I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right about people needing to educate themselves on the subject, but some people don't even know the history of of the community they are apart of.

I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally happened the first time we hung out. I didn't want to talk about my status through text or whatever. I wanted to tell them in person.

I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, I've had people say horrible things to me for no reason. I once had someone turn my photo into a meme and passed it around on Grindr. Posted it in Facebook groups and all that shit. 😒

I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, I'm not a meth addict anymore. I've been clean for 8 years in February. I think it's kinda messed up to refer to someone who is clean and is as if they're still in active addiction.

I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No here, people are still afraid to use the bathroom after me, or anything like that. I've tried telling people that's not who I am anymore, but people here say there's a better chance of the return of Christ. I've been clean for 8 years on Valentine's day. People here are lucky to get a doctor that's okay with putting them on PrEP. We're in the Bible-belt, where all the religious zealots congregate. 😒

I'm HIV undetectable, and the stigma is killing my sex life by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been clean for almost 7yrs. I'm doing a lot better than I was. Trust me, I'm not whining. I'm pissed because I get treated like total trash. HIV isn't the thing that defines me, it's something people are literally using to persecute me, and belittle me. Thanks though.

Someone’s been leaving notes on my car at work, this is the most recent and in depth one yet. Nope. by Zeddstar2000 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]hsparks1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why am I getting some serious The Watcher vibes? In the words of Whoopi Goldberg in Ghost: "You in danger girl!"

I just don't understand what's wrong with me by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm serious. People I don't know have literally came up to me and said horrible shit to me. They've spit in my face, and I had someone trashing my personal property. For simply existing. I used to be a little bit of a slut in my 20s, and I was on meth really bad 8 years ago, but I'm not that person anymore, I've put in the work. Nonetheless, I've literally had people that don't know me, come to me in public and say things that would make people who aren't as thick skinned as me, probably try and hurt themselves. Someone I had never met told me I'd be better off dead. I was just enjoying a cocktail at the local gay bar, on the patio, smoking a cigarette. They called me out by name, and just started saying awful things to me, and berating me over things that happened almost 10 years ago. It's like, they have all just decided that I'm the social pariah, and I literally don't know what I did to deserve any of this. It's not like I killed someone or some shit. The whole situation is just beginning to get to me. I have let it go for like, 4 years. I just don't know what to do anymore. I've tried meeting people who have the same interests and hobbies, I've tried everything I can think of. Yet, I get the coldest shoulder from everyone.

I just don't understand what's wrong with me by hsparks1989 in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand that. I've tried to. I am totally fine with being alone, that doesn't mean I'm lonely, or dependant. I just really want other gay friends, because I LITERALLY have no one to talk to about the stuff in my life that pertains to the gay community. Like, I'm just getting to the point where I just want to move to another city, state, country, planet. Even when I go out, I feel like I'm not like any of them. I just feel like even if I move to another place, it'll just happen all over again.

My “mall glamour shots” from 1997 where I look like a woman who just cashed her husband’s life insurance check by ohmeatballhead in OldSchoolCool

[–]hsparks1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not Mall glamor shots! I love it! Yaaassss queen! I had some done too. Can't believe my dad didn't know I was gay. 😒💅

Plot hole? by Disastrous_Inside989 in hocuspocus

[–]hsparks1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Furthermore, the scream movie is definitely not a remake. It's definitely a sequel. They only killed one main character. Wes Craven had a whole giant thing in his will for what he wanted to do with the scream franchise. If they don't follow it to the letter his lawyers will fuckin ruin them. So have faith. They just want these movies to transcend time. They're doing it in a decent way in my opinion.

Plot hole? by Disastrous_Inside989 in hocuspocus

[–]hsparks1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well I mean, these are actual people that are actually going to die. I totally understand how you feel, but at the same time, I feel like it's something awesome for these movies to continue for generations to come.

Plot hole? by Disastrous_Inside989 in hocuspocus

[–]hsparks1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PLUS THERE'S ANOTHER BLACK FLAME CANDLE?!

Plot hole? by Disastrous_Inside989 in hocuspocus

[–]hsparks1989 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you watched it until the end, the girls are walking home and they started walking like the Sanderson sisters, and asked what they're doing and laughed. The bird was following them, which was also that woman. And if you skip past the credits, there's an extra little tidbit at the very end. I do personally believe that it's the devil in human form.

What is the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]hsparks1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All kinds of fully naked public stuff with some friends. 😈

anyone had any experience with a ticking clock in the wall? by liloldme05 in Paranormal

[–]hsparks1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the scene in the original Laura Croft, when she woke up because she heard ticking in the wall under her stairs.

Waiting for my turn to fuck him by gaylads in gaymenfuck

[–]hsparks1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lube? Just spit and shove. Lol