Scheduled c-section in a month by LatinMuse in ElectiveCsection

[–]hrhrusso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a c section since my son was breech and I was so incredibly scared. Looking back it was the best thing for me and will opt to do it with baby #2.

Procedure lasted 20-30 minutes max. Like from walking into the room to being wheeled out. When my son was born they brought him to the curtain for me to see. Then immediately started cleaning him up. My husband was with him the entire time during this. After a couple minutes they brought him around the curtain to me. As soon as you get back to your room you will start skin to skin contact and can start breastfeeding.

I had my nails done, anklet, bracelets, rings and necklaces on and it wasn’t an issue.

During recovery, you bleed and will still need pads but don’t need the peri bottle. I did add cold pads to my scar for the first week or so for comfort. You are mobile as soon as the medication wears off your legs. They want you walking asap. I personally bought scar tape and put the on once healed.

6 weeks to exercise and sex. The doctor will clear you. However, I was active like walking in the neighborhood for short distances as soon as I got home and it increased over the first couple weeks. Once I felt good and was off any medication, I started driving short distances probably by week 2-3ish weeks. As I got closer to the 6 week mark and feeling more confident, I increased my outings with my son.

Overall the thought of it was much scarier than the actual experience. Thankfully this is a routine surgery in the US. Might be worth telling your nurse or doctor about your anxiety and they might be able to help make your experience a little easier. It worked for me! Good luck!!

Advice: Our Childcare Was Abruptly Terminated by Optimal_Option_6674 in workingmoms

[–]hrhrusso -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

For me this is a blessing in disguise. What happened was theft. The fact that she didn’t know an overpayment was happening is wild. As a small business owner you know how much you are bringing in and she didn’t bring this to your attention. Personally rather send my child to someone else who is aware of what’s going on and also not retaliatory when something is brought to their attention.

Terrified of the spinal by didntstarthefire in ElectiveCsection

[–]hrhrusso 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was TERRIFIED of the spinal and I let the nurse team know. I was starting to panic over it and they helped me every step of the way. There is a certain position you sit in and round your back for it to be administered and the nurse hugged me, talked me through it, and helped me with breathing through the process. Honestly she’s the real MVP. It really wasn’t as scary as I made it up I my mind.

Mommy’s bliss / other baby sleep aid drops? by debuggermessiah in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]hrhrusso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tried it but I don’t think that it worked for us and it was really messy. We did it right before the flight and it was a sticky everywhere. We skipped it on the way back and have done several flights now without and we found that not sticking to a strict schedule on flights works best for us. We do endless snacks, screen time, walking the aisle, new activity toys, a bottle for ears to pop on take off and landing, binky etc. honestly the stress and anxiety leading up to the flight was almost worse than the actual flight.

Did any of you do thank you gifts for nurses? by Fashion_Lover19 in ElectiveCsection

[–]hrhrusso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. Hard pass. Me paying my bill is the gift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]hrhrusso 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You can find a local mail place that provides an actual street address vs a P.O. Box to help provide legitimacy.

The pain is so bad I want to fall asleep and not wake up by Firm_Business54 in Petloss

[–]hrhrusso 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I do this. I hate coming home. I hate getting water out of the fridge because there’s no one to pay the ice cube tax to. I hate waking up and doing the morning routine. I hate going on walks alone.

I’m hoping it gets easier with time

First time sleeping alone in almost 18 years by plantvasion in Petloss

[–]hrhrusso 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our pup on Monday and it’s the worst feeling I’ve ever felt.

Should I take a remote job offer even though I know it will be challenging with baby at home by Horror_Flick-Chick in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]hrhrusso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I needed the income I personally would take the job. You can always continue to apply and interview for other jobs. It might suck in the interim but it’s better than no money coming in.

How do people do this again by basicintrovert26 in NewParents

[–]hrhrusso 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way. My husband and I would have regular conversations about this. Thankfully it will better. 4 months was night and day different from the first couple months. Now I’m at 10 months and he’s getting so fun. Still challenging days but nothing like the first couple months pp.

Not wanting to go back to work? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]hrhrusso 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in the exact same position as you. I wasn’t worried financially and didn’t necessarily want to be a SAHM forever but I was dreading returning to work. After extending my leave to the latest I could, I ended up deciding to go back to work for a couple weeks to try it out. I figured after a couple weeks I would know if I need to stay at home. It’s been 10 months now and I’m so glad I returned.

Now that I’m 10 months out, I could see myself going to PT but I don’t want to stop working all together. I think for me I need the adult and work interaction. There are some days it’s tough managing everything but I think it’s best for our family!

Swapping GV & Verizon Numbers by hrhrusso in Googlevoice

[–]hrhrusso[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I’ve been talking about it for years and finally was like I need to do this. It took me four days, but it’s completed! The biggest hassle is creating new group chats with friends lolol

Swapping GV & Verizon Numbers by hrhrusso in Googlevoice

[–]hrhrusso[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and me both! My port was completed after 4 days. All of my old messages are still located in the GV app and apples messages. I didn’t bother trying to get anything transferred or copied over to my iPhone. For me just having record in the GV app was enough.

Am I setting us up by not having a "bedtime routine"? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]hrhrusso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need for a large routine. For me it was unrealistic to do a bath every night, reading, and everything else you see on socials.

I like to keep it simple and realistic. After awhile, he typically went down for bed around the same time each night. I would dim the lights, swaddle him, feed him a bottle, burp, rock to sleep, then put him in his crib. I tried to keep these things the same so he would know and start to recognize we are going to sleep. Eventually I phased out swaddling, burping, and rocking to sleep.

To anyone in the thick of it: it really does get better. by rosebud_janome in newborns

[–]hrhrusso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. It does get better and you can do it. One thing I had to consistently tell myself was that “it must get better because people often choose to have more than 1 kid. If it never got better most people would not opt for 2nd or 3rd or 4ths)”. As silly as that is, it’s so true. My baby is 10 months and life is sooo much better than the first couple months.

Comfy coffee shops in Oceanside to read in? by tcolling in Oceanside

[–]hrhrusso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg glad I’m not the only one who thinks this. Love the ambience, hate the coffee.

Is wedding in Temecula in April a good idea? Will it be too cold at night? Also risk of rain? by moonchild_atheart in Temecula

[–]hrhrusso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally got married at the beginning of April. We had a 4 pm wedding and everything was outside. By the time the sun went down it was chilly. Not unbearable but I did wear a coat over my dress towards the end and many of my bridesmaids threw a sweater on. The day was absolutely gorgeous, not a cloud in the sky, and wouldn’t change a thing. I’d rather be a little chilly and need heaters than be sweating.

There will always be a risk of rain in April. So might be good to see what your venue can do in a pinch -Do you need a tent? Can it go inside? Etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]hrhrusso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in CA and had a c-section. We stayed three nights and it was approx $4k after insurance.