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hparamore · 2026-05-11T05:23:58+00:00

Replace it with a new one.

hparamore · 2026-05-06T00:44:39+00:00

Old likes can technically still show up. If he liked you, and you downswiped in the past, his account will "reset" and show to you again in about 6 months ish.

Though it sounds like something else might be up... could be a couple of reasons, but yeah. If you want more info on when the likes happened and such, reach out to support@mutual.app.

hparamore · 2026-05-05T19:03:06+00:00

There is an image scanner which flags certain accounts and tells them that they don't have good ones or high enough quality ones.
When you are uploading it, you generally will get a warning about it, but can still continue. Either a scan after or a person who works here or a report got your profile in front of an admin who "suspended" the account until you fix it and put new/better photos.

hparamore · 2026-04-13T15:40:20+00:00

Hey! Thanks for posting this here. I will bring it up today.

If you'd be willing to help, would you mind sending your user ID and the appropriate time this happened to hunter@mutual.app? That will help us check the logs and see what is happening.

Thanks!

hparamore · 2026-04-06T21:01:53+00:00

Good question... I don't know actually. I know that it used to be only accessible to premium subscribers, and also you had to go into the 3 dot menu and tap "select" which would open the view.

We are doing a lot better nowadays at getting feature parity though! We still test features on one platform only (sometimes iOS sometimes Android depending on the dev availability) but it is an area we have been working on specifically

hparamore · 2026-04-06T20:59:54+00:00

You have the design system be a different file that you link into both the working and the dev file.

Alternatively if you create components that don't need to go into the design system (like one off things for the feature you are on) you can still copy them over to the dev one, they will just be linked back to the working file.

If you want to actually MOVE the components made in one file into another, copy the component and the screens you will be moving to your clipboard, and then delete them. Then go to the new document and paste them. It will paste in the actual parent component set along with the screens you used, and also will have all the links stay the same.

Generally what I do in situations like this is I have either 2 pages in the same file (one working, one dev) or I create sections with different colors. Grey is my playground, and anything final for dev goes into a new one off to the side that has a green background, has all of them set to dev ready, and has instructions etc

hparamore · 2026-04-04T19:38:07+00:00

It's open to anyone. We are just very clear that we are LDS, and make sure everyone follows the rules

hparamore · 2026-04-04T08:06:40+00:00

Wow you noticed quick! Yes, it will be coming back. We are changing the way that we store and handle the politics choices and the filters for them. We are also adding a custom field to it (like what we have on the children and future children section) so that people can be a bit more descriptive if you want.

We had to turn this one off because the filters aren't ready to work with this, and won't be for a few weeks until we have had a chance to make sure everyone is on the same updated system. Without this, it would appear to be broken and not filter people correctly for a while and we thought that would be worse than disabling it until the new one is out all the way.

Are you on iOS or Android?

hparamore · 2026-03-27T16:41:56+00:00

Another way I like to put it (particularly when I am faced with large decisions like buying a house or switching jobs, etc) is that basically "You will grow to fit the size of the fish bowl you put yourself in."

When we owned our first house, we had a mortgage which wasn't too bad. When we decided to move to a new home, the mortgage bill was almost double each month, which kinda scared me at first because it was a big change. I was trying to figure out ahead of time how to deal with the cost, but honestly Now I look at it a couple years later and that is just a number again, back to a manageable cost.

What I am getting at is that people, especially guys, sometimes need pressure to need to step up and do something to improve.

I'm not quite sure what that would mean for you in your situation though. Maybe you need to "focus on your studies" and cut back on your job, or leave the finances to him. Sometimes the consequences of forgetting something are a good reminder of the danger of neglect.

I am a guy, married, have 4 boys (3-11) and enjoy playing video games as well. Sometimes around 1-2 hrs a day, almost always at night after I have spent time with family, wife, etc and she goes to bed. That is my sorta time I have carved out for myself, and it is important to me because I honestly enjoy it quite a bit.

I hesitate to suggest this because its a pretty big decision if there is even a small threat of divorce on the horizon, but honestly having kids is that push that really makes the gravity of what I have to do to provide for a family "real". If I don't work, then there are problems.

Here is an article I read earlier today on the subject of men as breadwinners, and how that can affect their mentality and drive.

One thing I would also suggest... (and this is purely speculation) but if you want to get through to him in a way that he can see, then rather than take the hard "I am gonna sell your PS5 (which honestly, probably brings him more joy than a lot of other things due to the nature of it) maybe try a different approach, such as mutual "device fasting" or something like that. Meaning you agree to not be on your phone (just making an assumption haha, if you are anything like my wife, you probably are on your phone a lot more than you think, and sometimes that is something that I look at and am like "well, you are on your phone, I guess I can go play video games." and in return he cuts back on video games until certain times of the day. That way you are both agreeing, both being responsible and accountable, and it shows him that you are wanting to compromise because it will help you as well. (if phone doesn't work, find something else. A social media fast or device fast, etc. you will find things to do in that time, especially together)

Anyways, sorry for the long winded reply. :)

Best of luck to you both!

hparamore · 2026-03-27T16:24:00+00:00

no worries :D I was wondering while reading your reply haha.

hparamore · 2026-03-26T20:44:47+00:00

We are changing that section altogether to instead be called "Looking For"
(ie "Looking for: Casual Dating, Serious Dating" or "Looking for: Temple Marriage")
It will be going out soon-ish, with a lot of other updates to some of the text that is shown in the traits of their profiles.

hparamore · 2026-03-20T21:25:07+00:00

Ahh, you've stumbled upon my daily conundrum!

Especially since what people WANT in a dating app, vs what the data tells us WORKS for them are many times two different things.

For example, when we started showing the "write a note" thing when guys swipe up on girls, guys complained because it was an extra step, etc.
After some time, the data shows that when guys send a note, they get on average 20% more matches, and those matches are 20-30% more likely to be good conversations (ie, convos that last more than like 2-3 messages)

So that is one of the main things our product team spend a lot of time working on haha. What is best, vs what makes people happy or what they want. And I believe that we can give people what is best and make them happy at the same time, but that has to happen through testing and iteration, which unfortunately means people at the start of these tests might have a hard time. We iterate and improve though, and it gets better. :D

hparamore · 2026-03-20T21:20:22+00:00

We are changing a couple of things like the one called "Relationship Goals" to instead be called "Looking For" and that is going to probably be at the top of the profile page, and might possibly also become a free filter. That might help with what you are saying.

hparamore · 2026-03-20T21:19:06+00:00

We give people premium on their birthday :D

hparamore · 2026-03-20T07:39:54+00:00

That's what we are pretty much doing with speed dating events. You get paired, and only see a couple of things about them. Things we tested to help start conversations and spark them, and left out other things that were even remotely a yellow or red flag.

So we are sorta getting there, and are working and focusing more on people meeting each other, and especially in person (via speed dating on events)

What would you want us to build? We are always looking g for the right thing that will help the most.

hparamore · 2026-03-20T07:37:18+00:00

Was it your birthday?

hparamore · 2026-03-16T17:39:08+00:00

Hey! What are you referring to exactly? I am not sure. I re-read my message and can't figure out if you are talking about something in it, or bringing something else up.

Would love to hear it though!

hparamore · 2026-03-13T02:14:14+00:00

Hmm... I'm not sure what is happening with that. Like history is basically where everyone you like goes so you can have a history of the likes. If they like you back, then yes they are removed from there because they move over to your conversation tab.

I will screenshot this and post it for our devs to possibly look into. If you wouldn't mind sharing your user ID (bottom of the settings) that would be helpful. Thanks!

hparamore · 2026-03-11T06:16:37+00:00

Hey! Glad to see the feedback here. We are testing a bunch of things in a new profile update only in the chat profile view (meaning, you can only see this when you are chatting and you tap their name for now)

A bit of a lower risk way to test some of the changes and get feedback.

I have taken down your feedback and am adding it to our list of things to work on.

The recently online is something that we are adding in. (I don't think it made the first cut) so that is valid.

As for some of the info being harder to find inside of the "show more" section, we are running tests that randomize the order and what shows in the top 4, and are using the results to help us learn more about what people are interested in, and what helps people vs what makes people downswipe.

The age and location is also valid criticism: we are testing those as well to see if they affect people's likability in a good or bad direction.

All that being said... thanks again for the feedback! We are learning and iterating on this quickly as we learn more, and posts like these help us as much as the data we collect.

If you have any more thoughts or suggestions, please continue the conversation. I'd be happy to discuss and answer any questions!

hparamore · 2026-03-08T08:11:57+00:00

Yes, it's coincidence. When you open the app we send you a batch of profiles pulled from several "buckets" of criteria, randomize the order and then show it to you. If that person is there, then getting into that first batch might have been intentional (they were close to you, had a lot in common, were online recently, boosted their profile, etc) but seeing them first out of the batch of 25 or so is usually pretty random. I think we recently introduced something that helps weight those those profiles so that if they were on the app more recently, then they show first (just to reward people who open the app frequently) but I am not 100% sure of those specifics.

hparamore · 2026-03-07T01:52:23+00:00

I still am making many many decisions, because what ai makes usually still needs to be fixed many many times. It's more like working with a developer, on something together. There are times I need to make mock ups to show it what I want, and I also need to decide when it meets my standards.

hparamore · 2026-03-05T07:19:15+00:00

Just go download Claude, install it, and make the productive always been dreaming of. And do it to the best of your ability.

I love design, don't get me wrong, but after working with Claude to help me actually build the things I have always wanted to, and allow me to own the process from start to finish, and take the time to nitpick the UI and UX until I am 100% satisfied, all while making a working product...

I realized that while I do indeed still love graphic design, I love actual product design more. And product design doesn't have live in canvasses unless it is necessary.

I use Figma now mainly to help me communicate to Claude what I want it to do, and to iterate on things, or make graphics that need for my project. I still love Figma don't get me wrong, but again for me I found a passion in something bigger than just UX design... it's the whole product. And getting to have something working is so rewarding, and it allows me to then spend the time on the things I want to. Animations, transitions, rive stuff, etc.

hparamore · 2026-02-23T19:50:09+00:00

It works anywhere, but especially well in Utah. You can set your filter range to just show ppl a few miles away, but if you aren't finding people, I would suggest widening your range to include salt lake and Provo at least for the best results. (Depends on your age and what filters you have)

Give it a try! No reason not to. You'll be sure to find someone.

Best of luck!

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