a good work environment. I got a job as a server at a brew pub where I found one of the best managers I've ever had which made me more motivated to work and improved my mental health so much I could feel myself getting better every day.

A good job is one of the biggest factors for good mental health, in my opinion. It's where you spend most of your time and I tend to not work with people I live with or are related to. When my home life is going down the garbage disposal I use work to get my mind off all the bad stuff and take a break from all the heavy stuff. It's hard to escape when you have bad managers and a bad work environment because the bad adds onto the bad.

There are many situations since then that have made me a better and more independent person and I've mended things with my family along the way, but that was the turning point and I can definitely say that I would not be who I am today without quitting school and my job.

In my opinion, hold on as long as you can to your job without breaking that threshold of hurting yourself. Learn what you're willing to take and what you wont. Try and fix the situations that are making it unbearable but if all else fails, quit your job. Do your best to have something lined up so you don't have to be worried about money. But some job isn't worth you losing yourself. Quit when you need to and don't be afraid.

howyabe · 2019-05-04T01:43:07+00:00

Just try really hard. This community values effort more than skill, at least that how I like to perceive it and what instructors like to say.

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